Sexually aroused by spankings received, seen and heard!

There was a thread that asked the interesting question about whether adults in the past often had a sexual motivation for spanking kids. The conclusion reached by many of the members who responded to this topic was, I seem to recall, that many of them did! I know in my own experience this was certainly the case! The other side of the coin is, of course, how common it was for kids, especially teenagers, to find spankings sexually arousing!? Even if the spanking itself was not, while one/you were receiving it, sexually arousing (since it would almost certainly hurt like hell); than the aftermath of the spanking, once the burning heat and throbbing pain had died down to be replaced by a much more bearable, warm, prickly heat, how many members experienced sexual and erotic feelings that were actually quite pleasant and even enjoyable!? Of course when seeing and even just hearing a spanking in progress - when it was not your butt in the firing line - afforded you the chance to enjoy, or at least experience sexual arousal from the outset! I, for one, definitely found spanking sexually arousing! Regarding my own spankings, once the hot burning sensation had subsided to a more bearable, warm and prickly heat, I certainly experienced sexual and erotic thrills; often masturbating also! With regard to the spankings I saw and heard I also was sexually aroused and would often go to a quiet place and masturbate; reliving in my head the whole experience! These events, along with my peeks at my friend Kevin's, Dad's Playboy collection, were the staple of my first sexual awakenings! No wonder I always associate those vintage Playboy centerfolds with spanking! As well as, of course, admiring and appreciating these beauties in their own right!

I feel absolutely no guilt or shame about these feelings and sensations I experienced! Not even that I masturbated! For a start, these sexual feelings were to some extent involuntary and pysiological! They were not something I purposely willed and looked for! Sure by masturbating and staying to listen and watch (though on occasions I had no choice in the matter) one of my contemporaries get their behinds blistered, I obviously stimulated, intensified and encouraged them (sexual/erotic feelings); but the actual sexual arousal had a more primordial and subconscious origin to begin with! Also, the whole nature and ritual of 'old-fashioned, bare bottom spanking' is, if not inherently sexual and erotic, than is certainly something that can never completely be devoid of some sexual and erotic nature! The buttocks after all are an erogenous zone! In my opinion, anyway! If anyone begs to differ on this viewpoint, feel free to voice your veiws and opinions! In this respect I feel even more absolved and exonerated with regard to both the sexual and erotic feelings I experienced; along with my subsequent masturbatory activities! Growing up in such an environment how could anybody be otherwise!

These are of course personal opinions; by there very nature subjective! I would be interested in hearing other members opinions on this topic! Perhaps embellishing their thoughts and opinions with personal experiences and memories of their own!

I can totally agree and relate. I grew up in the spanking era in a small town in Canada. My last spanking I was 15 going on 16. My girlfriend (now my wife) found out from my sister and gave me a blowjob the next day. She realized my interest and gladly shared the spankings her and her sister got.

They were spanked by both parents over the knee bare bottom - Dad used his and and their mother the Hairbrush. I was at her house twice when her sister got a very sound spanking on three occasions. These spankings got me very aroused and she knew it!!

I had two sisters and we were all spanked as well into our teens. We saw each other many times. One time me and my older sister were spanked together at a Holiday Inn in Niagra Falls one after another we went over our fathers knee. Before that last spanking I would also masturbate. All spankings were bare bum over the knee.

One other point I would make also is this! Spankings were OBVIOUSLY things to be greatly feared and dreaded; when you were the one getting them, anyway! I cannot help but think that when I was lying curled up on my bed after a spanking or whupping; when my bottom had 'cooled' a little, though was still warm, even hot, to the touch and tingling - a not altogether unpleasant sensation - that along with the sexual and erotic thrills I was experiencing; there was some pyschological comfort to be had from these physical sensations! A sort of compensation from an otherwise painful and frightening experience! Knowing that another spanking or whupping was likely not that far off - in those days; the '60s and '70s, certainly in my experience anyway, SPANKINGS WERE A FACT OF LIFE; you would have to have been a 'paragon of virtue to avoid them - at least you find some concilation in, amongst all the dread, fear and pain that inescapably accompanied spankings, something actually quite pleasant! Making the best of a bad situation; and knowing that these 'bad situations' would inevitably occur again in the near future; this was at least a way of ameliorating the pain, fear and misery! Something actually quite pleasant, from something that was otherwise very unpleasant!

YES ! YES! AND YES!! I do find spanking sexually arousing ever since a little girl even though when little I had no idea what the feelings meant and what they were about. I was spanked by only my mother and yes it hurt, but it was done in a loving way of correction and I was given hugs and kisses afterwards telling me that I was a good girl and that I would do better in the future. Afterwards, the offense was not brought up again.

When I heard and/or saw my sister getting spanked, she literally howled and protested all to no avail. I had no idea at a young age as to the feelings I was having, but it obviously triggered something inside of me and excited me more the harder my sister was spanked and the louder she howled. My poor teddy beat was over my knee any number of times for a good and proper spanking probably up until the age of 8 or 9. lol So I guess I like to receive as well as giving a spanking.

Starting at the teenage years, I would masturbate after a spanking if I was assured that I had the privacy to do so.

The same question might be asked regarding enemas. My reply again would be YES ! YES! AND YES!! But that is a whole other topic.

Denise

Hi Sirom,

Your excellent post - a really enjoyable read as well - perfectly illustrates how closely punishment spankings are, or at least can easily be, intertwined with and even inseprable from sexual and erotic feelings and sensations! Your girlfriend, herself, obviously turned on by spanking - the fact that she gave you a blowjob after your last spanking and I assume indulged in spanking activities with you as an adult - had sexual and erotic feelings as you yourself did! That must have been an added bonus for your relationship! Like me, the spankings you received, saw and heard were a enormous part of my and presumably your sexual awakening! For me they contributed as much to my sexual development as did the editions of Playboy Magazine I use to take sneaky peeks at! And like you, spanking provided me with a virtually inexhaustable source of stimulating 'material' - for want of a better word - to masturbate to! Looking back now, it would be no exaggeration to say, I believe, that on a ordinary societal level, Society, in those days, was a spanking enthusiasts paradise! Certainly for adults who had, within given parameters, a virtual free hand to spank as they so desired! And also for many kids, teenagers and young adults, who, whilst having good reason to fear and dread spankings and whuppings - when their butts were in the firing line - could, nevertheless, enjoy them when it was one of their contemporaries getting their butts roasted! We have the Internet and before that we had a greater abundance of spanking magazines, books and other materials to satisfy our desires and needs; for sure; along of course with the option of concensual adult spanking; but back in those days, the '50s, '60s and '70s when spanking was far more deeply ingrained, endorsed and widely practiced in Society itself, people like us, and past generations in general, had a much greater abundance of events, experiences and material (again for want of a better word) to satisfy our erotic and sexual desires and feelings; than their social counterparts do today!

Hi Denise, your trajectory regarding your feelings about spankings - when growing up - and your UNDERSTANDING of those feelings are, I suspect ,very similar to mine; and probably very much like those of nearly all spankos! Like you, I was excited by anything related to spanking from when I was very young - in fact for as long as I can remember - but in those early days I could not understand why! Also like you it was around the teenage years that the excitement connected to spanking became more explicitly sexual and I began to masturbate! I suppose then I could, with the excitement about spankings taking on a more erotic and sexual dimension, understand a little better those excited feelings and sensations I was experiencing! Though I'm not sure anybody ever really understands why they are and/or become a spanko!

My feelings when seeing or hearing some other kid get a spanking were nearly always ambivalent! Yes I found it exciting and sexually arousing; but I often felt sorry for them, as well, since I obviously knew, from bitter experience, JUST HOW MUCH SPANKINGS HURT!!!! And like you spanking became for me, along with my secret looks at my friend Kevin's Dad's Playboy mags, the thing that I mainly masturbated over!

When young, I was not sexually aroused by spankings I saw or heard; instead, I found them shocking and mesmerizing for want of better words. What I saw and overheard produced feelings of helplessness, guilt, and fear I might be next affected my libido, setting the stage for my interest in later years to emerge.

I to experienced the full gamut of emotions when seeing or hearing a spanking, reddevil! My feelings and emotions were always ambivalent ones; excitement; sexual arousal, on the one hand; empathy; pity; sympathy and guilt (about the excitement I felt); on the other! And like you I often found myself mesmerized whilst watching or listening to the proceedings, anyway!

The other concern I also had, and this is something you mentioned yourself, was the fear that I might be next in line for a spanking; even if l had not already been sentenced to one, myself! Back when I was growing up, in the '60s and '70s, it was incredibly easy to earn yourself a spanking! Correspondingly, it was very hard, for any significant length of time to avoid getting one! Sometimes when another kid was getting their butt blistered, for some reason, a parent, aunt, uncle or some other adult with power and authority over you, would decide that you to could use a good spanking! This may be for a variety of reasons: you may be (visibly) enjoying seeing or hearing the spanking too much by having a smirk on your face; or chuckling to yourself; making an unwise comment; etc.... you might even be showing a little to much fascination with the whole spectacle! Also the spanking being seen or heard might remind you Mom, Dad, Aunt; etc.... of some misdemeanor you had committed earlier; however minor that might be! That was always a fear you had if some adult with any kind of authority of you was present when one of your peers was getting spanked! I myself had personal experience of this a few times! Indeed, a good spanking seemed to be something never that far away when I was growing up!

I think it blossomed into an erotic event in later years. As a very young boy I was fascinated by spankings, enough to feel like my interest was not normal. And I’m talking in kindergarten years. Back then spanking was definitely a part of life. I don’t really remember a lot of specific spankings but do know I got them. They were generic bare hand to bare bottom, over my dad’s knee. They hurt and were definitely something I avoided. I remember very vividly, though, a conversation with an older boy and my babysitter about how our dads spanked us. The older boy got the belt, like most of my friends. My babysitter got it like I did, bare hand to bare butt. I was intrigued to say the least. I became quite obsessed with trying to see one of these events take place to no avail. I also was fascinated by the topic in general and perked up any time they were mentioned; but I was always afraid I would appear TOO interested. I looked up “spanking” in every dictionary I found.

Later in life spankings became a much less frequent event. It was very rare to get one although it was an ever present threat. One time after a teenage spanking I was checking the damage in the mirror and started to rub my swollen buns and got a very intense erection which of course led to an intense masturbation session. I felt very freakish about it afterwards, though, like something was definitely wrong with me. I started fantasizing spanking almost as much as girls.

To be clear, though, an actual spanking was NOT at all erotic to me. I hated the whole event. Being told to pull my pants down as a teenage boy was the height of indignity. And I was certain the sounds of slaps and howls echoing off the walls was overheard by my entire block. The sting of my stepdad’s hand was always a shock to the system, and very embarrassing. But.. as you mentioned, the sting eventually faded into a nice warmth that felt almost calming. As a small child I would usually fall asleep or just be very quiet for a while. But as a teen it felt quite erotic.

When young, I was not sexually aroused by spankings I saw or heard; but I found them very exciting to encounter for reasons that now escapes me. As exciting as I found them; I never wanted to stick around and watch the entire spanking take place - I feared I somehow might be next!

Hi oldskoolotk,

I think most spankos at some time or other questioned the 'normality' of their fascination with, and interest in, spanking! Though when I was growing up, and in the community in which I lived, - which I assume was not that fundamentally different from most other communities in those days; '60s and '70s - spanking was such a well established practice; and so widely accepted and talked about by nearly everyone; that that having a fascination with it was a lot easier than it would be in later years when it no longer had such widespread societal approval; and subsequently was not so widely practiced! I also think that from the late '80s onwards people began to, with some justification to be fair, recognise the sexual motivation behind some 'purely punishment spankings'! This made openly talking about spanking, especially in a graphic way, potentially more awkward than it was in my youth! In more recent times, there is always the fear that other people might think you strange and peculiar; regarding you with suspicion; should you show to much interest in spanking!

I was obviously very lucky in that I got to see and hear so many spankings when growing up! It was impossible not to! What era did you grow up in, oldskoolotk?

Like you I never enjoyed the spankings and whuppings when I was actually getting them! SINCE OBVIOUSLY THEY HURT SO SO SO BAD!!!! The first few times I started experiencing sexual feelings and sensations felt very strange; but I soon got use to this and actually enjoyed them! They compensated, to some extent, for the pain, fear and humiliation that always accompanied the actual spanking itself!

We to lived in an apartment block. And our spankings were definitely, more often than not, heard by the other residents! As were the other kid's spankings heard by us! So at least that provided some compensation for your own embarrassment when it was your butt getting blistered!

Hi oldskoolotk,

I was obviously very lucky in that I got to see and hear so many spankings when growing up! It was impossible not to! What era did you grow up in, oldskoolotk?

I grew up in the 70s and 80s, just as spanking was starting to become less popular. In early school years, it was very much as you said, very universally accepted and talked about. I saw a couple of spankings take place publicly, and heard spankings through open windows.

Our school didn’t spank for punishment, however teachers still held on to the practice of birthday spankings. These were given over pants at least, but right in front of the class. This was always questionable to me growing up. Why was a practice that was used to punish given as if it was a fun thing? I also got birthday spanked at my birthday parties. It was very normal, as much as cake and ice cream. Other kids got them too. Always kind of a weird duality and I think that might have been part of my fascination as a child. I’m a hyper analytical person.

Another event I remember was one time my dad bent me over, briefly yanked my pants down in the back and gave me one single swat saying “that’s for lying to me.” I quite foolishly said “that didn’t hurt” to which he responded “it wasn’t meant to.” That seriously confused me… enough that I remember it to this day. I guess it was an effective lesson!

Let me add my 100% YES on this topic as well. I was only spanked once and, like the rest of you, did not find the experience itself erotic. I also found the memory traumatic and in fact tried to suppress it - to no avail. I was thrilled by any spanking-related experiences, such as hearing a neighbor kid spanked, or of course any spankings in books, comics, movies or TV shows. It was definitely erotic and sexual for me and it fueled powerful masturbatory fantasies for me as far back as age 5 or 6.

Indeed, it was very much a fact of life. Most kids of my generation got spanked at least once. It was part of growing up.

As I got older and the fantasies continued, I began to think I must be very screwed up, but I couldn't stop myself and the fact was I really enjoyed the fantasizing and jerking off. In the early days I mostly fantasized about myself being spanked, but as I got older the spankees became fictional characters, but always youngsters. This scared me a lot, because I feared I might be, y'know - a pedo. But as I got into my 20's, it began to become clear to me that these fictional kids were actually me. It was the spanking (and all its attendant rituals and features) that excited me, not the protagonist.

With that revelation, I began to become comfortable with my kink. Getting on the internet in my 30's, I discovered that there were many, many people in the same boat as me, and I came to embrace my kink and my fantasies. It's given me hours of pleasure, has harmed no one, is completely private except what I choose to share with fellow spankos. I have embraced it.

When young, I was not sexually aroused by spankings I saw or heard; but I found them very exciting to encounter for reasons that now escapes me. As exciting as I found them; I never wanted to stick around and watch the entire spanking take place - I feared I somehow might be next!

Yes that was always a worry that some adult might decide, for some reason, that you yourself could use a good spanking as well!

I usually masturbated after spankings to take advantage of that warm tingling feeling that adds to the intensity of my orgasm!

I started doing that when I was 13.

I usually masturbated after spankings to take advantage of that warm tingling feeling that adds to the intensity of my orgasm!

Me to, codjer! Primarily for two reasons! First, as you yourself say, "to take advantage of that warm tingling feeling that adds to the intensity of my (the) orgasm!" A phsiological feeling that was intensely stimulating and intensified my sexual arousal! Second, on a more psychological and emotional level it provided some comfort and compensation for the painful, humiliating and frightening experience that I had just undergone! Deriving something that was actually pleasant from something that had been very unpleasant!

I'm still ashamed of having masturbated while hearing my sister getting spanked next door… (she fussed a lot)

I'm still ashamed of having masturbated while hearing my sister getting spanked next door… (she fussed a lot)

Obviously how feel you about masturbating whist you heard your sister getting spanked, is something personal to you! I would say, however, don't be too hard on yourself about it! I frequently masturbated when hearing my siblings and cousins getting spanked! And also did after having seen spankings being administered; though obviously, in these cases, after the spanking had actually taken place; and I was alone somewhere, well out of sight! I think so many kids would have done the same, in those days! Spanking played such a big part in youngsters lives back then; and was so intertwined with feelings and sensations of sexual arousal, that this is hardly surprising! My advice is go easy on yourself!

I'm still ashamed of having masturbated while hearing my sister getting spanked next door… (she fussed a lot)

@Pecan_nutjob, don't beat yourself up too badly. Hearing, seeing, a spanking is an intense experience. Intense experiences are exciting, both good and bad exciting, and stressful. Exciting and stressful lead to a need to release the stress and what better way than masturbation!

Also, I expect your sister also needed a release when she heard you getting spanked next door.

Tom

I was spanked as a child and I didn't like it very much. I remember the fear I felt when my mother said I was going to get spanked. At the same time, there was always something exciting about spanking for me. Ever since I was a kid, I've dreamed of spanking another person. I also enjoyed hearing stories about the spankings others had received.

Even though I didn't like spanking from about 11 years old, I started responding to it with an erection. Sometimes she would appear during the spanking, and sometimes I had an erection in preparation for the spanking. I usually masturbated after a spanking when I was left alone.

My childhood dream was to see someone else get spanked. This dream never came true. It was a very selfish dream. I myself would never want anyone to see me get spanked.

There was a time that a family with a daughter lived next to me. This girl was 2 years older than me. Sometimes I could hear her screams through the wall. I was pretty sure those shouts meant she was getting a spanking. She lived there for 5 years then they moved out. I never talked to her about it (we only knew each other by sight). Hearing her screams, however, was quite exciting for me. I imagined her getting spanked.

I've often thought it works the other way around - she hears my screams. I was ashamed of it. Fortunately neither she nor her parents ever commented on it. Both she and I were spanked quite regularly during this period. When she moved out, I was 14 and she was 16. I often wondered if she was still getting spanked. I was spanked until I was 15.

Did Mommy ever know that at the time she was spanking you, you were being sexually excited ? Were there signs of your excitement she picked up on ? @Denise