Emotional Masturbation

I have always been fascinated by the way a person's emotions can have a direct connection with their masturbation. The feelings like vulnerability, nervousness, embarrassment, helplessness, doom, fear, sadness etc seem to have a direct connection with certain people's genitalia and sometimes the intensity of these emotions can result in that person masturbating as they wallow in the emotion or combination of emotions they are feeling. They are not masturbating because it feels good or because they are fantasizing about sex, they are simply compelled to touch their private parts as they are experiencing these emotions. Is there anyone here who experiences this?

Boy, you hit it on the head for me! But whenever I'd touch my privates, my old man would threaten to pull a Lorena Bobbitt on me.

Boy, you hit it on the head for me! But whenever I'd touch my privates, my old man would threaten to pull a Lorena Bobbitt on me.

@JONW Is that what his parents in turn threatened him with, pre Lorena Bobbitt years. Otherwise, he has a cock too, where is his sympathy / empathy

"Whenever" meaning you got caught too much (once = too much)

I know we've discussed similar things in the past @DrShane, but I stumbled across the post and it resonates very much. Certain emotions are more compelling than others, and I often fantasize about being in situations that elicit certain erotically-coupled emotions. My kinks are at least 50% emotional, if that makes sense, with themes of vulnerability and embarrassment playing a big role. But also, I do often masturbate when I am just feeling generally emotionally overwhelmed.

themes of vulnerability and embarrassment playing a big role. But also, I do often masturbate when I am just feeling generally emotionally overwhelmed.

I understand this well. Sometimes I have an absolutely rotten day. Everything seems to go wrong and I feel like freaking out or just giving up.

But then later on, maybe after a coffee or good tea or just reading something here or finding some good porn stuff on-line, I calm down, relax and then I find that the sexual urges come on almost unsuspected, but very strong.

Sometimes it's after a few bad days, sometimes after a rotten morning or afternoon.

It's a good counterpoint to all the unwanted stress and turmoil.

I took a class a long time ago on relational wholeness. It was rather interesting, though the details are getting a bit fuzzy now as that was over a decade ago, one thing that stuck with me was the correlation between stress and tension one feels, and the need, even as a child, to touch one's private parts as a form of security.

I related to this fully as I remember as a child, maybe four years old and in a household where my mom and dad fought terribly. It was traumatizing, and I feel bad for any child having to endure such tension! Anyways, I remember when I'd lie in bed and I'd reach down and hold and press upon my vagina. It was a form of relieving that stress I could sense inside of my soul. I do that even to this day from time to time. Also, I've seen Anthony during many stressful situations, like an instantaneous reflex, reach down and grab his groin area. There's definitely a psychological correlation there.

As for masturbation, I've had my share of masturbating simply to get my mind off things, and it can certainly be cathartic!

Ah yes.

Quick= Something naughty. Ex Cuck

Moderate hurry= Doing someone else GF

Sad= Nailing a fat chick or cuckolding

Ultra tired= med fet

Low self esteem= Body possession of my ex’s ex bf going back in time

I related to this fully as I remember as a child, maybe four years old and in a household where my mom and dad fought terribly. It was traumatizing, and I feel bad for any child having to endure such tension! Anyways, I remember when I'd lie in bed and I'd reach down and hold and press upon my vagina. It was a form of relieving that stress I could sense inside of my soul.

My parents could argue up a storm as well, never violent but shouting and recriminations and tears and breaking plates and even tipping over (old antique) furniture. Even on the last day I saw my mother (she died shortly after when I was away in Spain) they were still arguing away about the stupidest of things.

Anyway, this never encouraged me to masturbate or hold my genitals or anything sexual at all back when I still lived at home. I had something of an opposite reaction, such situations seemed to drain all desire from my feelings. I shouldn't say it because it sounds trite and cliché, but probably from feeling guilty in some incomprehensible way.

So, totally different reaction on my part. Aren't humans so inconsistent and unpredictable one from the other?

This thread reminded me of something I was reading/watching the other day from a YouTuber named “Mom On the Spectrum”. She discussed sexuality amongst neurodiverse/autistic individuals, and mentioned how masturbation can be a “stimming” behavior for autistic or ADHD individuals.

I think this is very true, at least for me. I find when I am emotionally very upset, or conversely very elated, I very easily gravitate to masturbation. This isn’t something I would do in a public setting, but privately at home 100% will do this. The pleasure orgasm aside, there is definitely an emotional regulatory component for me where afterwards I will feel more centered and “emotionally regulated”.