Libido peaks and troughs

Thought I'd throw this out there. I'm a guy in his early 40s. For the last 20 years or more, I've monitored an almost ‘period’ like fluctuation to my libido. Bear with me. For about 3-3.5 weeks, my libido is high, no question. Then it tales off for about 3-5 days, then restarts. I'm also more tired around the time of tale-off. Any other male experienced this? Any one else ever observed it? Maybe its just me, but thought I'd share to see if I'm alone or not. Let me know what you think?

Undoubtedly libido fluctuates. But mine doesn't seem to have any real fixed cycle.

One (depressing) thing I have noticed is that when the weather changes from high pressure sunny to low pressure rainy, my libido takes a big dip too. I hate this transition between weather types. And I can usually say that on sunny, hot, good weather days, my libido and a lot else is much higher.

The more active I am - the higher my sex drive. Sometimes just waking up is being active enough!!

Being out in the sunshine is addictive - I get grumpy when I'm stuck in the house. Sunshine also increases my interest in sex.

Sometimes just waking up is being active enough!!

Thanks - needed the laugh 😄

Every guy should monitor these peaks and valleys and they will be surprised at what they find. All men have cycles although not generated as women's cycles. All men are different and these cycles are different. Try it and you will see your sex drive and and other behaviors like mood swings will start to have a pattern. I did this as part of a college project and I was as surprised as you will be.

Every guy should monitor these peaks and valleys and they will be surprised at what they find. All men have cycles although not generated as women's cycles. All men are different and these cycles are different. Try it and you will see your sex drive and and other behaviors like mood swings will start to have a pattern. I did this as part of a college project and I was as surprised as you will be.

@Bithesea Could this be related to one's biorhythms??? Biorhythm curves describe very well the energy levels and the capacity for performance on 3 Primary levels: physical (33 day cycle), emotional (28 day cycle), and intellectual (23 day cycle). Supposedly something magical happens when the three cycles sync up which certainly could manifest as increase or decrease in libido.

Guys, thanks so far for your comments. Looks like I'm not the only one afterall. Sunshine definately boosts things too (I think many can relate to) but there is a cycle to it, as others have also commented. Up until now, I have never charted it, but might create a little spreadsheet (who doesn't love one of those) to map it out…

There are obviously many other factors that affect a person's libido, things like anxiety for any number of reasons, emotional or personal turmoil, job insecurity, financial problems etc.

Meaning I doubt that people will have clear-cut and predictable libido surges, nothing that one could calculate to a dependable degree or make predictions about.

Interesting and agree. I notice it myself. Like you, I’ve been curious about the ebb and flow (no pun intended) of my libido, and if there are similarities and or triggers that start or end a cycle. I have kept a regular diary of when I masturbate, what might trigger the desire on that day, and/or what thoughts or material I may use in the process. I’ve discovered there is a repertoire to my arousal.

My ‘down’ cycle can be initiated by a number of things: excessive masturbation, partner sex, work, stress, any number of things. Sometimes, it is welcome and other times I worry if I’ll ever get my libido back. Working from home by myself and traveling by myself are usually commonalities when my libido is high.

While I know there are a few phone apps on the market that do similar (allow you to track and log all sexual activity), I have an idea for one that I think could reveal so much to the user about their sex drive, arousal, triggers, fetishes, etc. I just don’t know how to create such an app or know of someone with this skill. If you know of someone or have that skill yourself, I would certainly be interested in a partnership to develop something for commercial distribution.

One challenge with my little diary is that when I think about it, the clinical nature of its purpose and what I’m trying to accomplish with it just makes me want to masturbate more. So, I don’t know if I’m getting a real reading on my libido or if it’s falsely elevated for scientific purposes. It’s sorta like running with music, right? Is it me or the music that causes the endurance and speed?

Love the topic. Definitely worth exploring further. BTW, I do track my partner sex too, and YTD, I’ve masturbated to ejaculation about 10 times more than I’ve fornicated.

@Rigel Yes, very much so although I never knew there were exact numbers to each cycle. I am sure there are others who have done much more research than me.

Working from home by myself and traveling by myself are usually commonalities when my libido is high.

I suppose there are also specific triggers/events/circumstances that can suddenly cause a surge in libido.

Referring to the above, I know mine usually gets a jolt from ‘exploring’ abandoned buildings, especially old factories or industrial sites. Since I seldom plan this, I encounter such places by happenstance or luck and once busy inside, taking photo's and whatnot, I can usually feel a surge coming which will persist afterwards. I don't do anything about it when inside such places, though I often feel a strong urge to undress and continue nude - which is usually unadvisable for any number of reasons as cold temperature, insects, debris or stumbling across others …

My sub recently, in the last few years, has had a lower libido. He arises to the occasion when I initiate things. I'm not sure, but suspect it is partly because of some of effects of his health issues, medication, and a perceived loss of his masculinity due to both of the above.

Prior to that it didn't fluctuate too much up or down. It was pretty even.

@agracier er when inside such places, though I often feel a strong urge to undress and continue nude -

I'd get a similar feeling when being in a forest - though for me it would be to be wearing just women's panties…