Having a deep mental crisis

I slept in a little day, wife kissed me when she left for work and I dozed before slowly getting up. I got up and went to wash my face (morning routine) and I looked in the mirror and it hit me hard. Ive been having lots of thoughts about life without her and its terrifying me. Shes amazing and never leaves me any doubt however Im staring back and myself and thinking:

- what if she gets tired of being the dominate one and wants to finally be submissive, to be cuddled, to let someone else make some of the decisions?

- what is she becomes disgusted with a bedwetting husband who dresses androgenous on a normal day and often feminine at home?

- what if she wants a man to have real sex and not whatever you call our methods of intimacy?

Sorry about the post. She turns 40 this year and Im worried she will enter a new phase and leave her skinny sissy husband behind.....

Hay bozo u have nothing to worry about. If she was going to leave you it would of been in early 30s not 40s.

My guess would be that if she has stayed with you that she is getting most of what she needs from the relationship. I would suggest that you just ask her if there is anything you can do that she is missing emotionally since it seems she is fulfilling most or all of your needs. If she doesn’t indicate that any additional emotional support is needed then try doing small things for her, maybe a household chore that she usually does or cleaning her car. I have found that in over 40 years of marriage the little acts of kindness and love will pay off and will be greatly appreciated by your spouse.

If you are having these negative thoughts about yourself you may have want to speak with a physician or counselor as this can lead to a downward spiral that may indeed lead to a relationship problem. It sounds like you have an amazing wife and relationship so try not to focus on negatives that probably don’t exist.

She turns 40 this year and Im worried she will enter a new phase...

It's better to worry as you mentioned rather than take your spouse for granted and not be concerned - just my 2cents.

Buy her flowers.Celebrate your marriage with her by taking her out and making her special. In a non sissy environment. Sit down and talk about your personal fears with her. Genuinely ask about her needs and be ready to fulfill what she needs in your relationship if you can.

Sounds like you have aKEEPER! Try so make her feel you’re a keeper too

You have a wonderful wife, partner in life who you love with all your heart. Make sure she knows this every day of your life. That's how I feel about my wife. I don't know why she puts up with me and my screwy desire to wear diapers and rubber pants all the time, wet myself and love when she changes me, but she does and I make sure she knows how much love and cherish her every day. Never take anything for granted.

Thanks all. She and I had a good chat and I feel better about life. Just a little insecurities showing through.

Those are very scary thoughts, and understandably upsetting. My psychologist gave me some really cool tools to work with, one of them was a form that asks questions that one can contemplate to themselves when having these kind of negative thoughts. One of the questions that I use all the time that would be modified for your situation might be "is there evidence that your wife has an interest in leaving you, or is there evidence that she wants to find a different type of man?" And maybe also ask "is your wife a person that consistently does not follow through in what they have started, or are always changing their mind toward commitments in their lives?" Having the ability to ask yourselves this questions happens to be a handy tool and talking oneself down, particularly if they don't want to confront another person or come across as insecure over something that has no basis.