Men wearing pads

My situation is I'm a pretty big guy that is overweight and have developed a hidden penis. To make it worse I wear incontinent pads daily. Am able to get an erection it grows to usual 5 - 5½ inches. Speaking of the pads I used the depends guards mostly, like them, they are pretty good. Tried the Tena pads for men, the delta shape did'nt work to well for me. Last week received a advertising card in the mail addressed to me advertising the Tena “Intimate” pads. They had a lady on the advertising piece. My wife prefers Poise Pads and I asked her if she wanted to use the coupon. She said I don't use that brand and I replied maybe I'll try them. She I think they are for ladies and I said back what's the difference - pads are pads! I did buy them and have been wearing this week and really like them, very absorbent and the are not as hot when wearing versus the depends.

As I started becoming incontinent I started using male pads. I tried a couple of different brands only to find them always leaking.

Then I started using female overnight pads such as Poise and Tena ultimate. The Poise pads work well because of the standing leak guards and being a thicker pad.

The Tena ultimate pads worked ok. They don't have leak guards and being a thinner pad. They are shaped like a long triangle with the intention of wider end towards the back for a female. I would just use them inverted.

I didn't use pads for very long because of my increasing incontinence pads wasn't near enough protection for my needs.

I was having similar issues and was thinking about wearing pads full time (I already wear adult diapers sometimes, but I dont really like to wear them all the time). However I started flomax and ever since, the issues Ive had with both urgency and leaking have just about gone away thankfully (for now at least lol)

I have used Poise pads but didn't like the shape, too narrow. I like the Depends guards max they hold a full bladder and more if they are placed right. I tried the light ones but ended up peeing my pants more than once.

I tried a tampon after an enema, bruh is that the word? Didn't do much for me

I have tried pads in my shorts with more leakage than I care for. Next, I tried pads in panties, much better, but sill leakage occurred. Finally I switched to cloth diapers and plastic pants.

I have tried the male, and female pads back in the day. Over time I needed more protection, and started using pull-up during the day, and diapers at night. I now wear the always discreet pull-ups at work, and I need diapers at night.