There’s never talk about “how to meet someone” to follow up with the topic to getting to home base

Nobody talks about that just the same repetitive topics over and over and over and over and over and over……..

Too many flakes.

Nobody talks about that just the same repetitive topics over and over and over and over and over and over……..

You can say that again, and again, and again, and again …..,,,,,,

Well, to be fair, after the 100 ways to squirt water up your butt have been exhausted, what are we left with?

Too many flakes.

You got that right!!! 😡 A lot of people talk up a big game, but never want to follow through on getting to know each other and meeting up. Although I've met a few women from here over the years.

@mike45, I agree! A lot of people have all these fetishes and talk about it but none want to come out for live play. They post here that they wish there are woman out there willing to play. I am willing to play but in reality, they are not willing to play. They rather hide behind their computer and keep dreaming.

Try to find a more private place to chat without distractions. That may help.

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A lot of it is fear. You know your alright. The person reading your chat does not. With all the weird and crazy things going on I can understand fear holding people back from live meetings.

Can I admit to being a chicken here? About five years ago a woman who I first made contact with on Zity & with whom I had swapped explicit e-mails for several years offered to pick up my air fare from London Heathrow to Le High PA. I bottled out because (a) my life was complicated enough at the time without casually announcing "by the way I'm just off to the US for a week or two of enemas + kinky anal fuckery" & (b) even more so because I had a real fear of trying to convert fantasy into reality. What if we hadn't even got on at all? Can't help feeling somedays though that I may have missed one hell of an opportunity...

@mike45, I agree! A lot of people have all these fetishes and talk about it but none want to come out for live play. They post here that they wish there are woman out there willing to play. I am willing to play but in reality, they are not willing to play. They rather hide behind their computer and keep dreaming.

@medfedcouple EXACTLY, you got that right!!!

It is frustrating because it takes a lot of effort to try to make a connection with someone, think things are going to actually happen and then have the other party bail. It’s happened to me numerous times, primarily local and not with anyone here on Zity. I have yet to get to that point here, but am always optimistic that it will eventually happen.

@Bagme53, it has happened to me as well. I was lucky to meet one Zity member for anal play on two occasions. We had plan for a third meeting but COVID struck. Then he retired from his company so no more trips for business to my city. I don’t hide behind my computer. My photo album shows my face. I don’t have it blurred out. I have stage 4 colon rectal cancer so I don’t care who sees me. If someone that I know sees me here, then they know that I am having fun.

I've met someone on here for play. We have a good time. I've also encountered a few weirdos, and some who I think are dudes pretending to be women, on here and other sites.

What's the worst that can happen, they get your personal info and stalk you?!? 🤦🏼‍♂️😆

@medfedcouple you are indeed lucky! The thing I keep running into is that there doesn’t seem to be any females around my area on Zity and I’m not in a position to travel for an occasional adventure.

I also can’t be as open as I’d like with face shots because of my community involvement. I’m sorry to hear about the cancer, and hope the treatment is successful.

It is a challenge to cross paths with others who may have similar interests (enemas and medfet), but also are reluctant to give up, or jeopardize, an otherwise "normal?" lifestyle or relationship.

While an occasional role play is certainly an enjoyable respite, establishing a LTR is sometimes not a feasible goal. Distance, and cost, may be the most challenging to many.

EFEST events have been a great way in the past. But finding local or regional events have "dried up".

@sse4fun I have also noticed a lack of enema enthusiasts within my local Fet community. Occasionally I’ll see enemas in a female’s fetishes but not often. The last one I spotted was later removed because she thought it might be perceived as gross. Follow up conversation with her went nowhere.

It’s not so uncommon to view all kinds of kink at some of the local events, especially the one’s that are sex positive. But never have I seen enemas received. I suppose that might be possible at private house parties, but not in the venues I’m familiar with.

I've met someone on here for play. We have a good time. I've also encountered a few weirdos, and some who I think are dudes pretending to be women, on here and other sites.

What's the worst that can happen, they get your personal info and stalk you?!? 🤦🏼‍♂️😆

Mmmm

@Bagme53, I am involved in my church and community. Having cancer has given me whole new perspective of life. Is my parish priest going to see me here. If he does, then why is he here. If someone in our professional community sees me here or an image of me, they will know that I am having fun. Or I will say it is a photo shop image of me.

As I have posted in the past, I met a like-minded lady here 11 years ago and we are still going strong. Our kinks got, and keep, us together, but the relationship is now much greater than just kinks.

It is possible, but it is not easy. I fully respected her - and all women here - extreme caution in meeting men here. The creep factor is real and personal safety is no small thing. Even if they are fine, matching up each other's kinks took some time, although not a lot in our case, as we're both quite similar in our kinks and feed off of each other.

One has to be prepared to be 100% honest and back it up in person. Allowing for the other's hesitations and risk-aversion is also important.

As I have posted in the past, I met a like-minded lady here 11 years ago and we are still going strong. Our kinks got, and keep, us together, but the relationship is now much greater than just kinks.

It is possible, but it is not easy. I fully respected her - and all women here - extreme caution in meeting men here. The creep factor is real and personal safety is no small thing. Even if they are fine, matching up each other's kinks took some time, although not a lot in our case, as we're both quite similar in our kinks and feed off of each other.

One has to be prepared to be 100% honest and back it up in person. Allowing for the other's hesitations and risk-aversion is also important.

I’d certainly agree one needs to be cautious in meeting others on line. I suppose you can never be 100% sure if another is being completely honest, however with some online conversations sharing thoughts and likes and dislikes you might move on to phone conversations.

(First time I made arrangements to meet a professional I had concerns. After emails she requested phone number. She called and we spoke freely leaving me feeling less concerned. A second call confirming our meeting and an opportunity to talk again left me with no concerns regarding our meeting)

I’m willing to meet with females (hint -hint)with a like mind, but I find most members live a long distance away. I realize that I can travel, but traveling a 1000 miles not as easy as someone a few hours away.