Finding play partners for discipline and punishment

Hey, I'm quite new to the community and have only ever played with one person who was my datemate at the time.

How do/did y'all find play partners. especially in the direction discipline and punishment?

I'd be interested to hear of the best ways

I did meet with one person and we were getting together pretty regular for awhile for fun times I would get a spanking but I wished they were for discipline and punishment hopefully we will reconnect

Join fetlife, search for groups in your area that share your interests and start attending public meet-ups (munches) to socialize.

I met a member here, we became friends and he is my Dom.

Due to several reasons including distance we only play on line. He punishes me in very creative ways, always via text or video call. He uses the same resources to reward me too.

I also have a sub, living in another country. We communicate via text ( due to time differences video is not really a viable option) I try using my imagination and creativity to satisfy his need for humiliation and punish / reward when needed or deserved.

I hope you too will find a play mate to meet your needs.

Call me old fashioned but I like to meet people in person. I’ve tried online play but it doesn’t have the same effect as IRL

Call me old fashioned but I like to meet people in person. I’ve tried online play but it doesn’t have the same effect as IRL

But....

Your profile info contradicts that.

You state that you are NOT interested in meeting up with...

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I now have found a Dom who contacts me via text. We also meet monthly. He is not on Zity but we met on a dating site.

I have found a lot of play partners by having "normal" conversations or small talk. You never know where it will lead. During the conversation I ask "Were you spanked growing up? I was". If they start to talk about it and share experiences, do the same. If someone is curious or wants to play they will bring it up again and/or share more experiences. Once you have been spanked and/or spanked IRL (In Real Life), role playing will do nothing.