What is the relationship between arousal and Medfet for you?

I have been enjoying many conversations and reading a variety of posts regarding Medfet activities. One thing that I have experienced is that when engaged in online role play whether with video or just texting, the emphasis tends to culminate in orgasm be it for the patient, male or female, and often the examiner. It got me thinking if orgasm is the objective?

For me, it is an overwhelming interest in the psychology of being the patient and having to submit to a relative stranger for an intimate examination over which one's control is in the hands of the examiner. It is this dynamic that generates incredible tension for me regardless of the sex of the examiner. I do believe that my instincts of feeling shy when having to undress take over along with physical sensations throughout my body.

To be honest, a good role play will make me orgasm either as an observer of what is being described (hugely preferred) or when it is included as a central aspect of the exam process. The later is a bit tricky as I don't want a porn experience but rather an automatic loss of control despite my intentions of remaining controlled and shy. This requires an elegant use of language and establishment of a scene that is fully engulfing such that there can be only one outcome.

Anyway, I would like to hear what others think of Medfet as a psychological experience. Thanks.

I agree. For me the key arousal with med get is the loss of control and exposure. It is that helplessness we all felt going back to childhood in many cases that now makes the whole experience erotic.

I do expect a Medfet exam to arouse me enough, physically and psychologically, to achieve orgasm.

I stumbled into medical fetish by way of researching online to educate myself because I was afraid. When I was maybe 20 or 21, I wanted to go into birth control but had never had a gynecological exam… and I was so scared of the prospect.

So I went online to read more about what to expect - how the exam would go, how long it would take, what it would feel like, etc. In this search, the most helpful answers were the ones that were presented in an exam walkthrough format.

At first, the walkthroughs were more informational, not erotic at all. They were helpful. And I made it through my first real-life gyn exam and it was not all the Scary Experience that had been built up in my head. But it also grew into more than facing fears when I (accidentally?) discovered a walkthrough on a website (I think it was Doublemoon Paradise, but that may not be what it was called). It was not erotic in nature, but a lot of other stuff on the site was, and I was curious…

It was a gateway, and from there I found Speculum pages, an online forum (on AOL, maybe), then later learned/heard about/read Playdoc and Xamminer… and realized that not only was I no longer afraid, but I was also turned on - only when on the net.

That was years ago, of course. I even had joined this site (same name) before (having deleted when fam & I moved to Florida… not sure why, maybe closing a chapter? When we relocated back to NE, I regretted having deleted and recreated… but that’s another story).

Anyway, my kink bled into a real-life exam about three years ago. Anticipating it vs. the scenarios in my head vs. reality met up during my last well-woman exam, and the exam itself was a huge turn-on. I only hope it wasn’t evident to the person conducting my exam.

So that was the evolution for me. Fear led to fear-facing in perhaps what - to someone who does not have a med fetish - may seem an unconventional way, and conquering that fear gave way to arousal.

@Ladybug761

That was years ago, of course. I even had joined this site (same name) before (having deleted when fam & I moved to Florida… not sure why, maybe closing a chapter? When we relocated back to NE, I regretted having deleted and recreated… but that’s another story).

When I saw your user name tonight, with several posts in various discussions, I thought it looked very familiar. I do believe you and I were friends before. I see you you re-joined a year ago, but started posting in several threads these last 24 hours.

Welcome back!

By the way, that was a great post! I enjoy your posts and look forward to more along the way.

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Loss of control, exposure, feeling scared, feeling aroused… so many sensations that link the physical, visual, and psychological parts of my identity in medical situations. For me the link is that my first awareness of my sexuality and of eroticism began as I was undergoing my first puberty-aged physical exam by my pediatrician. I thought about my body and desires and my peers’ bodies completely differently from that day forward.

One thing that I have experienced is that when engaged in online role play whether with video or just texting, the emphasis tends to culminate in orgasm be it for the patient, male or female, and often the examiner. It got me thinking if orgasm is the objective?

My objective is arousal, not orgasm. It is easy enough to orgasm from any other kind of sexual simulation. But the feelings that are generated during a medfet aided arousal are different and specific.

Experiencing those feelings is my main objective, and preferably for as long as possible. An orgasm unfortunately, however pleasant, tends to end those feelings and therefore isn't the goal/objective I really pursue.

For me, there is a strange relationship between arouse and loss of control, (moderate) discomfort, embarrassment, even humiliation, especially under the guise of care, protection, well-being. Some events that I find disgusting in real life, such as virginity checks on young women, somehow arouse me when I read accounts of them happening.

I also like elements of initiation in fiction, e.g., “young man has a tummy ache and older woman sticks a nozzle in his behind, he had never thought such a thing was possible”. This is perhaps related to an event which I think played a major part in my anal fixation: I unexpectedly received a slippery and gloved finger deep in my rectum during a childhood examination, and my thoughts were that I had never thought this was possible.

If I focus on orgasm vs. arousal, it is a fleeting butterfly… hard to catch.

Arousal is easier to achieve. More is icing.

A MedFet play is supposed to arouse me. Orgasm isn’t always the goal but sometimes it occurs. Occasionally it’s part of the scenario - usually as a forced orgasm as part of a study. Other times it happens on its own from the situation but at its root the scenario is supposed be be arousing vs climactic

I did some doctor play as kid with another girl. I think I want my own little secret and naughty world as kid. I loved inserting pencils in my butt. I agree with a lot that has already been said here. In my teenage years, the girls around you talk about the dreaded first time gynecological exam. We didn’t have internet growing up so you had to rely on the school librare for your information.

As you read about, you start fantasizing what it will be like. You are already have all those hormones flowing through your body making you horny! You wonder if the doctor is going to know if you are horny? How do you smell down there? Do you smell the same as other girls? Is it going to hurt? A lot goes through your mind. Then there is the long wait which adds to the anticipation, both in the waiting room and exam room. You see the speculum and wonder how the heck is it going to fit inside ?

For me, I think medfed is important for arousal. After a good exam, I am highly aroused and eventually need release.

When I started playing doctor to @Sexy_Librarian, it was with the goal of arousing her. She had finally admitted to me that she got slightly aroused at her real GYN exams. The thing she discussed most when telling me of her arousal centered around the vaginal speculum. She told me how it made the clanking sounds as the doctor prepared to use it; how the cold stainless steel instrument felt as her doctor inserted it into her vagina; and about how she felt pressure as the doctor opened it and locked it into place.

I decided I had to play doctor for her if it helped with her arousal.

If she was aroused enough, all other benefits would come. My goal when scheduling her for a play exam is still to arouse her. I love seeing the evidence of that arousal.