Guys: Naked bonding with your father?

A while back, I was at the gym one day and in the locker room, there was a father with his pre-teen son who were showering in the open together, and chatting in the dressing area, fully nude while taking their time to put their clothes back on. My father and I were definitely not like that and so I have to ask… guys, how many of you had (non-sexual of course) naked bonding time with your fathers?

No way at all did anything like that happen.

First of all my father was away at sea most of the year, halfway around the world in war zones usually. And second of all, thank goodness it never happened or else he would have gone into one of his rants about my being uncircumcised and therefore doomed to suffer endless infections and ultimately amputation of the penis.

Sort of like the total opposite of a bonding experience.

I also did not have any bonding like that. I only saw my dad naked a few times only when we were putting on a bathing suit to go to swim… and he made a point of always turn so that I would not see his front…

I used to get in the shower with him at home but nothing ever happen. He used to his mouth up to the shower head and make gurging/growling noises. I remember my head being at the level of his genitals and wondering about all the hair there. There was no touching or advances of any kind.

That never happened for me either. In fact, I don't remember ever seeing my father fully naked.

Only at the YMCA locker/shower room. No bonding occurred.

I did. My father was never body shy (grew up in a large family in a small tenement, I am sure that is why) and I followed that example. I would shower with my father from time to time, I think we both liked the special father/son bonding time. Then in high school we were on the same morning schedule and while not always in the shower together we always were in the bathroom at the same time and aside from showering, we shaved and brushed teeth, fixed hair, etc. nude. Did not even wrap up in a towel. The idea was to get maximum air flow time down there, and besides, if you just took a shower together it would be really weird to then wrap up in a towel. I would be nude in the bathroom the whole time and not get dressed until I got to my room.

I'm surprised how few guys had this growing up. My dad raised me male nudity is natural, so we saw each other naked since I can remember. We were on camping trips, in YMCA locker rooms, or even at home together naked very often. It was cool to see him as I was growing up as I understood the male body was nothing to be ashamed of and it was even educational. I felt pride as I developed and grew to be a man like him.

Totally alien world to me.

My dad was a single dad with three boys. We spent most of our time in our underwear around the house. He spanked us completely naked. Us naked, not him. He was always there for doctor's appointments. Soap sticks and enemas. I remember he always peed with the bath door open. Went swimming naked and quite a bit with him and my brothers, and my uncles. Nudity was very casual.

I think it's a good thing for boys to see their fathers naked from time to time. And, if there are older brothers in varying stages of development, them too so there aren't any surprises when puberty comes along. My family (great people) were strict about modesty so when I started to grow pubic hair, I didn't know what to think.

Never saw Dad naked. Family nudity was discouraged.

My father would come home from work and take off his suit and tie and just hang out in his undies. I remember he would shave his face and wear his undies while shaving. I was very young so I didn't think anything of it. There were occasions that to save time and hot water, my mother would tell my father to take me into the shower and we both showered together, but again, I was to young to understand anything.

When my parents got divorced, my father wasn't around in my life anymore and eventually my mother started dating a guy younger then her. He was in his mid-30's and my mother at the time was in her 40's (My mother had me later in life). Her boyfriend would walk around the house in his undies and at this point I was a teenager and I walked around my house in my undies. Her boyfriend did teach me a lot. When m mother was shopping or with her friends and would leave for long periods of time, her boyfriend would watch porn on VHS and I caught him jerking off, when he caught me, he told me to watch it with him and I got an erection and he started feeling my dick through my undies and then he would jerk me off and I would eventually jerk him off and we would do oral together.

He introduced me to poppers, anal sex, and lots of oral sex as well throughout the years.

My dad and I saw each other naked. I don't think any of it was “bonding,” though.

My dad left my life at a young age , when my mom adopted me we saw each other naked a million times between Scandinavian extreme hot/cold saunas and time spent at a nudist beach or skinny dipping at a glacial lake ( it was not open for swimming to the general public , if you new the security after hours at night , your clothes always fell off before you slipped on the dock and ended up in the water ,LOL ) I absolutely don’t now or then miss my fathers company ( legally I don’t have a father as he was stripped of his parental rights for abuse ).

A while back, I was at the gym one day and in the locker room, there was a father with his pre-teen son who were showering in the open together, and chatting in the dressing area, fully nude while taking their time to put their clothes back on...., how many of you had (non-sexual of course) naked bonding time with your fathers?

Reverend Dobson would cherish the image your anecdote evokes.

I'm glad my parents respectfully observed nudity boundaries. No desire to shower with my dad & I'm glad it never happened. .

That said, I've had life long fantasies of being a college boy renting a room in elderly people's homes (male and/or female parental figured) where they'd encourage me to go naked in front of them, but not vice versa -- but that's just plain kinky of me, ain't it?

It was not unusual to see my dad naked in the bedroom or the bathroom or me to be seen naked by him from toddler to teen. As the family prepared for church on Sundays I was usually in the bathroom with him either sitting in the tub as dad showered above me (when little) or standing next to him (until age 11 ish). I have memories of sitting in the tub as dad stood naked at the sink shaving.

That was about the extent of being naked together except for changing in swimming pool locker rooms, etc. We never 'hung out' naked or anything like that, but neither of us felt a need to cover up when seen.

My sub never had non-sexual naked time with our son. It was never needed or an opportunity.

I cannot speak to more recent times but back in the 80's and 90's when I was a regular at the YMCA there often were fathers and sons nude in the locker room and showers together. Was it a bonding experience ? I don't know for a fact but I imagine on some level it was.

I do know of a more recent experience that a young man that I knew at the time related to me. It was in the early 2000s and a massive hurricane blew through the area. I live in a semi rural area and many people rely on wells for their water. The storm knocked out the power pretty extensively and when the power goes out there is no water. So one of the schools which had city water opened up the school for neighbors to use the showers and bathroom facilities early in the morning before school started.

I know a young man who was a high school student at the time and he told me that at first it was weird showering with his father as they had hardly seen each other naked at home. But as time went on - they had no power for 3 weeks - he said that showering with his dad became normalized and he started to like it, and when the power was restored and they no longer had to use the school showers, he actually missed the bonding experience that the showers afforded him.

In the 1980's I belonged to a health club. During the week it was exclusively adults but on the weekends there were blocks of time for children to use the pool. During those times it was normal to see fathers and their sons in the locker room showering and changing in and out of swimwear together. It became routine to see dads and sons alongside other men in the locker room. Everyone seemed relaxed and unhurried at those times. Boys and men felt no need to cover themselves as they moved about naked.

My current health club has similar policies, but locker room behavior is much more modesty driven. The boys are reluctant to been seen naked and the dads work to minimize their exposure. The dads in turn also tend to cover themselves more than they might when their sons weren't present. Kind of a shame I think.

The Korean spa that I go to now and then in NJ is family friendly and it’s not uncommon to see fathers with their sons naked together in the bath house section. Bath house culture in Korea and Japan is pretty ancient and there’s no shame about enjoying the pools, dry sauna and steam rooms naked with others.

The only time I ever recall seeing my dad naked was if we were at the gym together. There was no bonding or talking; just getting changed or showering.