Does anyone else wish they got more spankings growing up?

I was spanked only as a young child in the 90's. I believe I was around 5 years old when my parents stopped spanking me and my older brothers.

Because I was only 5 I just have vague memories of getting spanked. All I remember is bending over a bed and getting spanked bare bottom with a belt by my Dad. I'm sure my two brothers (who are almost 7 and 3 years older than me) have much more vivid (and probably harsher) spanking memories than I do.

Over the years my dad actually apologized for spanking us but little does he know that I kinda wish the spankings continued for at least a few more years. I was generally a calm, controlled, and behaved child but I'm sure there were still times during my age 5-10 years (and maybe beyond) where I could have used a good old fashioned bare bottom spanking. But more significantly I wish my spanking memories were more vivid and plentiful.

I also wish I was subject to the occasional sound spanking from other adults as well. Especially from a friend's mom or a babysitter. I want to know what it's like waiting my turn in line watching a friend get their buns burned knowing my bare buns are next as I fear it being even worse than what I get at home.

Does anyone else feel similarly?

I gotta wonder now if the trauma of corporal punishment either happens to a lesser degree in people with a fetish for it, or if the fetish is how the trauma manifests itself, lol

(Obviously not the only reason for having a fetish for it of course, I've never had a hand laid on me and I'm still turned on by it in a BDSM-y context.)

I got them pretty regularly til I moved out so no. If I happened to need or want one it wasn’t too hard to get. Ha

I gotta wonder now if the trauma of corporal punishment either happens to a lesser degree in people with a fetish for it, or if the fetish is how the trauma manifests itself, lol

I think it is a “chicken and the egg” anomaly. I don't believe my fetish was caused by a childhood experience - but others do theirs. Doesn't matter, as long as I/we enjoy it and do not feel at all guilty about it.

I was spanked as a child in the late 80s and early 90s and I hated it. My parents just grabbed and hit. There was never any talking about my infraction or a calm down period or even a go to your room and wait type of ritual. But I’ve always (even as a kid) fantasized about spanking from people other than my parents. But I wanted it more as a part of feeling loved or nurtured. I fantasized about getting it from everyone from friends’ moms to teachers to actresses on tv shows I liked.

I don't think so. I hated them growing up. I started spanking my girl friends in college. They weren't hard spankings and they liked them. Perhaps the fact that I was playing with their clits at the same time had something to do with it. Then one day, I met with a Dom who spanked me while giving me an enema. The combined sensations was fantastic so now it's part of the play.

Never got spanked when i was young kid,but i got the cane across my arse quite a few times when i was at school,and believe me there was nothing sexual about that,having 6 of the best,your arse was smarting and painful for a good while,you didnt rush back for more thats for sure.

According to my mom, I was quite a “handful” growing up and was spanked all the way through high school and occasionally while in college by only my mother. I never really did anything seriously bad but I think mom felt it best to make sure I did not “stray” farther than 'the straight and narrow". Spankings were never ever done in anger and with a great deal of love and care. As a result, I felt very close to my mom as I think she understood me and deeply cared for me even to this this day. That being said, she knew how to get her point across and my bottom was hot and stinging whenever I was spanked. Now for the question…..I think maybe sometimes that I wished that I was spanked more often growing up. !! Denise

YES YES YES….

I hated spankings and did everything I could to avoid them, that said. The once or occasionally couple times a year I was spanked made a major impression on me… i felt better and i was a very well behaved boy for weeks after I was spanked. i honestly think it i had got it more it would have been better.

I was spanked a lot during my childhood and early adolesence, with the peak years of my spankings being before 10 years old, and then continuing to a lesser frequency afterwar until I received my last spanking at age 13. During most of my childhood, I hated being spanked and did everything I could do to avoid them. (Although at the same time, I developed quite an arousal at the sounds and sights of other kids getting spanked, usually at school.) It was only at my very last spanking at age 13 that I really appreciated how cool and arousing and erotic being spanked was, and I regret it ended there. I kind of wish they continued for a little longer (and I wish I would have been aware of my interest enough to submit to them and not fight them). I do appreciate at least being aware of how cool it was to be spanked when it happened at age 13.

One more thing: although my parents (my father really) stopped spanking me at 13, my parents had a reputation for being strict. There was some truth to it, but only up to a point. Although this was only partially true, I kinda liked the idea that others though they were super strict. One time, I was caught passing a note to another student in a high school class, and the teacher (a friend of my parents) did not get me in trouble, but did say to me in front of the whole class that he knew my parents, and that if they found out they would “beat my butt.” I shrugged it off, but I actually got a little aroused at the image he presented to the class that I supposedly still got spanked (even though this was years after my last spanking).

While I was never spanked while growing up, I heard plenty of spankings being administered to my buddies with a paddle or a strop, and I've spent my entire adult life wishing I'd gotten the same as a kid. Despite the howling that came with my buddies getting spanked, I actually envied them, I felt left out and still do. My dad actually had a strop, which he never used for punishment and which I would use to “sneak” self punishment with as often as I could. and even though I could get dad's strop to produce a pretty good sting on my butt, I still knew it was very far from the authentic stroppings my buddies would get.

I didn't have to wish for it, I got it growing up until I left for college. I got more spanking when I came home for breaks. While still living at home after I left college I was still spanked on my naughty bare bottom when I needed it and sometimes just because my Mom, Step=Dad, Aunt or Uncle wanted to spank. , Even today, at 76, I am still spanked by my partner for various offenses.

I was born in 1986 and my Southern mom was a firm believer in spanking. Despite this, I still craved more and found a few kids my age, boys and girls, to spank me. My female cousin, 2 years younger than me, spanked me a lot when she caught me spanking myself. In high school, my gf's and I used to play “Spanking Poker”. I remember throwing away winning hands just to get spanked!

I was born in 1986 and my Southern mom was a firm believer in spanking. Despite this, I still craved more and found a few kids my age, boys and girls, to spank me. My female cousin, 2 years younger than me, spanked me a lot when she caught me spanking myself. In high school, my gf's and I used to play “Spanking Poker”. I remember throwing away winning hands just to get spanked!

I was born in 1986 and my Southern mom was a firm believer in spanking. Despite this, I still craved more and found a few kids my age, boys and girls, to spank me. My female cousin, 2 years younger than me, spanked me a lot when she caught me spanking myself. In high school, my gf's and I used to play “Spanking Poker”. I remember throwing away winning hands just to get spanked!

Why didn't your mother's spankings satisfy you? Were they not hard enough, long enough, or often enough? Did you ever get in trouble on purpose to earn yourself a spanking? Or even straight up ask her for a spanking?

I wish I had been spanked more. I didn't totally miss out, though. I got spanked a few times growing up, and they were definitely effective both as a punishment and deterrent. At the same time I would often push my limits as far as I could. I think getting spanked more, especially as a teenager, would've helped keep me from having to learn some lessons the hard way. I also think I would've had more of a bond with my parents.

I was spanked pretty regularly by my mon growing up. But the spankings I came by to enjoy were delivered by my best friends mom who was my second mom. At home I was spanked in private but my second mom spanked me in front of my friend and his sister. They were long and hard and the added embarrassment of being brought to tears in front of my friend and being bare in front of his sister clicked with me. I wish those spankings had been more frequent.

I've mentioned this before, but it plays on my mind that as a young teen I became aware of my aunt and her adult daughter having unusual interest in discipline and whippings as they called it… long and short of the this - I came close to getting a whipping from my cousin who wanted me to follow her to the cellar of her large home where she said she would correct my poor teenage behavior … At the time, I wanted no part of that, but now as a horny old goat I now fantasize about this…

I was spanked pretty regularly by my mon growing up. But the spankings I came by to enjoy were delivered by my best friends mom who was my second mom. At home I was spanked in private but my second mom spanked me in front of my friend and his sister. They were long and hard and the added embarrassment of being brought to tears in front of my friend and being bare in front of his sister clicked with me. I wish those spankings had been more frequent.

I'm jealous. I wish I had a 2nd mom who spanked me like that.

Did you enjoy the spankings at the time or is it just in hindsight you wish she spanked you more? Did you ever get in trouble on purpose so your 2nd mom would give you a good spanking? Did she spank longer, harder, or with a different implement compared to your mom? Did she also spank your friend and his sister in front of you?

Yes, I wished that I would have gotten spanked more as kid and teenager. I only got whooped once with a belt by my dad. My mom was more of a pincher. I beat up my younger brother because he was such a pest. My dad grabbed me by the arm and took me to my parents bedroom. I was scared but sort of excited because I heard some of my friends got spanked on the bare butt. I wondered if he was going to take my shorts and panties down. He told me to bend over the bed. I bend over the bend and I waited for him to pull my shorts and panties down but I just felt the sting of the belt and I cried. After he whooped me, I so often craved for him to whoop me again. I even fantasized him pulling my shorts and panties down and giving me a good spanking on my bare butt.

I got plenty of hairbrush and belt spankings as a kid…. always from my mom…. I wish I could get more today tho…. I find myself craving them

Oh Gosh ! There were a lot of “naughty +” misdeeds I did and never got caught/spanked for--especially at age 9--11 (when most boys) are in the full flower of disobeying/rule breaking/are attitudinal/sassy or doing bratty misdeeds. I'd say I got spanked for 80% of my boyhood misbehaviors…but I escaped the other 20%…

12bumblebees, If I got caught for 80% of the things that I did, especially in high school, I STILL would not be sitting down properly for many years to come!

I think I got spanked plenty when I was growing up for all sorts of misdeeds,now as an adult I wish I could get spanked more

The canings i got in school were enough for me,they never turned me on as they were painful to say the least.

100%

I never got a “real” spanking growing up, just once or twice when very young a single swat on my clothes behind — and not all that hard.

I really wish that at least once I had experienced a “good old fashioned” spanking. Bare bottom, over mom’s knee, with a hairbrush. For years I was obsessively curious about it and, even though I was also simultaneously scared and embarrassed by it, I feel like I missed out on an experience that can’t really be replicated as an adult.

When I was around 12-13 I even began contemplating asking my mom to spank me, Ultimately I never had the nerve to go through with it. And honestly I have no idea how she would have reacted, or if she would have just dismissed it as silly.

I think I can honestly say though, that it’s not just a fantasy thing. I‘m not sure if I would have wanted to be regularly spanked my whole childhood, but I definitely wished then, and wish now, that once at the age of 12-13 Mom had given me a real spanking.

I got spanked regularly and aplenty while growing up. Bare bum most of the time. Even through college. With hands, canes, hairbrushes, wooden spoons, rulers et al. And my mother still says she should have spanked me more. Some relatives put me over their knee too since they had permission from mum. So no, I don't wish I would have gotten more.

Yes

Hi Adam

Love your post on here I think a lot of boys growing up think about spankings from mom if they haven't had any I can tell you from personal experience and at the 12\13 age you suggested that it is very embarrassing being over mum's knee at that age but at the same time I was so turned on by it as well and if course it hurt but I didn't want it to stop , so I'd go out of my way to be naughty , please feel free to ask my anything more in the subject

No. Got enough spankings to learn not to do the behavior or atleast not get caught the next time.