When did you start dominating

Wondering how did You start a career/first time experience with dominating slaves or slaves being dominated.

Totally by accident. My marriage was going down hill, and one night after a row and whilst slightly pissed I started to order my husband to do things and much to my surprise he obeyed.

Seeing that he was a miliary man at the time, I can only assume his training to obey orders kicked in.

I was looking for someone to be accountable to in regard to my weightloss. I half suggested to a Zity member he could be my Dom and keep me on the straight and narrow as I know I love to please people. He agreed. At the time I was not aware he had not been a Dom before.

Recently a different Zity member asked me to be his Mistress, so I am now exploring both sides of the coin so to speak.

I started dominating not long ago….. I have always be a sub, I still am to My Lady here…. but I found this another great lady here, and we start to talk more and seems it ended with me dominating her….. it is a bit diferent to me…..but I think subs became best dom/domme sometimes….. I am new on this and improving my Dom skills, sometimes I think I fail miserably on that, but she said I am not, so I take her word. 😃

Is a new world that I do want to see more, I am a pleasure giver, and do that, dominating a person, became very satisfying and erotic to me.

And to know that a person trust you so much to be your sub is amazing too.

Be safe

Za

Looking back at my childhood, I always was the one “in charge”. So I guess I have practiced a lot during my youth… ;-)

But when growing up, my first experience was with a girlfriend. We were experimenting a lot on a vanilla level. Discovering that world, so to speak.

At some moment we went away to a cottage to spend the weekend. When we drove to it, she was teasing quite a lot. So I suggested it was better for her to obey me during the whole weekend, to prevent her from getting into trouble. During the ride that idea grow further between the two of us. She was open to it, made suggestion what she would like and I shared my own fantasies about it.

So when right away when we entered the cottage her domination began and it was a memorable weekend for both of us.

I started dominating not long ago….. I have always be a sub, I still am to My Lady here…. but I found this another great lady here, and we start to talk more and seems it ended with me dominating her….. it is a bit diferent to me…..but I think subs became best dom/domme sometimes….. I am new on this and improving my Dom skills, sometimes I think I fail miserably on that, but she said I am not, so I take her word. 😃

Is a new world that I do want to see more, I am a pleasure giver, and do that, dominating a person, became very satisfying and erotic to me.

And to know that a person trust you so much to be your sub is amazing too.

Be safe

Za

@zaboots,

I’ve always been a Switch, but didn’t really know it until my mid-20’s when I first had the courage to tell my GF that I had all my 5-6 fetishes and wanted to dress her in rubber (our SCUBA Diving wetsuits then) and sneakers and give her enemas as part of our sex life. se both loved it, and I also discovered with her the intense pleasures of her Domme-inating me when she put me in rubber and gave me enemas under her control. I’m still a switch to this day, nearing 70 (in 17 days) but still have an extremely strong desire to be sub when my (ex-) GFs or wife dresses me in rubber, sneakers and bondage and “forces” huge enemas into me before she starts working on mutual orgasms for us.

Oh, yes, almost forgot this crucial point (thank you, Za, for the reminder): as Za discovered,

“And to know that a person trust you so much to be your sub is amazing too.”

Which is one of the best parts of being Dom(me) to someone you desire. 👍🏻

Eric

Thanks for all the stories really wanting to try to be dominated or dominating, it’s really difficult to find anything here.

Or the Doms usually want you to pay them for their service.

When the mental became as important as the physical. When i realized I could only get what I desired through her, and she me.

The seed was probably planted when I was a kid and used to tie up a girl when we were playing “Robin Hood and Maid Marion” I found I really enjoyed her helplessness and being able to tickle her until she begged me to stop before she peed her knickers. She also “allowed” me a bit of exploration of her body whilst she was tied up. Of course she would protest vigorously, but always wanted to play that game the next time we met.

I often wonder how far it would have gone if I had not moved.

The seed was probably planted when I was a kid and used to tie up a girl when we were playing “Robin Hood and Maid Marion” I found I really enjoyed her helplessness and being able to tickle her until she begged me to stop before she peed her knickers. She also “allowed” me a bit of exploration of her body whilst she was tied up. Of course she would protest vigorously, but always wanted to play that game the next time we met.

I often wonder how far it would have gone if I had not moved.

How old were you two?

The seed was probably planted when I was a kid and used to tie up a girl when we were playing “Robin Hood and Maid Marion” I found I really enjoyed her helplessness and being able to tickle her until she begged me to stop before she peed her knickers. She also “allowed” me a bit of exploration of her body whilst she was tied up. Of course she would protest vigorously, but always wanted to play that game the next time we met.

I often wonder how far it would have gone if I had not moved.

That's similar to Susie's experience. She started tying up friends as play when she was 10-11. It progressively got more serious.

https://en.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=277386

That's similar to Susie's experience. She started tying up friends as play when she was 10-11. It progressively got more serious.

It's great that we still have Susie's input by proxy.

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I think we were probably about 10 @Aura1

Officially I was asked by my sub in 2003 to dominate him. It was a very low point in our relationship. We really had no where to go but up or apart. We chose up…together.

Looking back at my past I was a bit dominant for many years before. It is just as I've aged it doesn't get less.

Interesting conversation. In my opinion, most women do not like to dominate their man/husband/boyfriend. They like to have their way in many things, but domination and all that it can mean, just does not seem common in women. And, to have your women actually spank you or give you enemas is just not something many women would do. This has caused more then one marriage and relationship to hit the rocks.Lucky people who find their life mate who is compatible in this area.