Help me choose a punishment

Hi everyone, today my girlfriend went out with her friends and I went out mine. I had a few drinks and then a guy called me and said that they kidnapped my gf and I had to go and pay to save her. I got really scared and went there as quickly as possible only to find out that it was a prank. My gf was laughing and I’ve never been this angry in my whole life. We just arrived home and she immediately started to apologise. I was thinking that I should choose a punishment that could really teach her a lesson, but I don’t want to punish her now because I’m really angry. So for tomorrow, can you please tell me what punishment would suit what she did?

Often when people are kidnapped, they are tied up and abused to some degree. She ought to be tied up and punished instead of abused. I thorough soapy enema with a spanking, paddling, and caning should be a good start.

First of all, you have to to ask yourself, not others; if she is provoking you into a roleplay scenario!

Or is she just pulling your plonker?

First of all, you have to to ask yourself, not others; if she is provoking you into a roleplay scenario!

Or is she just pulling your plonker?

So basically she told me that they were bored and decided to prank people on the phone and one of her friends had the idea of this prank. She said she knew it was wrong to go this far, and that’s why I am so mad because they could have stoped after a few minutes but they made me come there and borrow money to give them, since I thought she was in trouble and I got really really scared.

Often when people are kidnapped, they are tied up and abused to some degree. She ought to be tied up and punished instead of abused. I thorough soapy enema with a spanking, paddling, and caning should be a good start.

I don’t really own any implements. I only used the belt on her until now. But what do you think? What implement hurts more than a belt and where could I find it?

You should have called the police and told them where to go.

I did a little research on your posts and see she is naked on the bed and you using a belt as you have no other tools. You have several options here but the first is to consider is why is she doing what she is doing. Is this attention seeking behavior? You need to sit down and between the two of you figure out what is going on. As far as tools, have you considered something easy to get like a ping pong paddle, a good solid hairbrush, bath brush, etc. As part of the punishment once you discuss what is going on, have her naked, hands/arms folded in the small of her back and holding a dime with her nose to a mirror which she must keep there with only her nose for a specified period of time. If the dime falls, then for example the punishment be increased. If you are going to use a paddle or something else, have her bend over a chair, the back of a couch or sofa, or sit in a chair without arm rests that is a straight back chair and her over your lap. If you are right handed, then with your left hand, hold her right wrist to keep her from getting away and your right leg over her right leg will give you better control while spanking her.

In this case the OP were correct in choosing not to involve the police. They would have taken a dismal view of the prank and all of the friends and gf involved could have gotten into serious trouble.

Perhaps the OP had an inkling or suspicion there was something going on other than a real kidnapping. I am betting the OP wasn't a member of the Getty family or known for being immensely rich and affluent.

That said, it was malicious and the OP is entitled to some form of compensation.

There is definitely not a case for a police. While "good cops" will be distracted from real crimes by this. A "bad cops" will see here solution for a dozen of unsolved crimes. The both are bad for you.

Although, if my near and dear done something comparable, i'll be more mad that the devil itself. It is not a subject for jokes at all.

But if a girl's mind found thoughts of kidnapping in itself, maybe she would better try it on herself?

OK. OK... The following is pure fantasy. I don't know you, your gf and yours relationship. So think of it just as a thought experiment.

First. Make her wait. It should not be today or tomorrow. The anticipation and uncertainty makes every punishment 100x better.

Second. You mentioned that you don't have much implements/devices. Great! Make this on her budget.

Third. On the Time she should have some deals that she care about. Not critical, but unpleasant to miss.

4. You should be emotionally cold during this session. Don't talk to her at all or say only monosyllabic phrases.

5. Vision deprivation. Not a blindfold or a sleep mask. The blacked-out swimming goggles is the way to go. It is hard to undone and uncomfortable for a long time. Yet relatively safe.

6. Palms restraints. Ability to move fingers is a way to escape. Close it at the beginning. Wrap hands by something like vetwrap (self-adhesive tape).

7. Body restraints. Rope is great. But not for more than hour or two. The body should be able to move, but in a restricted way. The best for it is steel cuffs and chains, additionally attached to a wall. The additional effect - you will listen when she moves. The cage is also great but expensive.

8. Clothes. There are two options. No clothes at all. Or something simple and soft.

9. Drinking. It is very inhumane to forbid person to drink. So she should have this ability in most humiliating way. The hanged bottle with a calf pacifier.

10. Toilet. There is no such thing as right to use toilet in any time. Catheter all the time and enema twice a day.

11. Gag. For a long time it is a bad idea. But in case of complaints and moans there should be one.

12. Temperature. It should be cold. Not freezing cold, but uncomfortable cold. It is about 15C (60F).

13. Feeding. The most severe way is feeding troughs a tube. But it needs some experience to perform. So the dental gag is also a way to go. It is very uncomfortable an inconvenient to swallow with it. So use small spoons of soft food without any powder.

14. Cold shower is a best way to deal with complaints.

15. Distraction. This is more of a torture than kidnapping. The person should not have ability to concentrate or relax. The best way is to make her solve simple tasks in her mind. Like arithmetic. No answer for 20 seconds or wrong answer - electric shock via butt plug and/or loud unpleasant sound. Todays technologies allows to automate this via simple scripts.

There how kidnapped person should be cared to not to escape. Not that cinema bull**it.

Heh... Even reading all of this will be enough punishment for some persons...

Here the another idea from my near and dear. She is even more devilish than me. At least, from the psychology perspective this is even more severe than my version. In my opinion this is more of an abuse than punishment. But i'll write it here so you can show it to her, at least as an opinion of some people that put themselves to your place and imagine all that shock and stress that you suffered.

The idea is simple.

Take all of involved friends as an viewers. And make her punish herself in front of them.

At first she should describe what happened, what she did, what she thought of it then and what she thinking of it now.

Then - describe all of she will do now to herself as a punishment.

The punishment itself can be different. We are into enemas and so are our proposition.

She should fully undress, put clamps on her nipples, hang enema bag with relatively cold and soapy solution in front of her and insert the nozzle.

Than - put down on her knees, open the clamp, and put her hands behind her head until the enema is not done.

Than she should start 5 or 10 minutes countdown on phone or another device, and return hands to the position. And only after that time she allowed to undone the clamps and go to the bathroom to release the enema.

It is much easier to take enema with retention nozzle. And with a standard smaller one it much hard to hold.

The more light (and not such psychologically abusive) variant - perform that only in front of you.

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On the other hand. It can be much more beneficial not that severe SM punishment, but something more fluffy.

Like make her yours cozy squeezing pillow for a week with a cute fluffy clothes, blindfold and earplugs. And maybe a couple of vibrating eggs with remote control 😉

Going along with the kidnapping theme, at some point there is usual some degree of involuntary confinement - locked in car trunk, makeshift cell, etc.

I propose giving her a good dose of Castor oil, cuffing her hands behind her, and then locking her in a closet until the oil starts to kick-in, and she asks to be let out. The pleas to be released will get more frantic. You may continue the confinement until she messes her pants. To add extra humiliation, make her clean everything up afterwards.

Thank you all for your replies, I will tell you what I did to punish her today.

As I never restrained her in anyway before during a punishment, I decided to tie her up this time and of course, she complained but I told her “you thought being kidnapped was funny, didn’t you?”

I then locked her in our balcony for 15 minutes and she was crying and screaming because it was really cold outside.

I then gave her a regular spanking and an enema.

If you have any questions feel free to ask

me!!

Kidnapping is not fun and can be dangerous. Also putting them in a trunk with an enema. I enjoy bdsm but must be reasonable. This is way ove top

I then locked her in our balcony for 15 minutes and she was crying and screaming because it was really cold outside.

@qwerty29 I question your concern for her when locking her outside for 15 minutes in the cold. BDSM must have that trust that you will not harm your partner when doing kink. Actual cold can be harmful. If she was cold and screaming because of being cold, that was not a punishment. It was abuse.

@qwerty29 I question your concern for her when locking her outside for 15 minutes in the cold. BDSM must have that trust that you will not harm your partner when doing kink. Actual cold can be harmful. If she was cold and screaming because of being cold, that was not a punishment. It was abuse.

Yes, for sure !! - such treatment cannot be part of any " special game " !! - it is only contemtible !!!