Clean or arse as it comes

Is there a certain stigma for leaving your arse as it is, no enema etc.

I think part of the fun is, the unknown hiding away…

Of all the anal sex and play that I've participated in (which isn't very extensive, especially by zity standards), there has never been any enema done beforehand. I've never experienced any poop on my penis or fingers. Likewise, my female partners have never experienced a dirty finger... That neither of us noticed anyway. However, if rimming is involved, we have always taken a shower or been swimming just before. Mouth to a dirty butthole is definitely something I am not interested in, giving or receiving.

Over the years whenever my wife and I have had anal sex. And a few times with a couple of women I was with before I was married. There has never been any planning or preparing for it, ass play or anal sex, with cleaning, using enemas or anything before, it has always just happened. I think my wife gave herself a fleet enema one time before we had anal sex, she thought it would help her to loosen up first. It has never been that dirty, a little dirty once or twice but that is some of the fun, when it comes to anal sex it's supposed to be a little dirty.

If you're going to play in the backyard, expect to get a little poo on you once in awhile. Hey, it washes off. 😁

Yep, it all washes off LOL!

Total bottom gay guy here.

One factor associated with this question is spontaneity. I'm total bottom with a sub streak and a lot of my desires involve a man being able to have/take me whenever the need arises (so to speak). I have fantasies of waking in the middle of the night to the feel of Him pressing His cock into me to relieve himself and whispering in my ear: "take My Cock, i know you need it."For me, the dynamic is a trusting bond where he already knows i want his raw lust/need whenever he has it. For me, sex is very much about symbiotic connection of lust/need.

If either party is worried about clean out, it interrupts that energy flow. Personally? i'm responsive, my wiring as "total bottom" for me means i never penetrate, i'm always penetrated, that includes oral for me as well. It's just how i perceive "Top/bottom" or D/s. I'm not turned off by what comes out of me, but if he is turned off by it, i am. If it does not matter to him, it removes the issue of interrupting spontaneity. If it turns him on it ramps it up even further, but for me, it's not a preoccupation with what is there, but the fact that there is nothing coming between our connecting.

It depends. When I have anal sex with my wife, I really don‘t care if she has taken an enema before. It all washes off… When I have anal sex with other men (where I am the receptive part), I had partners who insisted that I was completely cleaned out. But I also have a buddy who wants to take me as I am. Of course I will do whatever makes my partner feel comfortable.

Unless your planning for some deep anal play, an enema usually isn't needed. If you have time to plan ahead - I guess it would be OK but for spontaneous sex it would be distracting to run off for a quick enema. When we had sex it often led to anal - but not always. We just went with wherever our debauchery took us - and we had very, very few problems.

I have never experienced any great problem in having anal sex without an enema beforehand. I think any significant amount of poop around my cock or my partners anus would be a bit of a turn off but a little glossy tan coloured rectal mucus just adds to the whole scenario. Anal fucking is supposed to be a little bit dirty & forbidden, that's part of the appeal...?

I was visiting my friend with benefits and she came out of the bedroom with no pants on and sat on my lap for a round of anal sex. after a few minutes, I noticed quite a "mess" and mentioned to her that were were making a mess. She was embarrassed and jumped up, apologized and headed for the bathroom. I followed her and talked her into getting in the tub with me, as is, so we could finish. It was one of the hottest sessions we ever had, second only to the time she fisted me for the first time!

In my limited experience with anal, the dirty factor has reared it's head around fifty percent of the time.

Fine by me either way though. It washes off.

Speaking as another gay guy who bottoms once in a while, I would say that at least for the gay community porn has given us an unrealistic expectation that you need to be sparking clean. Ass to mouth is common.

If I *know* I'm going to have my ass played with, whether it's a rectal exam or otherwise, I clean out, usually trying to follow the advice of this wonderful cartoon guide: https://x.com/BlindJaw/status/871170525598408704?s=20

But I also feel that if a top freaks out at a little poop then they shouldn't be topping. It comes with the territory.

Speaking as another gay guy who bottoms once in a while, I would say that at least for the gay community porn has given us an unrealistic expectation that you need to be sparking clean.

Right? Not to mention more mainstream gay romantic movies or series where sex is usually portrayed as spontaneous. Clean out is the proverbial elephant in the room (talk about being gaped) when it comes to anal sex, it's never mentioned or even alluded to in media where sex is portrayed , even though it's a major factor.

I am in favour of clean ass.

Initially, I was pretty ignorant in that matter. All my experiences with anal were limited to anal sex with females, and aside occasional spot here and there, it had never been any bigger issue. Just being careful when removing condom. I though that a bowel movement was sufficient to address potential issues.

Then I got involved in BDSM, as a submissive, and found myself on receiving end of anal play. At the very second meeting my domme scolded me I was not clean inside. That was followed by my very first enema ever. There was a bit of dirt on a toy, but I think it was just an excuse for the enema.

Nevertheless, since then I am religious about being well cleaned out before play.

And as @tallslenderguy mentioned, thanks to porn, AtM became a thing that is almost given with Mm or MMm play...

When I am in dominant role, I tell my sub that I expect them clean or I will give them enemas. So far all elected to do the clean out themselves.

I always try to be clean as possible if my session is scheduled ahead of time I'll try to schedule colonic day before if not possible I'll try to give my self an enema

Few times I could tell my mistress encountered some poo I always apologize

On one double session mistress had me seat on pretty big toy and when I pulled out it was visible that I'm not clean 100% she put me on all 4s and proceeded to give me a soppy bulb enema as part of the session

Is that really true? Some people like it dirty. I have stated many times before that nobody touches my ass without it being clean inside and out. I only let one girl touch me there when I wasn't clean. She is the one who started me on enemas. If I came home from work she would push her hands down there and first finger my vagina to get her fingers slippery and wet then she would go for my ass. Then she would whisper I need to have it cleaned. She would come home from work and do the same thing. She liked or I guess I should say loved enemas. She loved me doing them with her. If she was at work and I was off she would call if she wanted to do enemas. She would leave a cryptic message on the answering machine if I was not at home. She might say. I will be home whatever time am I going to find a mess? That was a hint not to do enemas on my own. I used to do that because she said she felt weird just telling me she wanted to do enemas and that she was that horny. If she was on her period she may say she is having cramps. If she knew I was on my period she would say something like I know you are on your period. I will help you when I get home. A nice warm bubble bath. Things that if anyone heard and didn't know would not think a thing about them.

Not to mention more mainstream gay romantic movies or series where sex is usually portrayed as spontaneous.

I remember when I saw Brokeback Mountain and they implied that their first time together they did anal and I'm like "That's not how this works..."

I am anocentric and definitely need to be totally clean before any play. Hence daily enemas and regular colonics.

I enjoy enemas a lot, so getting clean before anal play is a wonderful way to get hot and horny for me.

Personally I much prefer to be clean; I'd be nervous all of the time with someone if I thought things were going to lead to anything anal. I'd also put on clean underpants too, as a matter of respect for the other person.

If I think that anything I am going to do will involve my arse, I normally clean myself out, whether it be a prostate exam by my doctor, or if a meeting could result in being intimate with someone; It just gives me more confidence.

If I think that anything I am going to do will involve my arse, I normally clean myself out, whether it be a prostate exam by my doctor

Aren't they expecting to come away with a small fecal sample to check for occult blood?

I always do a good clean-out series before I play and all my female partners have done the same.

Really it depends on what we're doing. Be if gets messy then we clean it up😄

Have had both. I guess it's a matter of communication and what everyone is comfortable with. Never had any incidents even without enemas beforehand though. It also depends on how deep you're planning to go and the specifics of what you're gonna do.