Ass to mouth? Seems disrespectful...

Seems a long time that ass to mouth has been a trend in porn, both commercial & amateur (my favourite kind). Am I alone in finding this a bit of a turn off? I can't imagine anything worse than being on the point of ejaculating deep into the silky smooth rectum of a willing, or better still enthusiastic, partner then at the last minute withdrawing to cum in her mouth. Apart from the hygiene aspect this just seems disrespectful & degrading to me but maybe that's the whole point? Personally I'd rather ejaculate deep inside her rectum then settle for a loving & appreciative snuggle....Clearly a lot of folks seem to like it though so I'm interested to see how others view this, women in particular maybe?

In my personal situation, if i experience this, i don't mind him finishing in my mouth because I know my butt will be super clean. But ATM has to be my ass and my mouth, no other person involved.

Also if i was to have a quickie and no enema cleaning, then no ATM.

But i do enjoy cum in mouth endings.

Yes and No. As with everything, it's complicated.

It certainly can be disrespectful, and yes, that is part of the turn on. As a bi male switch I've been on both ends of it (and yes, I love it, and no I don't even entirely understand why). I mean, clean or not, this thing was just in your ass! Now it's going into your mouth? Damn...

Of course, there always has to be consent, either direct consent at the moment if it's a newer partner or consent given prior conversation or some other way if establishing they are OK with it. In most cases of sexual consent it would be a turn off to suddenly stop and ask for consent directly in the moment, but this could be the one case where it's a turn on (if they unexpectedly say yes, anyway... asking and getting a no could derail the whole experience though I did have one woman quickly say "no" and promptly squeezed her ass on my cock and push back into me to keep the moment going and it worked... And later let me do it in another session lol)

Doesn't necessarily mean you don't respect your partner as a person, but to have that passionate moment where they are allowing you to disrespect them, violate them in a way you know most "normal" people won't.

Being on the receiving end, it's showing your willingness to do something like this for your partner, in an act of submission to them. Letting them take it to a certain extreme and being a willing "victim" is the turn on for me.

Probably the time that turned me on the most was when I had a partner for years and she had made it very, very, clear she would NEVER do ass to mouth and I respected that, and for years never even asked. Then one day I was fucking her in the ass and she stops and says "pulls it out stick it in my mouth, I know you want to" and OMG... That sudden turn just... Well... Knowing how she felt and yet not just being willing but almost insisting I do it that night... Mind fuck complete... I exploded in her mouth.

Don't know if this answers the question, but figured I'd offer my perspective. I have more thoughts on it but don't want to ramble...

It depends on the person. You should know your partner well before rimming them, or with any kind of assplay. Some of my former girlfriends were into things that other women found disgusting, perverted, sick, etc. That’s why you need to spend as much time with your partner before you even consider a commitment. Once you’re married, it’s very expensive to fix incompatibility problems.

We had anal sex but never went ATM. Never had a desire to ejaculate in my wife's mouth or face. Oral sex and kissing after rimming was never an issue for us.

Not a turn on in porn for me either.

I don’t find activities themselves to be inherently disrespectful. I see the issue as being on the individual, and their capacity to feel respected or disrespected. A person should know their partner’s position before engaging in such activities. And a partner’s opinion can change, as clearly explained by @Open_Minded_Alex

Here at Zity, many people elaborate about how much they enjoy a wide range of activities, and certainly not all activities will agree with everyone. Even a topic such as humiliation, which most dictionaries and vanilla folks define as being in the range of bad, negative, or to be avoided, is highly desired and arousing to some in the non-vanilla space.

I enjoy examining my boundaries and gray areas around my sexuality. For many years I thought butts were dirty and gross. It was a slow transition, but I’m now completely on team butt fun. I like to clean them, I like to tease them, and I like to put things inside them. A tongue in the ass is not that much different than ATM, and within the comfort parameters of those involved it can be quite enjoyable.

Well, the world is constantly changing, so if the are both clean, I guess.

Personally, I would never do that due to the fact it is not appealing to me.

I am however in knowledge of rimming, so if its all clean, then I guess it is all ok, just not me.

Hi & thanks to those who have replied to my original post over the past couple of days. The spread of replies has reminded me of something I should know after years on Zity - don't be judgemental! If two (or more!) other people enjoy some sexual activity then that's fine. A2M will never work for me though - when I am thrusting deep in my partner's rectum, my foreskin pulled back making my knob swollen & super sensitive there is no better feeling than sliding in & out of her well lubed anal fuck hole. "Is it nice & tight for you?" she whispers knowing her dirty talk will drive me insane "Do you like fucking my tight anus?" I can't hold on for too much of this & although she is pushing back to meet my every thrust at the end I grip her slim hips firmly & hold her still while I make on last extra deep thrust until my balls are up against her puffy cunt lips. One, two, three, maybe even four jets of semen high up in her rectum. She continues touching her clitoris until a few seconds later I feel her anus rhythmically contract around my shaft as she enjoys her own orgasm. Afterwards we somehow make it onto our sides in a spooning position with my softening cock still inside her. We both giggle as a small fart wet with semen escapes her. Gently I cuddle her & stroke her long red hair "Thank you" I whisper. Pull out & miss all that for some A2M? Not for me!

I hate to see something like that in porn films. It's a great disrepect to the partner who let you penetrate her/his anus. Ass to mouth is, in my opinion, a pure demonstration of power by men who think they can do anything and use others for their own perverse satisfaction. It is good manners to only have oral or vaginal sex with a clean, washed penis.

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I feel ATM is only disrespectful if one of the two of you feel that it is. If everyone is prepped and on board for the occasion, get down with your freaky selves!

If disrespect is part of a mutual kink session- then by all means, disrespect the hell out of each other!

I have played with a guy who loves ATM. Before starting he does a shower shot and gets clean. I have pulled out (my cock was totally clean) and he took me in his mouth but I did not cum and I returned to his tight and smooth rectum to have a powerful orgasm. I should also add that on one occasion I noticed his shower shot didn't get the job done and there was no ATM that took place on that day.

I guess the point I am making is that if the person on the receiving end of an ATM is totally turned on by doing it then I don't think it's disrespectful to do it. The receiver has asked me to do it and it's a big turn-on for this person to do it.

Now if someone were made/coerced to take the guy's cock in their mouth when they did not want to, then that's more than just being disrespectful, that's crossing the line.

If both parties are on the same page, then sure ATM is OK to do.

I personally wouldn’t do it even with cleaning enemas I wouldn’t risk it.

I was in a gay relationship with a guy as a top. He would tell me to warn him when I was going to cum when we had bareback sex. I would let him know and sometimes he would thrust himself deeper in me or surprise me. He would turn around so I could cum in his mouth. I didn't ask him to do it. I didn't object since I know he enjoyed doing it.

Recently, a guy I have sex with will top me bareback and ejaculated in me. When he pulls out and I will sometimes suck his still erect penis. I just love the fact that he just deposited cum in me. I don't suck him for longer than a few thrusts because of him being very sensitive. I believe that it is part of sex for some but can also be downright disrespectful to someone that would normally reject such an act.

I agree that some porn ATM seems to be all about domination and indeed brutalisation of the bottom whether male or female.

That said, if those involved are up for it, then it’s very erotic as it’s another level of trust and intimacy.

I incorporate this in my own play as I’ve never had the privilege of a partner who’d indulge me. So I often have a phase in my anal sessions when I’ll slip a smaller dildo into my butt, work it around and then deepthroat it whilst pressing down on a much bigger toy at the same time.

This is my biggest turn on, so completely support ATM - for those who want it. Scat is a huge turn off for me, but if the big dildos are all coming out nice and clean, then a bit of home made ATM will always be a feature of my play.

I don’t think it’s disrespectful. It feels amazing. Just have to make sure the person is clean before rimming someone. It sometimes helps if you add a little something like whip cream🍑👅😈

Love your new avatar @chelle300 .

@LordJim2 thank you! I thought it was appropriate!

I don’t think it’s disrespectful. It feels amazing. Just have to make sure the person is clean before rimming someone. It sometimes helps if you add a little something like whip cream🍑👅😈

It really is amazing. We both loved it, and it was the ultimate form of respect! With or without the whipping cream.

I do AtM. On receiving end it is something very submissive. And it is not only males that give it. I was introduced that activity by a domme with strap-on.

On other hand, some people just like it. I had fairly vanilla, who really liked it. She said she liked her own taste and liked cocks, too. We would switch from her mouth to ass and back a few times.

I have given atm... I don’t find it to be disrespectful because I have given her plenty of enemas beforehand. But in general, my Love prefers me to cum in her ass. She likes to feel the sensation of me cumming in her anally. So most often, I cum in her ass rather than her mouth at the time of anal sex. Either option is still nice to me. And there is give & take when it comes to preferences in our relationship. So if I get something that I like more than her I make it worth her wild, by pleasuring her further, right after the act.

Once during anal sex with my ex she moved forward to disengage my cock from her anus. She was not enjoying it as much as usual. We both laid there for a couple of minutes and suddenly she moved around, grabbed my still semi-erect penis and started licking and sucking it. I was a bit surprised and very thrilled by this unexpected gift of ATM I was receiving and said nothing as I did not want to break whatever spell she was under. She pleasured my cock and balls until I came in her mouth and she swallowed, and licked me clean. It was amazing! While we laid there she said she thought that would be a turn on and make up for not letting me cum in her ass. All I can say is wow, it sure did!

If I had anal with a man ( I haven't , yet) and there was no poop on it after pulling out of me, yes, I would suck him if the mood hit me.

I def feel atm is disrespectful and degrading and that’s why I enjoy it lol. Like it makes me confront the very gross thing I was doing having my ass fucked, and deal with the gross consequences of it.

Just don't have a Taco Bell Burrito Supreme before any ass play...

How about using a condom during the sodomy and quickly removing it before continuing in the recipient's mouth? It could be a way to still have the A2M 'effect' while making things more hygienic/safer?

That's like the Three Stooges with Shemp, instead of Curly: Not the same even though they are still the Stooges..

Personally I don't mind ass to mouth as much as I love to get my ass filled with a hot load I'd rather swallow.

Nopes... not for me.