Do you become aroused when writing a story?

How many of you when you are writing a story whether real of fictional get aroused while in the process of telling or creating the story!

Yes, it is a little like reliving it again.

I usually develop an erection while writing an erotic story

Yeah usually. Not super aroused and I don’t always realize it when I’m writing but if I go to the bathroom I’m like ‘why are my panties wet…oh’

Definitely find it arousing while I am writing.

Yes, always!

Not enough IRL exams in my teens sadly, but fantasising about the near-miss opportunities back then, and the RP games since = certain arousal!

I love writing about my past experiences because I get to re-live over with all the details so it does get me aroused.

Reading is one reason I came here because reading involves my mind and my imagination and seeing and experiencing erotica through another's eyes. Writing? That's me and my experience out there for you to see and to relive it again and again.

Having a vivid imagination when I am writing gets me excited to the point where I have to “cool down” until the end of the story

There’s a lot of really good reading here on the personal threads that motivates and has inspired me to write. I don’t get aroused when I write (or try to) but the reflections I’ve written about have had a positive impact on my relationship with my wife. The arousal comes afterwards , and has restored our intimacy.

Oh yes, when writing a story, whether based on truth, pure fantasy or just wishful thinking. I get very aroused. Like @Nurse_Phillips I often concentrate so much on the story whilst writing that I don't realise just how wet I have become!

If not aroused, whatever I set down reads like formulaic, paid-by-the-word mush that used to be used as filler in old naughty magazines. Totally uninspired and bland as can be.

Now that doesn't mean sitting at the pc with a raging hard-on. It means there has to be something intangible that arouses the mind and sets the body a-tingle. It is not something that can be induced. It needs to occur spontaneously without preparation.

Maybe we should ask the reverse: Should anyone be writing an erotic story at all if they're not already aroused? Would you review a favourite restaurant whilst having no appetite? Write a love letter whilst feeling distinctly so-so about your partner? Or write your political invective whilst quietly thinking everything is fine and dandy around here?

We all have a primal animal sex brain, much older and more instinctive than our higher frontal lobes. Yes we need the latter to write coherently and well, but we also need the former active to be ‘in the zone’ as they say.

A better question might be how best to maintain that correct balance, some raw lust but with creative juices flowing. If you're not already aroused when you write it, the risk is it reads like a tax return.

Maybe we should ask the reverse: Should anyone be writing an erotic story at all if they're not already aroused?

That is a very good point.

There is an aspect or observation/notion linked to this that has been discussed in another thread, about things that annoy you when reading stories. Namely that many stories aren't really finished and/or end abruptly.

I have a suspicion, which is correct for myself in any case, that once, for any reason, the arousal is gone, so is the real urge and inspiration to continue writing. However we do have the urge to share things like stories, so in order to complete it in a manner suitable for presentation, the story does get finished, but in a less inspired/aroused manner than when beginning on a story.

Sometimes. But it is not always predictable.

It’s been a few years, but I participated in NaNoWriMo once (for fantasy fiction, not erotica) and was desperate to make the 50K word count to win. I had not done that the previous time I had participated.

I had a writing nook, perfect for me, all set up in a cleared-out closet. On the weekends off, I would sit at the desk with my writing playlist blasting in my ears (usually instrumental without lyrics, as songs with words would often distract me too much from actual writing… because I live to sing, yadda yadda), with a mixed drink within reach.

Reading some of the hints on the boards, someone suggested to us who were struggling with pumping out the words to write… whatever… since editing should not really take place during November, etc. And, well, the combination of whatever was in my glass that night x however many I had + jusssst the right music in my ears suggested a chapter. I “met” a new character in the first few paragraph, then explained why she was outcast among her kind, which was actually the result of her parents‘ unauthorized sexual relationship….

Long story short, it was the longest chapter, written in the shortest amount of time, that I have ever written because, as I was writing, I was so even physically invested that the words just poured out of my fingertips.

Not only did I get quite wet just writing but I also made my word count!

When writing on subjects that arouse me, I get aroused. When writing on subjects (medfet comes to mind) that have no erotic appeal to me I can still write an arousing story. Those stories, no surprise, were requested.

Writing a story. Or even making some routine posts here.

Yes, I do get aroused when writing an erotic story or anything concerning my sex life.

Having a strong rectal temperature fetish, when I write about someone having his température taken, I usually get an erection.

Not when I am writing it, I usually imagine the whole story in seconds and then find photos/videos of beautiful women to motivate me to start writing it. I am currently writing a story and pretty much determined all the scenes, I usually don't change the plan in my head unless I see an inspiring naked scene or read one that I could fit into the story.

That is a very good point.

There is an aspect or observation/notion linked to this that has been discussed in another thread, about things that annoy you when reading stories. Namely that many stories aren't really finished and/or end abruptly.

I have a suspicion, which is correct for myself in any case, that once, for any reason, the arousal is gone, so is the real urge and inspiration to continue writing. However we do have the urge to share things like stories, so in order to complete it in a manner suitable for presentation, the story does get finished, but in a less inspired/aroused manner than when beginning on a story.

I think you are correct. For this reason, erotic stories are better written offline, in Word etc, so they can be created in more than one sitting. You may need to finish when back in the mood again another day, or just have to unglue your keyboard.

I've always viewed sex chat forums like Zity like a party, something to visit either in that fun mood or else open to/seeking it, hence my dubious username. If you really don't feel that way, maybe best keep away until you do. Gardening forums etc are also available.

think you are correct. For this reason, erotic stories are better written offline, in Word etc,

@BulgeInPants another benefit of writing in word is that you don't lose what you type if you reply to an I start message lol

I really enjoy writing stories & making comments about my own personal experiences, fetishes, and fantasies. They always get me very horny, and I quite often have to masturbate after I've recalled and written of these erotic experiences, fetishes, and fantasies. I am almost 70 years old, and have been truly blessed to have had a varied & full sexual life, and hope to add to more stories & comments in the years ahead!

Like @Ladybug761 a beer or glass of wine eases the mental stumbling blocks to my writing. I don't necessarily write “better” but I do put more words on pages in shorter time periods than when stone sober.

If I get excited while writing erotica I can't write so things must be done to resolve the issue when it arises. 😉

Absolutely, and even at my age, it can be a very enjoyable feeling. The connection between our brain and all those sensitive areas down below is real. Sometimes, writing about a particular experience like when I had home nursing nearly 40 years ago, I get those twinges that almost feel like I’m getting that enema all over again. The mind is ever so powerful!!

I get aroused writing and reading messages with certain Zity friends.

Yes, its usually like a low burning ember of arousal and it really helps me visualize everything and in turn write it.

Like @Ladybug761 a beer or glass of wine eases the mental stumbling blocks to my writing. I don't necessarily write “better” but I do put more words on pages in shorter time periods than when stone sober.

If I get excited while writing erotica I can't write so things must be done to resolve the issue when it arises. 😉

I have a hard enough time writing coherently when I’m sober! I could probably write a lot more if I imbibed, but in the morning I would at a loss trying to figure out what I said!

@Ladybug761 Your blogs read pretty damn well!

Hah, I have got off to my own writing or while writing on more than one occasion. It's particularly potent if I'm ovulating, in which case I'm just exploding with horniness. But if I'm not in a place where I can easily be aroused (ie, that time of the month, or just not in the mood), I get just a little turned on but otherwise not much more than that.

I'm a trade-published writer with maybe 2.5 million words of fiction, lots of it erotica, under my belt. While I may experience arousal as I imagine and plan, the actual writing requires concentration that for me precludes arousal.

But... writing means edits and revision, always. Even if it's pretty good, you find ways to make it better. For me, that means going over it scene by scene multiple times. During this part, rereading what I wrote, arousal is both likely and common. And if it's absent, it needs more revision.

Oh, absolutely definitely. Probably at least part of the reason I tend to write so much. That said, I don't "get off" on it. Might later after the fact (depending on the story/content) but I'd say the writing process is more of a "personal foreplay". I'm being aroused by my own fantasy while simultaneously getting aroused at the thought of whoever I'll be sharing the story with getting some sort of pleasure/satisfaction from it as well.