Newly incontinent...

Ok, so three months ago, I had a back surgery. Since then, I have been incontinent.

I have obviously seen the doctor that did the surgery many times but next week, I have to go to my gyno. I am very nervous.

What if I accidentally pee on her?

Will she see me as disgusting because I need to wear diapers?

If I sit on the table naked, I will leak. I don't want that. Can I wear my diaper until the exam starts or will she just unfasten the tabs?

If I wear it till the exam starts, it will be wet and then she will have a wet diaper in her face. What if I have a poop accident?

Has anybody else ever had to wear your diaper to the gyno? How did it work out?

Not to worry. Your doctor has seen it all….. and more too, probably.

Don't worry just cath your self for visit. If dr asks why tell him/her what happened.

My instinct would be to checkin at the Dr. office, put on a fresh diaper in the restroom for your own comfort, and then when you are called into the exam room and meet the Dr. explain to them exactly what you explained to us. The Dr. certainly has other patients like you, and your Dr. will be the best person to guide you through the process. They may have a preferred way to handle this that no one at zity has thought of yet. Honesty and straightforward communication, both ways, makes for the best Dr./patient relationship.

Miss Puffy Butt, I totally understand you and your concerns. I'm also incontinent from a spinal cord injury. I have been to numerous doctors and surgeons being incontinent. ( note use nothing plastic backed disposable diapers. ) Pretty much every time I go my diaper ends up needing removed for what ever reason.

What I do is change from my disposable diapers to pull up at the appointment. By doing this the pull up will be pretty fresh. The pull ups are much easier to pull down or to remove if necessary than a taped on disposable diapers. The disposable diaper is pretty much gonna be ruined anyway. After the exam I just put on a fresh disposable diaper.

I also let it be known up front to the nurses and doctors that I'm wearing a diaper for my condition and any concerns. I truly think this is best way. Whatever happens, happens as far as accidents. They should be able to deal with it professionally.

Miss Puffy Butt, Indiana's suggestion about using pull-ups seems very practical and easy to use. Your doctor has seen it all before and I'm sure will be very reassuring to you, as will their staff. While I am not a para, I have many friends who are and I they are all quite comfortable seeing their physicians regardless of their continence. My best to you, you have been so brave learning to live with your incontinence to quickly and wanting to share with all of us. I'm not incontinent myself, but I do love wearing diapers and wetting, seems to add some spice to my life and hopefully will for you.

There's no need to worry as I have the same issue from an accident I became incontinent.

You can put whatever you want whether it is a pull-up or a nappy and doctors are more accommodating on those needs.

I generally have a couple of pullups as I know my flow rate. One before the appointment where it gets disposed of during and after the examination and I put of a fresh pull-up after where the nurse will then assist me if there is one.

Often I am examined in a different room so things can ben cleaned up after.

@MissPuffyButt how did the exam go? How did you mention your incontinence and how was the doctor's reaction?

99.99% of doctors understand that Incontinence happens. and most doctors are professional enough that they aren't going to judge you if anything happens. Honestly if you're doctor makes a scene about it then you need to ask for a new doctor. You should never feel ashamed or afraid of something you cannot control. And I say this as a woman who has Bladder Incontinence myself, so I've been through it.