Sex life and Gyno

Ladies, do you talk about your sex life with your gynecologist? Do you trust her/him to talk about this topic?

Yes, unfortunately I have to tell her ive never had a penis or penis sized article in my vagina in order to get the small speculum.

To a degree yes, number of partners what protection etc its pretty standard. I don't go into the nitty gritty detail though.

Yes but not everything in detail. She know I am lesbian and have one partner, that is all she need to know

Mine knows I’m in a non-monogamous relationship but not the details unless they’re directly related to why I’m there. Ie I do an std screen just in case and once I did see her for a sex-related injury. That one prompted the whole ‘do you feel safe’ discussion etc and wound up with me educating her on CNC play which she seemed to find fascinating. She was familiar with it in concept but had never discussed it with someone who had done it.

I have not disclosed my medical fetish with her as it hasn’t been relevant and I don’t want to run the risk of making her uncomfortable seeing me as a patient

Not really, I answer the required questions honestly but it isn’t much of a discussion. I do know of people who are very ‘chatty’. One of my work friends is an experienced OB/GYN and she has told me that younger patients are usually more interested in small talk or sharing information that isn’t required. We have discussed how we think it’s a mixture of nerves and inexperience, where older women are used to what happens and just want to get in and out.

Asking questions about the patient's sexual habits is normally part of the interview during the gynecology consultation.

The doctor is not there to judge or comment on particular practices, but he needs to have this information to guide his clinical examination.

Depending on the case, we may focus on looking for micro-tears in the anus or the vaginal wall.

Similarly, it is the role of the practitioner to alert his patient if his findings suggest traces of abuse or the intimate penetration of disproportionate or unsuitable objects.

A gynecologist should not set himself up as a morality coach, but he has a duty to advise for the good health of his patients

We are all humans and we respond emotionally to each others presence. But in a medical setting the pro is focused on the physical tissues. The patient is focused on her feelings. Any other interaction is "extra".

No. She knows I have sex and that’s about it. I remember when I was in college and I had sex with multiple guys. Sitting in the office. Looking at the form. It asked how many partners. Going from 0 to 1 was hard. But I’m there to get birth control. Of course they know I’m having sex.

Going from 1 to 2. I felt like a slut. I felt like I would be judged. The doctor would get a Bible and read to me. Then turn me in to some sort of re-education camp.

You know what happened?

“Make sure you use condoms. Because the pill doesn’t prevent the clap 👏 “. I let out what I thought would be a nervous giggle. But it ended up being a loud laugh triggered by nerves. That broke the tension.

That was it. A discussion about birth control and that joke.

Be careful what you disclose to your doctor. Doctors record not only their findings but also patient disclosures in the consultation file. Since it's electronic, the file follows you - typically these records are shared within the clinic/hospital/chain of hospitals AND your health insurer. There is a special "risks" heading in the file - populated with e,g. Skiing, diving, as well as what can be seen as risky behavior e.g. MSM, enemas, anal insertions, etc.

Mostly, remember your discussion with the doctor is not private - your health insurer listens.

My gf's old gyno used to ask questions and give advice in certain situations. I recall years ago after my girlfriend had a recent procedure, we went to a follow-up appointment and he told us not to have sex for another few weeks.

it was like... Okay. We won't... Master 😉

We didn't, of course. Hardest month of my life!

Very little. Only if direct questions are asked