Older Women’s Sexuality

I’ll admit it. As I age, I spend more time thinking about the sexuality of older women.

Maybe after the passing of their spouse they find themselves for the first time with no outlet for their sexual needs.

These are normal women with a normal sex drive but they find that masturbation is not a completely fulfilling experience.

They miss the interaction with their man and, after some amount of time, they find themselves fantasizing about sexual activities with a partner.

I have found that mature women can be candid and fairly open when talking about their sex lives, what they miss most and what they want to experience again.

As I’ve aged, I quit pursuing 40-something women and have found 50, 60 and even some 70-year-old women can be hungry for a sexual partner again.

Share your experiences, tell your stories!

This is an interesting question @Real_Screamer and to be more accurate, I have never had a time where I did not have an outlet for my sexual needs. I have never been without a way to satisfy my sexual needs because of being able to and enjoying masturbating. I have always loved to masturbate and I still do in addition to my sex life. The masturbation does satisfy my sexual "need" at the time.

But what you might want to ask, or differentiate, is the desire or need for intimacy that comes with sex. Now that is something that is not so easy to satisfy through masturbation alone, although masturbation will go a long way to help dull that ache. I do see that you have specified the loss of a spouse as being a loss of sexual needs and I think you are right about that except that sexual needs are different than need for intimacy. I hope to never lose my husband and that is something I do not want to ever experience. I want to be the one to go first but that is not for me to decide.

As I have aged, I have left behind those mores imposed by religion and society and the "good people" who love to pass judgement on others. Actually I put those behind the moment I posed nude for my husband and even more when we posted them on a web site. The only thing that limited me with continuing was, again, society but only because I did not want my children and relatives to have to deal with my "pornographic" side.

When I was younger and if I am honest with myself, I held back on giving my husband his ultimate release with me because, back then, good girls were not supposed to enjoy sex. It was a duty or a chore or a service but my body with my husband told me that it was just not so and the more I was with him and the older I got, it was all about satisfying both of us. Then when my "porn" days were here and we had family friends help with some of the photographs, I took on another "sex" partner because of the nature of the project we were shooting. At the first our friend "Walt" was there as a "stunt cock" and when the picture taking was done he was on his own to get relief. But it was not long before I saw that neither one of us was totally professional about what we were doing, we quit, or I quit, pretending that it was just a job and when or during the photo shoot was over or happening, I wanted Walt to have his satisfaction between the two of us.

Fast forward 25 or 30 years and I joined zity.biz and I have found that intimacy, not just sex or masturbation, is a driving force for me. My only regret is that I did not start sooner and learn earlier that masturbation and sex and intimacy are separate things all by themselves. But put them together and that is what it is all about.

Fast forward 25 or 30 years and I joined zity.biz and I have found that intimacy, not just sex or masturbation, is a driving force for me. My only regret is that I did not start sooner and learn earlier that masturbation and sex and intimacy are separate things all by themselves. But put them together and that is what it is all about.

Many thanks for this very readable comment !!

Stay as you are and also enjoy your live !! - it will be the one and only that is presented to you !!! - and it will not be endless !!

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We started out with virtually no inhibitions and had a wonderful sex life into my wife's mid-late 40's. Then, for various reasons, we reqressed into a sexless maririage. We both thought sex was something behind us that we couldn't recover. This went on for for more than 15 years before some friends here on Zity got us commuciating - and adapting - to a new sexual awareness. It's nowhere near involves the wild orgies we had when we started out; but it's more exciting rediscovering, experimenting, and most of all RECONNECTING! Now in our 60's and 70's my wife is as much - if not more - desirable as she was back in our 20's and 30's. I find this mid 60 year old lady extremely desirable! I compare her to other women in our age bracket - and there isn't a comparison. She wins my desire over any of the other older women, although there are a few older women here who I'll never meet that I consider pretty hot!!

I feel that I'm fortunate in that for my entire life I've been attracted to older women, e.g. women older than myself. Most of them, by the time they've achieved maturity have lost all the silly hang-ups of the younger set, discovered what they like and want, and are some of the most open-minded and wild sex partners a man could want. A lot of them are into enemas, anal sex, pegging, fisting and all the other good things in life. The first gal who ever pegged and fisted me was 45 to my 27. And she'd come from anal sex. Magnificent lady.

The most recent gal who pegged and fisted me was 25 to my 49. Don't write any age group off, guys. There's great potential in all of 'em. All we gotta do is live up to it.

At first, Senior Center female regulars expect older men who frequent 'their' space to be letchers. I am, but many of the gals who hang out there are as well. However, they are well disciplined and act as though ice cream wouldn't melt in their mouths. Slouching around in a comfy chair near the coffee bar will get you nowhere.

But, having a laptop, typing up a story, doing research and taking notes is very often seen as you're lonely and simply need to work with other people around. Let them approach you and look for clues. (Need I elaborate?) Are they interested in anything other than being polite. You know which signs are real for what you like. it is all intuative. Trust takes a long time, but once over the threshhold the hints come faster. Mirror her advances: this is all just common sense.

The lady will watch your eyes as she passes you by on her way to the restroom, just a flick will do, no staring fer gawd's sake! If it is ment to happen it will. After some antiquing and a couple of dinner dates she allowed herself to come into my residence. And there we gently became intimate. I will always treasure the first glimpse of her panty crotch - fleeting, but showing me that she was there for the touching. The next evening at the movies, on a double date, she whispered close in my ear "I have to go to the bathroom, do you want to come?" "Yes!" And that night it began.

Until she moved in with her daughter, we spent time together every day. She dedicated a spare room to our excesses. Her daughter and husband wern't that thrilled with me however, and the passions by necesssity cooled. That is only an inkling of what lies behind the blue hair and Gary Larson style eyeglasses. One needn't be lonely ...

Honestly, if something were to happen to my husband I probably would give up sex. I’m sure a few of you are scoffing and sure, maybe it’s silly but I can’t conceive of a life without him. I’d probably move in with the grandkids and be old full time.

@Nurse_Phillips Life is for the living. Losing your deeply loved spouse would be terrible, awful, and one of the most horrible things that could happen BUT there is still life in you and the things that have stirred you this far will awaken. Desire lives on.

Allow me to throw a bit of a curveball into this discussion as I am watching this play out in my life.

In the case of my in-laws, my mother in law is in poor health and I am left with the feeling they have not had sex in several years. Should something happen to her, my father in law will have some little 20 something in his Mercedes in 2 weeks if he does not already.

My parents have been together so long they finish each other’s sentences. Should mom go first, I have to wonder if dad will follow her shortly. Mom, can pass for 60 and she may do very well but one never knows. Mom or dad has a home here.

As for my husband and I, if I go first I have no doubt women will be lined up waiting their turn for him and I would only say have fun. As for me, it would be very hard to find another man who has loved me and treated me so well as he has. They just do not come along like that anymore. To be very honest, if I got into another relationship, if the right man was not there, then I would settle for another woman.

There is still of a bit of wild side in me but the world has changed, and gotten far more dangerous, than it was 30 years ago. It would be fun to work some little 20 year old buck’s ass over with a good strap on but then one would have to wonder if he would blackmail you or kill you after it was over.

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@Tillie when I read one of your posts, I don’t know if l’m coming or going but my devious mind is here to solve your problem and offer you a mind blowing option.

Don’t picture yourself settling for one of the other - male or female - when you could have both!

You can thank me later. 😉

@Tillie exactly. You’ve summed up how I feel as well. I don’t ever anticipate meeting another man who could make me feel like my husband does.

Now should I go first I’d expect him to find someone and he would have my blessing. Men need us more than we need them.