Gay guys sucking straight guys

There are many straight guys who let some bi or gay guys give them blowjobs. They don't do anything in return, and that way they are not “DOING anything ‘gay’.”. I've talked with several friends on both sides of that equation…. With almost all of the straight guys saying that it's a better experience then with their girlfriend or wife. And the friends I've talked to who have done the work.. LOL.. have said they are fine with not having anything reciprocal done because it's an enjoyable experience to do. Also, I've traveled and worked a lot in South America, and was surprised to see how open and generally comfortable most straight guys are about getting oral sex from another guy. What are your experiences and thoughts about this?

All that matters is that both parties get what they need so it doesn't really matter what they want to call it but in reality, both the giver and the receiver are both taking part in gay sex😉

I reckon if a guy is getting oral sex from another guy, then he is either gay or bi. I don't think you can say he is straight. Although that might be what he would tell you.

Whatever turns your crank. People can get too hung up on labels. If it makes you happy and it isn't hurting anyone, go for it.

I think if a guy who thinks that he is straight but does allow or seek out guys who will give hmm BJs, is in his mind rationalizing this behavior not to feel guilty about engaging in same sex behavior. If he thinks that I am not participating in any sexual touching of that guy then I am not really gay/bi. I don't want to come off as judging these guys or cast any negatives on them. But I would be willing to speculate that deep down they are bisexual and have been made to feel that anything other than being heterosexual is shameful. Coming to terms with your own sexual identity can be a very rough and long road for some. I think there are lots of guys who view themselves as masculine heterosexuals because that gives them a sexual identity that is viewed as normal and positive by the society and environment they grew up in. If there is shame, stigma and ridicule by peer groups of same sex behavior, then it is terrifying to think you have sexual desires with another same sex partner. It creates a potent conflict in that person's mind between how they want to view themselves and deeply suppressed sexual desires that says you are not heterosexual.

It seems this conflict of sexual identity causes significant anxiety until it is resolved. For many once they come to terms with matching their sexual desires with a positive sexual self identity it resolves the conflict. Self acceptance makes the weight of the guilt go away. Many men who lived public heterosexual lives come out later in life and admit they are gay or bi- this seems to be a common occurrence. It's never too late reconcile your sexual identity with what you have been feeling for a lifetime.

@LordJim2 I reckon if a guy is getting oral sex from another guy, then he is either gay or bi. I don't think you can say he is straight. Although that might be what he would tell you.

Whatever turns your crank. People can get too hung up on labels. If it makes you happy and it isn't hurting anyone, go for it.

My feeling too! Also, nothing says a person's interests are, or become, cast in stone.

Back in my early days 1950s we always acted as straight especially in school or other public places,bowling ally’s ,pool halls etc. However behind closed doors things became different! These days kids flaunt their sexuality with tight pants,purple hair lipstick, faces that looking like they fell into my fishing tackle box! How do parents allow their kids to be like that ! If my dad saw me like that he would have beat me to death!

During hearing hurricane Hugo we were cleaning up the post Sergeant major's office and blown down trees and stuff we were talking about blowjobs thought we were going to get in trouble when he walked out.

He said:

It doesn't matter who gives you a blowjob you just need a blanket and magazine

Some straight guys just see you as a cum receptical.Your not as much a guy as you are someone they can get off on. So to them they aren't bi or gay just a straight guy getting off.

So to them they aren't bi or gay just a straight guy getting off.

Agree that is what they may think, or want to believe. But they have definitely crossed into bisexual territory. A straight guy wouldn’t knowingly do that.

My only comment about this is that typically, the reason why any guy likes a BJ from another guy is that when a guy committs to giving a BJ, it is because he loves giving a BJ and loves swallowing the cum. The experience is better thanks to the fact the guy giving it loves ginving it AND that he knows better how to treat the penis since he is an owner of one.

Agree that is what they may think, or want to believe. But they have definitely crossed into the bisexual territory. A straight guy wouldn’t knowingly do that.

I have to agree that he has crossed over to bisexual territory. NOT SO BAD to experiment with others. Hell, you might find something in life you have been missing. People need to stop stigmatizing people's sexual selections. Throw away the labels we tag on different sexual preferences. Experiment safely and enjoy your fellow woman, man, or whatever you call yourself these days.

If some guy wants to give me a BJ I would definitely want to reciprocate.

Looking at things another way round, what I find strange is that when viewing ‘straight’ porn sites (to do with fisting for example) why is it that seemingly straight men seem to get pleasure in having a penis shape butt plug slid into them, and not prostate or similar toys that are not penis shaped? Could it be that they would like a man's penis in them, but the real thing would be too gay or they wouldn't like a bi- label attached to them?

Being gay, I have been with quite a few straight guys usually just blow job's or rimming. Alot of them don't see it as cheating as it's with another man. Sometimes it is just because they want to get off and wife won't try that. I had one guy he was married with 4 kids and I gave him a BJ to complete. Next time I saw him he asked if we could talk. He wanted to know if his penis was good enough from a gay man's perspective. I thought that was funny but I told him he had a really nice piece and he came back 6 more times.

Next time I saw him he asked if we could talk. He wanted to know if his penis was good enough from a gay man's perspective. I thought that was funny but I told him he had a really nice piece and he came back 6 more times.

Guess what, he wasn’t straight! 😶

I think there are lots of great comments, and a great topic, here's some of my thoughts/feelings.

Personally, i subscribe to the “spectrum theory” of human sexuality, and wow, it can be varied and complex, eh?

i think the myriad labels and terms we come up with like “Dom, Top, bottom, sub, versatile, straight, gay, bi, trans, ad infinitum,” can either serve us or we can serve them. Many object to “labels," not wanting to be defined or boxed by them. i do not believe labels ever define or box us, rather some will use them to define or box and end up trying to fit the person into the label. On the other hand, labels and terms are part of what we use to communicate and connect. We'd be kinda handicapped without words, terms, labels. i do not think there is anything intrinsically wrong with them, but how we use them, whether they serve us, or we serve them.

Where i am going with this is i think we spend a lot of time hiding from reality of who and how we feel because of the social reputation and baggage that comes with those who are serving labels. E.g., a guy grows up and lives primarily in say a conservative religious culture that has a negative take on male with male sex, calling it “perverse, sick, sin, etc..” So, even though his reality is he likes to have his cock sucked by other men, it violates his cultural conditioning.

i think we often are conflicted by the reality of who and how we are with the cultural notions of who and how we ‘should’ be. We spend a lot of time rationalizing to make ourselves fit our own particular cultures accepted ‘norm’ because we do not want to be rejected. At the same time, we are not really experiencing full acceptance of who we are, so some end up on the DL, getting their cock sucked in order to experience affirmation and acceptance of that part of their self.

i also believe, thrown in to the whole “spectrum” thing is the factor that some are Tops. i've been with a lot of guys who either bred me or i sucked, and they were in a relationship with a woman. i think with a lot of these guys, it's not a question so much of being straight, bi or gay, but they are Total Tops and are not wired to ‘reciprocate.’ As a total bottom, that suits me perfectly, we are sexually symbiotic. :-)

Why does everything always have to be so complicated? Do you really think that when a guy is offered a BJ by another guy, the first thing he thinks about is whether he's straight, gay, bi or something else? He will either allow it or refuse it, and there are different reasons for each. Maybe he just wants to have fun and doesn't care if the BJ is from a woman or a man. Or he just wants to know what the difference is. But maybe he refuses because he really only likes women or he just doesn't feel like a BJ. I personally describe myself as heteroflexible; I'm mostly straight but not averse to a little sexual adventure with guys. It's not about love for me, just about sex. For me, that's the difference between being gay and bisexual. But if someone calls me bisexual, I don't have a problem with that either. And I always have enough respect for the other person not to treat them as a sexual object.

@tallslenderguy ….. spectrum …..

Yes, I have come more and more to thinking the same. We tend to use labels - straight, bi, gay, etc. - as if they are rigid categories, but I believe they are not more than useful indicators. Useful so long as we don't get too fixated about them. They also, perhaps, say more about the perception someone has about themself, what they think they'd like or not like to do, or what they'd admit to themselves and others.

I don't think any males are 100% male, with no feminine traits or inclinations. It may often be 90-10 or even 95-5, or perhaps 80-20.

I always used to think of myself as hetero-normative, but I eventually accepted that I'd been in denial to the outside world and to myself. An experience when I was much younger, during a stay in hospital bed, a young male nurse came and washed me. He was slim and attractive, in fact slightly effemininate in appearance, very quietly spoken, and I enjoyed his gentle hands on me. It was only my arms, legs and torso, but I'd have like if he washed my ass crack, cock and scrotum as well. Afterwards I fantasised about that and meeting up with him. But I pushed those thoughts to the back of my mind.

I’m reminded of an experience I had years ago. I met a guy in his twenties and he wanted a head job (blow job), which I was happy to provide. It was clear from his talk that he had done this before and did it at least semi-regularly. Also that he had a girlfriend. After he came—powerfully, right down my throat—being new to the district, I thought I might learn something by asking where he went looking for sex. ‘I FUCK GIRLS!’ he replied. ‘Well, you’re not fucking one now,’ I thought, though I didn’t say it.

A few weeks later I saw him on the local train station with what I presume was his girlfriend. He noticed me, said something to girlfriend, and they walked off to the other end of the station. :/

How would all that apply to guys giving, receiving or exchanging enemas.

I don't have experience with this, but also never had the opportunity. I consider myself straight, being married with children, but also can see the straight/bi/gay labels as more of a spectrum, with many folks needing a black and white distinction for their own ego. As I mentioned, I was never in a situation where this was an option, but I suspect in my single days would have accepted if the timing was right. I'm past that availability now, unless was somehow in a scenario where my wife wanted to watch, though I don't see that as likely.

I just can't see myself in that situation. But for others it works

As a gay male, I have given blow jobs to straight/ bi/ and gay males. The male I'm sucking has always enjoyed me doing him, as have I. And no, I don't require reciprocation, I enjoy the act, and it's reward of sperm for me. Very tasty, and satisfying for me!

@Funforus : I absolutely agree with you. If I give or receive a BJ, I don't ask about the sexual orientation of the other. So far it has always been a very satisfactory experience, regardless of whether I am active or passive. I got my best BJ from other men (sorry girls). A guy knows best what another guy likes. I also like to implement that actively.

I got my best BJ from other men (sorry girls). A guy knows best what another guy likes.

Back in the days of the 'Sexual Revolution' in the 1960s-70s, the onus was virtually always on men, as they were blamed for not knowing how to approach and manipulate the female body to provide maximum pleasure for a female partner.

While true enough to a degree, due to prudishness and the social unacceptability of being given practical sex classes or training, one has to admit that girlfriends/ladies didn't always know how to provide specific sexual pleasure for men either (beyond pumping a prick by hand). The specifics of manipulating men's sexual organs is also something that requires more than just a bit of basic pulling or sucking.

@agracier I suspect you are correct there. Even a good bit more recent, telling a partner that doing 'X' is a nice sensation was often a source of almost shame. Especially for women. Telling a guy that just shoving his fingers in and out isn't the nicest way to get a woman off.

We still have a fair bit of that even now, how many of us with kinks won't tell wives or husbands etc.

I would love to have another guy give me a BJ, or even having another guy give me a good hand job. Opening myself intimately to another is what would be important to me, and if that happens to be with a man that’s fine.

@agracier Very true, it takes some habit. I had a few inexperienced girlfriends and, if I recall correctly, they tended to try giving handjobs by rubbing up and down energetically as the cliché of boys wanking. I'm not even sure that this is pleasurable for an uncircumcised man; it definitely could hurt me. I had to do a bit of teaching.