Is reliving bad childhood experances a good thing?

IMHO, yes. With one caveat, it always has a happy ending.

For those who were punished, spanked as a child, reliving the experience with a caring person can free you of the bad and give you the pleasure you deserve.

Many have guilt, embarrassment about from getting enemas. It may be that you were turned on at the time. Relish that now, let yourself be turned on. Pleasure yourself or be pleasured. Look at your past, your kinks, as a gift to enjoy and share…🌹

It can go either way. It can be psychologically harmful, it can be cathartic.

To put it mildly I had a messed up childhood. Many of things I feel I have taken ownership of during role play / bdsm.

Ive had wonderful online chat here with an extra special mistress and its made me feel great.

But be careful as for some can be a real mind fuck.

@carrie_behave I totally agree with you, before you tell anyone about childhood experiences you must have a high degree of trust with that person. Certainly not on your first chat…

I believe it is a desire to reenact an INVOLUNTARY experience in a completely VOLUNTARY manner. What had been completely out of my control, becomes consensual.

Some nasty experiences can play on your mind… I have too many, and they are bothersome at times when I'm trying to fall asleep and want to think only about good things…

I think it is difficult to answer this question unambiguously. For some, reliving such experiences may be traumatic again; for others, it can be a purification.

Seems like it can go both ways. It's almost certain I have C-PTSD from my lifetime of experiences, most of which are at least partially medical in nature. However, my mask fetish emanates from these same experiences. Starting out seeing pics of girls my age being anesthetized with black beauty masks, and progressing to seeing documentaries on girls who need to wear masks because of their immune systems, to now. Pretty girls in masks (either surgical or cloth) are commonplace as I shop for groceries. I am going to the Nutcracker this year. We are expected to be masked, but it is unclear whether the ballerinas will be masked. At any rate, that is something from my real medical life that has turned into a joy and a huge part of my sexual identity .

What happened in the past is long gone. I remember some things from my youth, good and bad, but I don't relive them. Looking forward to the adventures I have yet to experience.

It’s a balance I guess. I get some pleasure about reliving the humiliation of specific experiences as a turn on, but spend too much time with it and I find I have an overwhelming desire to return to what was often not a very healthy parental dynamic.

From my experience, regardless of the specifics of punishment and discipline or similar that I get a kick out of, there was the underlying relationship of dominance and submission, shame and control, which can continue in one way or another. I had to put in place boundaries to prevent that from continuing in some form, but if I get too into reliving this then I often have a pull to loosen those boundaries, which is a bad idea.

It can be, but it may not be.

I read a great book entitled, "Feelings Buried Alive, Never Die"

The author explained that if you don't work through the bad experience, it can fester and eat at you and consume much of your time and energy. Work through it. Talk through it. Talk with someone about it. Write it all down on paper with all your feelings and frustrations. Then burn or shred the paper and let go of it.

If the bad experience isn't causing a problem in your life, if it's not bothering you, then don't worry about it.

In either situation, do like Elsa and let it go, let it go, let it go.

Well put @Jenn88 and welcome to Zity.

@LordJim2

Thank you. It's nice to be here to learn and to share.

I joined Zity.biz as I love reading dentist stories, I had a traumatic visit to the dentist as a child, usual thing I guess, teeth removed under gas, which is why, I believe, I've got a thing for dental stories now, it's helped me get over that experience, and has sort of taken me in to a world of fiction to get over the reality, hope that makes sense 😊

It has been many decades past, that enemas, spanking, and mouth soaping were so negative as a child. I wrested control from mom, grandma, and the pediatrician fairly early and "came" to enjoy certain aspects for many years. Mouth soaping is the only thing that still repulses me. Those special sensations that a good enema provide, and the equipment fetish, will keep me hooked for life.

I do relive my childhood spanking during role play with my husband especially bedtime spanking role play.

After my husband gives me my bedtime spanking at night I will have a peaceful sleep while sucking my thumb

My childhood has many holes that I will never get filled in (even if I were to ask my siblings for their memories). I don't know what happened that caused them to be forgotten. But I will never relive them. I do not try to look backwards very often. There is enough a head of me to think on and experience to give thought to the past.

I think it can be a very good thing if it helps you to process, even to own, something bad or unpleasant that happened to you.