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@Vicki_V
I just stumbled across your post from a year ago, and I am most curious.
Did the “right opportunity” ever come along?
Here’s my take on the nice lady you met and I will quote from your post:
1. “She saw your enema syringe hanging to dry in your master bathroom”
2. “This led to talking over…tea about your history of G.I. issues, headaches, stress, and enemas”
3. “She said back in the 1960s and into the 80s that she used to prep patients for surgery by giving old-fashioned cleansing enemas”
4. “From the way she described her nursing career, she has probably given many hundreds of enemas”
5. “She is such a nice person”
6. “She said if you ever needed anything, not to hesitate to call her.”
As a nurse, her calling was to help people. She’s retired and probably still wishes she could help people. With your history of G.I. issues and enemas, I’m quite certain that she would love to help with your enemas, but she, like you, was as hesitant to offer as you were to ask.
It would be easy to bring up the enema discussion again . . .
“Remember a while ago when you told me about how you administered enemas?”
“Of course. I’ve thought about it several times since.”
“So have I. And a few times, I was almost ready to ask if you would be able give me an enema, but I was a little embarrassed to ask.”
“Well, it can be a sensitive topic and while I thought about offering, I didn’t want to intrude. Tell you what, dear. You don’t even need to ask. Let’s just do it.”
Problem solved. Both your needs are met. You get the help you need and she gets to help you with your need.
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