Do I put myself in adult diapers since I have an overactive bladder?

I came across this question someone else was asking and this is my honourest response to that particular emotive subject

I would say yes as this would be the most sensible approach as it will save you from any embarrassing accidents,

I took this very decision back in 2010, see my previous replies.

And I have never looked back since as I know that I made the right choices.

However it's entirely up to you how you manage your incontinence problems.

Frequently over active bladder is “the wake up call” that gets you to the doctor to be evaluated,in many many cases it is vthe tip of the iceberg of urinary or bladder dysfunction that has been going on awhile .

People think of Incontinence as a disease ,its generally realy not ,its a symptom of another condition.somewhere in your body ,and chances are good unless its related to enlarged prostate or cancer of the prostate by the time you see a doctor about it ,your not going to fix it ,there's diapers,medication and cathters in your future (most of the medications are a bad idea ,most people don't even finish the first month before saying NO,medications are a hard fail in about 93% of patients ) as for cathters and diapers I have no problem using both of them for my myriad of incontinence issues and have for many years .my situation happens to require using both.

I am always leaking ,yet at same time my bladder never fully empties on its own ,so 5 X's a day I am cathed and have my diaper changed ,on a good day my bowel medication and bladder leaks cooperate and I can be changed less because I am wet and messy in just 4 diaper instead of like 8 or 9 .

I maybe biased due to needing diapers for so long ,however every adult should have the clarity of thought to know admit and apply diapers when and if they are required by physical or emotional need ( there's nothing wrong with wanting to wear ,however its a choice unlike a need).

It's the 21 st century people should not be afraid of some olde time stigma about diapers . They are just like eye glasses.hearing aides ,crutches,scooters ,casts,walkers,rollovers, wheelchairs etc etc… they exist to give you an adaption to help you live your best life ,you should not be afraid to use them as such.none of my friends or family think.less of me for needing diapers or are afraid to change me if needed in the infrequent occasion my aide is tied up providing for another need ( like preparing medication or taking orders from a doctor to give me another dose of medication to stop angina ,covulvisions etc…

When you normalize adult diaper use ,so will your friends and family.

The only difference between when I first needed them and today is back then premium medical and ABDL diapers didn't exist ,for truly a better experience I would start with no leaky lower performing diapers and head straight for higher performing more absorbent models .

If you think thinner is more discrete ,wet or soil yourself in a failing diaper in public once and you will understand a little puffiness can be hidden unlike a bowel or bladder blowout ,that you won't soon forget .

When my bladder problems started I tried all the pads that were available at the time and once it was obvious the problem was getting worse I tried catheters as well as the bags and just did not get on with any of them other than the pads were fairly good.

Eventually it came to the point where I got some pads and they leaked so then put on plastic pants over the top to prevent the leaks, over time frequency has increased leading to more capacity being needed and having tried another glue on the Willy appliance only to end up with the most appalling infection I realise nappies are the ONLY way forward.

Best of all they give me the assurance that when I start leaking I have time to rectify the problem before it becomes obvious to those around me.

I pray when you say glue on willy your talking the more modern condom caths that you don't seal on with foam tape ( for a minute I envisioned a guy with crazy glue ,and said nah nobody's that dumb ,and then I recalled the idiot that invented vagina glue ,that time of the month ? Skip the pads and tampons ,glue it shut until its convent, yeah I bet that was a proud moment in man's quest to control women's bodies ) stick what where to what for how long ?.

SAP you are correct and the kit I was given had no instructions on how to remove the glue residue and that irritated me so much that it formed eczema which then turned into a really nasty infection-never again !

@squirmy i am diabetic ,so I learned the wonders of Mastisol and Detachol ,obviously Mastisol is an adhesive ,its actually a surgical skin adhesive it will keep whatever glued on like insulin pumps and CGM patches .

Detachol is the glue remover ( I have personally not found an adhesive or residue yet that will not come off the skin or anything else ) they sell it both in bottles as well as small alcohol sized wipes in boxes of like 100.

Sorry about willy ,but now you know so there is never a next time ,if your hairy like me hospitals always have it to dissolve things like Tegaderm ( hypo allergenic occlusive dressing ) and tape ,commonly used in IV dressings or that “monster” glue on the Foley catheter securement patch they put on legs or abdomen. It beats a tape Brazilian wax ,LOL

Thanks for the Info SAP it is a pity that no one told me there was an “antidote” for all that stickyness and in those day's we had no internet to check things out on.

About two years ago due to over active bladder I decided to wear absorbent underwear with plastic pants to an exam with my GP. The 1hr trip there and back made for some near disasters on the way home.

That day my GP turned the exam over to his nurse practitioner. It was a nightmare. First she had to do my yearly digital rectal exam. Second, to do that she had to have a female witness. Added to the the Practitioner was very young. I'm shy about exposure so this became a very stressful situation fast! I proceeded to drop my shorts, thereby exposing my briefs and plastic pants. And submitted to a hugely embarrassing examination under the stern third party witness. To say I was glad to pul up my pants is was an understatement. After cleaning up under the supervision of the two women the Nurse Practitioner asked if I had seen a urologist. I'm sure in reference to my underwear. I told her I had discussed my condition with my doctor. She continued to inform me that I need to see a urologist. I tried to explain that I had a problem emotionally doing that. In a rather too forcefully voice to declared that not too many men would ever consider handling their problem the way I was. I was pretty well humiliated.

Fast forward to my last wellness check 6 months ago. On my way in my whitey tighties. (I ain't going thru that again) On the way home on a busy highway I got the bladder spasms that oab are known for. I lost the battle and made quite a mess of my pants and car seat. This was rather upsetting to wifey, more when I explained the attitude of that NP.

Last Monday, I fretted about what to do about my underwear with my upcoming exam. My wife suggested that she attend my exam with me and act as referee. So I padded up and off we went. To say I was nervous was an understatement. During the interview, I brought up that I was wearing protection and how my last visit ended up with some moist clothing. He looked at my wife as to say “you ok with this?” though no words were spoken. He asked if I saw a urologist to which I said no. That I wasn't ready to pursue further treatment. He is aware and treating my OAB and enlarged prostate. I think the “urologist” question was more a means of absolving his responsibility.

Anyways he is now aware and basically cool with my decision. Being ABDL has made this issue more than difficult. I have no desire to involve anyone in a private matter like that. Especially my caregivers. But the time has come that I need to accommodate my bladder issues. And not with surgery. I've been cut on enough. Its really nice to know next time I go for my 6 month exam I won't need to feel self conscious and judged. Hopefully this whole ordeal is in the past.

There is no reason to fear seeing a urologist. They have seen hundreds of other peoples' “junk”. I do find it a bit strange that your exam was witnessed by a second nurse if you are male. Such practice is usually reserved for a male urologist examining a female patient.

The digital rectal exam is standard practice. The doctor or NP wants to see if your prostate is enlarged and you have BPH, which can cause incomplete emptying when you pee, and also if you are constipated. A rectum, packed with poo, can press on your urethra, also causing an incomplete pee. This can happen in both men and women and is not well known.

If a urologist wants to do a rectal exam, you may well be instructed to use a Fleet enema or two before leaving home. Else they may just have you come in and, if poo interferes with the exam, their nurse will give you a Fleet then and there in the office and do the exam after the enema has made you poo.

I started having accidents several years ago. Mind you, I last wet at 13 years old. My wife discussed about the wetting, she didn't want wet sheets so diapers were the answer. There are no funny stuff her being dry doesn't know the feeling.