Advice for new giver of enema

I am a woman who has been into enemas for years and I give them to myself. My wife has never been into it but she does indulge my love of all things anal from time to time. She’s given me butt plugs or fingered a few times. But she’s always unsure of herself. Well she told me the other day that she’d like to give me an enema but she wants to do it right. I am, of course, excited. We are both into spanking and we switch though really taking charge isn’t as easy for her. She said she wanted to do some research on how to administer an enema where she is in charge so I don’t have to coach her through it the whole time. I told her, if it was alright with her, I’d post the question here and see if anyone could offer any advice. So please, if you have any tips or hints from everything to announcing an enema is coming to making to lube to baring me and administering and everything else, we would really appreciate it. We both really want for me to be the submissive this time so all advice is welcome. Thank you.

To me, it seems like if she gave a few to herself after watching a few how to videos she would be pretty well versed initially at least.

Sounds like quite exquisite of an experience you have in your future…enjoy!!

Yes, i agree with Howdy.

When you get together for love, pet her fanny and pull at them as to open her back side while lying face to face. Find a way to play ring around her rosie, till she begs for more. When she learns what feels good, she will know more of what to do on you, as well. Enema time foreplay is lots of fun. Rubbing and touching through the day might get her more enema minded.

Be sure and use a rubber sheet, or large absorbent pad for puppy training, to take her mind off of making a mess. Pressing the side of a well greased nozzle onto your anus with the tip at the center, then turning it into you, she will enjoy watching it disappear. She should keep a finger on it while she releases the flow, and keep it there for safety. She might like tapping on it. Water temperature should be in the mid to low 90s Fahrenheit. You will help her enjoy it, by enjoying the game yourself. See if you can give her 2 cups of water, so she gets a better idea of what each step does or works. Play cards, dice or darts for trys at each other.

My advice is simple. Giving an enema is not a race. Go slow so that every sensation is felt and that, in my opinion, enhances the entire experience.

Have you tried giving a couple to yourself and letting her watch and ask questions?

Eric

I found this on enematips.com. I believe that this gives good information for both the receiver and giver of enemas. I wish I had someone to share this with while giving or taking an enema,

http://www.enematips.com/yourfirentip.html

@bigmike406 real good information for all, beginners and experienced. Thanks for the link.

Just keep it about the receiver and not about the enema itself

If the receiver has had previous enemas, try to get them to tell you about it. You need to make decisions on volume and height(flow rate) and exact chemistry of the fluid based on that.

Emphasize the 3 rules of enemas. 1)Try to take the full amount. 2) hold it as long as you can. 3)if you really need to change position, expel and try again.

You want to get the receiver's full cooperation. allowing them to watch the preparation, and help out with filling and hanging the bag can go a long way!

An older child, 'teen or certainly an adult should be offered at least 2 nozzle options. Same for position. offer 2 or at most 3 possible positions, and explain that they MUST remain in that position for the duration of that round,

Younger children can feel overwhelmed so limit that choice to no more than 3.

Treat the bag, can or bulb as a tool. You want to take care of your tools, but it's not about that, it is about the PERSON getting the enema.

The water should be WARM BUT NOT HOT to the touch of the receiver. That's who has final say on temperature.

This will make you a good first time giver!

@LisaK,

I’m glad the OP’s getting good advice on her query. I hope her wife starts giving her enemas soon - what a nice turn of events for her that her wife made the offer.

I’d just like you to clarify a point in your technique you recommended to her here. Part of your advice to her was:

Emphasize the 3 rules of enemas. 1)Try to take the full amount. 2) hold it as long as you can. 3) if you really need to change position, expel and try again…………………….

An older child, 'teen or certainly an adult should be offered at least 2 nozzle options. Same for position. offer 2 or at most 3 possible positions, and explain that they MUST remain in that position for the duration of that round,

Why do you emphatically recommend that they need to stay in only one position for a whole enema and that if they feel the need or desire to change position that they need to expel and start another separate enema filling?

I’ve been taking enemas for >55 years and often adjust my position during filling or even retaining to facilitate that stage of the enema. Are you concerned that they might leak more if they move to a different position during filling? Thank you,

Eric

Why do you emphatically recommend that they need to stay in only one position for a whole enema…

Never found that (staying in one position) to be important…