Sex life and Gyno

Ladies, do you talk about your sex life with your gynecologist? Do you trust her/him to talk about this topic?

Yes, unfortunately I have to tell her ive never had a penis or penis sized article in my vagina in order to get the small speculum.

To a degree yes, number of partners what protection etc its pretty standard. I don't go into the nitty gritty detail though.

Yes but not everything in detail. She know I am lesbian and have one partner, that is all she need to know

Mine knows I’m in a non-monogamous relationship but not the details unless they’re directly related to why I’m there. Ie I do an std screen just in case and once I did see her for a sex-related injury. That one prompted the whole ‘do you feel safe’ discussion etc and wound up with me educating her on CNC play which she seemed to find fascinating. She was familiar with it in concept but had never discussed it with someone who had done it.

I have not disclosed my medical fetish with her as it hasn’t been relevant and I don’t want to run the risk of making her uncomfortable seeing me as a patient

Not really, I answer the required questions honestly but it isn’t much of a discussion. I do know of people who are very ‘chatty’. One of my work friends is an experienced OB/GYN and she has told me that younger patients are usually more interested in small talk or sharing information that isn’t required. We have discussed how we think it’s a mixture of nerves and inexperience, where older women are used to what happens and just want to get in and out.

Asking questions about the patient's sexual habits is normally part of the interview during the gynecology consultation.

The doctor is not there to judge or comment on particular practices, but he needs to have this information to guide his clinical examination.

Depending on the case, we may focus on looking for micro-tears in the anus or the vaginal wall.

Similarly, it is the role of the practitioner to alert his patient if his findings suggest traces of abuse or the intimate penetration of disproportionate or unsuitable objects.

A gynecologist should not set himself up as a morality coach, but he has a duty to advise for the good health of his patients

We are all humans and we respond emotionally to each others presence. But in a medical setting the pro is focused on the physical tissues. The patient is focused on her feelings. Any other interaction is "extra".