Females: motivation for anal sex, especially at first?

(This is for females answering about their own motivations for anal sex. I think we can tolerate males reporting why their girlfriend etc. was motivated by anal sex, but, please, no answers from males about why they want to fuck a woman in the ass or similar offtopic.)

To women here: why do you have receptive anal sex, especially, why did you try it?

You wanted to experiment? To please your husband/boyfriend? To preserve your hymen? To have sex without risk of pregnancy?

I always thought it was hot thinking about having something in such a private place. I had watched a lot of porn and fantasized about it, so I really wanted it for my own pleasure. My boyfriend at that time wanted it too, so it was a natural thing for us to try.

Anal stimulation was a thing that I did since I was young child. So anal sex was a given when I was old enough for sex. I just needed 'that' kind of stimulation. I am anal-centric. There was really no 'why' about it for me.

Suppo Girl…..truer words have never been spoken! All my life I have been anal erotic and sensitive. I can certainly trace it back to the rectal thermometer and enema nozzle. Me in my room sliding things up my little anus every chance I got. Or laying in bed at night on my tummy while I’m masturbating myself with something slid up my butt! No reason to be ashamed about it or deny it. I’m sure a few of us girls could write a book on this subject! 😇

After divorce and before meeting @geminitom, i was about 32 and met a man that caused my pulse to quicken the first time I laid eyes on him. He looked like a young Burt Reynolds and when we went out women lustfully stared at him. He oozed sex appeal. He was mid divorce and had not been dating until we met. Truthfully it was not dating, it was intense attraction to each other. He liked anal sex. I really liked him. He turned me on and could seduce me by taking my hand and leading me up the stairs to his bed.

Initially, I did not know that he believed anal sex in lieu of vaginal penetration was not cheating (his divorce was not yet final)….first he kissed me, held me close and whispered in my ear what he was going to do to me. He asked me to get on my knees. Penetration took my breath away. The sensation was like he owned me and I was thrilling to this man’s touch. Never once did he want any other type of sex. He was tender and kissed my back as he held me tightly in place.

I do not think I loved him but I did lust for him.

@SuppoEnemaGirl Could you talk more about your beginnings? Did you see anything that piqued your curiosity?

Many say that women only do anal to please, but you said that you have pleasure

@brazilian - Any of that would be a novella. If I have time later, I will try to write the short version. 😊

Clarification, in staying true to this thread…. My post below was the first time that I enjoyed anal sex, and each time we got together I liked it more….. truth be told, something inside of me changed. I found myself anxious to be with him again and to do it again. The funny thing is, in the beginning it was raw, feral, and a new woman left that bedroom. At the end of the night when I drove home my asshole was throbbing from the thorough fucking I had just received, and the orgasm after orgasm I experienced with him.

Feeling this way, I don’t know why I was so resistant to the enema play that @geminitom tried to introduce early in our marriage.

@sirensong your narrative reminds me of what Anne Hathaway is said to have said about anal sex

...why do you have receptive anal sex, especially, why did you try it?

You wanted to experiment? To please your husband/boyfriend? To preserve your hymen? To have sex without risk of pregnancy?

I can't remember why we first ventured into anal sex. As my sub was an anal and enema liver it probably was tried to see where and how far my enjoyment went.

It also was a good way to get my subs balls emptied with less chance of me getting knocked up. An unwanted pregnancy was not in the plans back in the early years of our marriage.

Because anything in my ass feels amazing especially a cock🍆🍑 Love my ass stimulated!!

@brazilian It seems that Anne Hathaway never spoke about anal sex.

Because anything in my ass feels amazing especially a cock🍆🍑 Love my ass stimulated!!

@chelle300 Would LOVE to help you out with that!!! 😜 You've got a SEXY rosebud! 😉🌹

Would that be the American actress, or Shakespeare's wife @brazilian ? I don't remember hearing about Shakespeare being partial to poking Mrs Brown.

Who knows? 😃

It feels really good. Nothing complicated about it or philosophically deep.

Heh heh deep she said deep hehe.

The bum is a cave and what do you do with caves , you explore , finger + anus = exploration , and before you know it you are bringing in heavy equipment !!

@LordJim2 the actress. I saw some references to what she would have said, but nothing that really proved

Never had anal intercourse, but as a young teen I played with my bff frequently, and quite innocently, and eventually she did penetrate my bottom. Always gently. So it was not so much a motivation or conscious decision... it just happened, and it was so so powerful and lovely, and it kept happening. Until her family moved away.

Why did I try it? My partner wanted it. First husband tried the ‘woopsie’ method and that was a hard no. Second husband asked and I didn’t say no. He worked it in a millimeter at a time whilst giving me a back rub and, surprise, I liked it.

I prefer anal play - fingers or a small toy to a penis but it’s absolutely part of our repertoire

An ex boyfriend introduced me to anal because he was interested and that made me start exploring more with anything anal. I love anything in my ass.

Because it feels good and I'm kinky

For me it was a conscious decision. A couple of wives at the tennis club brought the subject up and the subsequent discussion both intrigued me and turned me on at the same time. I read up on the how to and was bold enough to ask Ma.. for some personal advice. I prepped myself several times and tried to subtly offer my ass to my husband; he did not take the bait! Finally had to force him to try it and now it is a couple of times a month thing with us. Our strap on experience started with him buying my first harness and dildo.

Dita

@Dita Mmh.. a woman pushing her bottom out may be understood as encouragement for petting and vaginal penetration from behind…

@Nurse_Phillips I once did woopsie for real. I mean, it was a really angle error coupled with (I don't know why) relaxed anus and natural lubrication.

@Jacana im not saying accidents don’t happen but in my experience it’s usually a guy claiming accident whilst trying to push things.

@Nurse_Phillips The fact that it happened to me only once in my sex life so far, despite my wife's fondness for vaginal penetration from the rear, support this. 😉

Did the guy use some lubricant, at least?

@Jacana what do you think?

Being fair, I used to get really, really wet so there was more than enough of ‘me’ to make someone think it was enough.

You haven't changed that much. Just saying.

@drphillips you’re sweet and trying to be fresh but realistically yes I have. Menopause means I get much less wet than I did. It started before we got together in my early forties. I used to habitually soak through panties. That doesn’t happen anymore.

@Jacana im not saying accidents don’t happen but in my experience it’s usually a guy claiming accident whilst trying to push things.

@Nurse_Phillips Guilty as charged with my ex! I like to say it wasn’t on purpose, but then again I really didn’t practice caution, I just wanted back inside…wherever! Considered it a TOO “target of opportunity”