Will kinky fantasies disappear when erections are lost?

I am almost 58 and fortunately my erections are still strong, but I know that this might in a not too far future change and I wonder if in that case also my kinky fantasies (about suppositories and enemas, but this could apply to any fantasy) will disappear.

This would be very sad, of course, and triggered me to seek information from the experience of other members here.

What can you share on this subject?

Don’t worry!

@enemaRoma

I am almost 58 and fortunately, my erections are still strong, but I know that this might in a not-too-far future change and I wonder if in that case also my kinky fantasies (about suppositories and enemas, but this could apply to any fantasy) will disappear.

My husband is approaching eighty and if anything he has gotten kinkier with age. We use both spanking, enemas, suppositories, rectal thermometers, etc, as foreplay. Both have helped him rise to the moment. Of course, he uses some pharmaceuticals too. There is a penile suppository that produces erections that works very well. Usually, all I have to do is enter the room dressed as a nurse carrying a rectal thermometer and he is ready to play.

In another thread, two women mentioned two phrases that I am dying to try out -- "It's time to clean out your pipes! and "Romancing the bag."

Ddell2 ,, carry in a full bag and say , i have your doggy bag , now get on all 4's ,,, good boy

It is probably a bit of mental over physical. If you want and enjoy the kiny, you may not lose those kinky fantasies. The old saying, use or lose it, applies.

My sub is as kinky as ever, but the equipment may not always show that. Not because of his lack of interest, but medicine side affects. If I get him warmed up he will "perform" pretty well.

Ddell2 ,, carry in a full bag and say , i have your doggy bag , now get on all 4's ,,, good boy

@Annie2 I also love the following: "Enema time comes as enema time must!" or "Are you going to cooperate or should I get the hairbrush?"

It is almost ironic: for long my kinks made me think that there was something really wrong with me, but after such a long journey with myself I have not just learned to accept myself, but more than that I learned the beauty of what makes myself sort of unique, and now losing that uniqueness looks more worrisome than “being wrong”, if this makes any sense!

When I was 69 yo in 2019, everything was working as advertised. Then the spinal injury paralyzed my legs and knocked out some other connections to my lower body. I was on a Foley for a year and a half, and had to learn to walk again. Unfortunately, full erections were lost and show no sign of returning as yet.

However, all sexual feeling is not lost and I can achieve orgasm through masturbation or urethral play. It's just as intense, but only about 1/2 or less of an erection. The desire for the kinks, such as enemas and anal play have not lessened in the least. In fact, they're even stronger than before. Sympathetic compensation maybe. I don't know.

Not much chance to indulge here in the assisted living facility, but as I get stronger and more mobile, the chances will improve. Never give up hope, folks. Don't let age or injury get you down.

No, actually thinking about kinky fantasies causes me to get hard, especially enema fantasies!

I have ED from prostate cancer and radiation. Am 79 YO and absolutely still love something in my ass and masterbate to orgasm. So the age thing hasn't slowed me down yet. Don't worry about it. Age is just part of the journey.

Thank you all for your advice/feedback!

This community is so precious, there’s no other place on Earth where I would have shared these thoughts/concerns of mine, not even with a doctor!

Age is just a frame of mind, think old, be old!!

I'm 66 and as horney as hell 😈

Fantasies are in the mind. They are not in the penis. They needn't even need to manifest themselves through an erection for a fantasy to be intensely felt and enjoyed.

There are people who can masturbate to ejaculation without an erection. I used to do so when I was young for some reason I can't recall anymore. And I have read enough accounts of this being the case with a significant number of men. Sexual pleasure can be felt in the anal region or even as a tingling inside the body, even for men.

So don't worry about this. Worry will cause more lost pleasure of the mind and/or body than anything else. As long as you have, cherish and exercise your mind in having and creating sexual fantasies, you need't worry about erections.

There are many other ways to enjoy sexual feelings than through an erection.