Asking your partner about their physicals

Have any of you tried to ask your partners about their old physical exams?

Specially the pediatric ones.

Did they share how they went? How did they react to the question?

My wife is very vanilla sexually, and not into medfet at all. However, if an opportunity arises in a conversation, I take it. I ask one simple question and see how she answers. Sometimes I'm able to steer the conversation and keep the questions and answers flowing a bit, sometimes her answer resolves absolutely any attempt to keep it going further. You win some, you loose some. She has never reacted negatively or been suspicious of me for an ulterior motive. I ask somewhat appropriate questions at appropriate times. I don't wait until we're in the middle of filing our taxes and suddenly ask her to tell me about the first time a doctor inserted a finger in her vagina.

When my wife at the time went into hospital fora hystericomy,i said to the doctor who was by my wife's side, that if they have to shave her down below,

would it be possible for them to re bush her before she comes home, i have never seen my wife so embarrased, she never mentioned physicals to

me again

I have asked my wife about her annual physicals. And she has answered some of my questions. But she has never been overly explicit in detail, This is a subject that makes her uncomfortable and up tight. She knows I like to hear about her exams. But she has no interest in it. I don't push her for details, best just to be left alone.

Whenever my ex had a physical, I would ask detailed questions about how her breasts were examined. She would tell me they would pinch her nipples.

then before my current wife came over to this country, she told me they checked her asshole, and she seemed really confused why they felt it necessary to do that at the time.

A lot of my partners were not really interested in medfet, I had two girlfriends who I went to playdocs with but my first wife got into it a bit after some prodding from me. When my first wife, who was a graduate student, went to Peru for a 3 month study she got a complete physical which is the only one I observed. She agreed to this because at the time the only insurance we had was from the university, so we wound up using the university medical service. My wife had a physical with her and did not like it because she made he undress to her bra and panties with no gown. To avoid a repeat she had me accompany her. It did not disappoint. We went in and the PA instructed my wife to remove all her clothing, including bra and panties, and change into a gown that tied in the front. The doctor came in and weighed her and told her that she had gained 7 pounds since last year. She then did some quick measurements, through her gown, and told her that most of the weight gain had come in her buttocks. She was almost 160 and she said that now she was considered overweight. She was not thrilled, the doctor continued by giving her a breast exam and pap smear, exposing the body as needed. She then had to have some innoculations and the doctor could not find a good vein. She then asked my wife to untie her gown, after she did this the doctor lifted the gown, exposing her buttocks, "What are you doing " my wife exclaimed. The doctor, with a smile , said "giving you an injection in your fleshy parts, an advantage to having wide hips". This comment also did not go well with my wife. After my wife was told she could dress she put on her outer clothing as quickly as possible, not bothering with her bra and panties or socks and we left. She then complained about the doctor and insisted the weight must be wrong.

Never have, but then never felt I've been with that Right person. But not sure I would have done so as a younger adult. Too much anxiety and drama in my own head to have dared. When I do get into a serious relationship one day, I will. I'm a lot more confident to explore such things now. I've been wondering about other people's exam room experiences since I was a preteen tbh.

Never have, but then never felt I've been with that Right person. When I do get into a serious relationship one day, I will. I'm a lot more confident to explore such things now. I've been wondering about other people's exam room experiences since I was a preteen tbh.

I've never been able to converse with anyone I know in real life about any medical stuff such as interests us here. Even though I've hinted enough times, I have just given up. I fear it is still thought too weird for the vanilla folks ... they are more into cheating and philandering and talking about inadequacies or being refused sex by a spouse. That is the kind of stuff I hear about, though without really wanting to. Depressing actually as it is mainly about failings in relationships, not about having sexual fun.

I think the best place for medical related sex conversations is still on Zity itself.

My questions on exam day come after we are in bed during foreplay. My wife fully understands my interest and while it may not get her aroused to talk about what happened she's been happy to indulge me. She knows my probing will be more intense that what she was subjected to earlier.

I consider myself very lucky in having a partner who is happy to share medfet with her. I have asked her about her experiences in medical exams as a girl, and they tie in as similar experiences to my own.

My wife and I talk about her old pediatric exams during the 80's as the only female child in her family. She was told to unbutton, but not remove, her shirt and same with the pants. Before the doctor entered she would also remove her shoes and socks. During the exam she was exposed only as needed However since she was a bit full figured as a teen the doctor ,who was a lady, would finish the exam while my wife's shirt and pants were still unbuttoned. She said that ,since my wife wore a lot of jewelry when she was in her teens, she could not get an accurate weight . So at the end of the exam my wife was i instructed to undress completely, even bra and panties so the doctor could get her measurements as well. Just as my wife, lets call her Ashley, is removing the last of her clothing her mom comes in from the waiting area. Ashley dreaded this because my mother-in-law was tiny ,petite and always well dressed and Ashley was 100% naked and overweight in front of her. Mom mentioned that she was letting her bush get too long as the doctor came in and measured her weight, bust and hips, After she left Ashley's mom said 'Let me look at you before you dress' During this inspection Ashley felt like a piece of meat. The interesting thing was she was more surprised that my brother and i were examined together in our underpants, that were also removed by the end of the checkup. She was saying 'I can't believe you and your bro had to get almost naked ,Susan (my mother ) watched and liked to tease you and then your tighty whities came off for some sort of Tanner scale thing. I can't believe you two saw each other's weenies?"

When we were first dating just a couple months into our relationship. We started talking about our past jobs from our first jobs as teenagers and so on. She was telling me about her first job after high school was a (CNA ) certified nurse assistant. her senior year she went to vocational school and got her certification. That at one point she considered going to college to get her RN. But changed her mind and became a Dental hygienist. One question after another about her experiences as a CNA and the training. Kind of opened the door for our own personal experience at the Doctor office. Surprisingly she was pretty much open to this. We slowly started to incorporate this into foreplay from time to time talking about being seen nude by the Doctor and nurses, to medical procedures. After we got married we have both been to the Doctor office together.

Early in on our relationship, my wife (when she was still my fiancé) opened up to me on the phone about one exam. I remember her telling me about the powered chair she sat on that automatically moved her into position and the "clamp" (speculum) the doctor inserted. Even told me that she felt a little weird talking to the doctor about her profession during the exam.

She told me that her sister and stepmother also went to this same gynecologist.

Of course, she won't talk about anything like that now.

I never had to. My sister when she started to bud and they moved her to a private room for her exams explained to me what all happened. My ex-fiance the guy I never cared to ask. But I did have a couple over here and he was mad and jealous because she had gone to the doctor. She said that she knew if she told him then he would get mad. He kept saying it was not true but I could tell. I had known them both for a long time. They were going to move to another state so she could be closer to her parents. It was winter and cold out so he went out to warm up the car. I walked her to the door and she grabbed me and gave me a wet kiss with her tongue and put her hands down my sweatpants and put her fingers in me for a split second. Then left. They ended up going to Germany and that was the last I ever heard from them. I'm pretty sure her parents went with them.

My wife shares about her gynecologist exams with me.

My wife had a physical today with PCP. I asked her when she got home if she had her vagina examined and a full exam down below. Nothing. She stayed fully clothed. I went with her to her gyno appointment twice. It was fun seeing her with her legs spread as the female doctor touching her.

No. My wife once seemed embarrassed when I mentioned some issue, and she changed topics, this I suspect she had had an embarrassing experience with it in childhood. I have since then not brought back that topic.

In one occasion she briefly discussed her gyn exam, said the speculum was cold metal and it was unpleasant. This was on her own accord. I don't want to make her uncomfortable by asking about her examinations.

My wife told me story from her teen years.

Enroute to a shopping center with my girlfriend, we drove by the medical facility where a few days earlier she was given a pre employment physical.

I pointed that fact out with a comment; “ You went there for your exam, right?”

“ Don’t remind me!” She said. “ I’ll never go back there and if my friends need a pre employment physical I’ll definitely tell them not to go there if they don’t have to!”

Curiosity gotten, I asked why.

She pretty much found the whole experience unpleasant and as delicately as she could explained about some of the the things she had to have done medically. Some she didn’t see a need for and one she angrily said, ending her gripe which she left out, but as a last remark, related it. The girl had a way with words and one hell of a delivery!

Not wanting to make her feel any worse I dropped the conversation, but one thing she said and the way it came out, I broke out laughing and damn near veered into another lane of traffic!

Her last remark…

“…and if anyone ever says, they don’t do THAT anymore; THAT , being some indifferent grumpy nurse coming into the exam room and shoving a rectal thermometer up your ass; tell ‘em to come see me! I’ll debunk that!”

This was the late 70s. I guess that’s no longer done. But all said, she was hired and was very successful in it.