Bad Experiences for safety in person meet ups?

I have read many threads on safety but I do not remember anyone commenting on a bad experience they had when meeting up in person. Has anyone had a bad experience?

I've only met up with someone in person once for kinky stuff. I have a long term boyfriend but he is not into the same stuff I am and he was fine with me trying it with someone else. We have sex and do some bondage and toy stuff sometimes but I am into ABDL and he isn't.

I found a guy online who is into the same stuff I am. He was a wheelchair user but that didn't bother me. I went over and I brought all my equipment, as he didn't really have any of his own. We cuddled for a bit and then he wanted me to give him an enema, but there was no hot water so I had to mix something up with the kettle and it was hard to get right. I gave him an enema and diapered him and then he sat on my lap to expel while I rubbed his belly, which was fun at first but the diaper leaked a bit. He asked me to change him but I found it pretty gross once he opened it up so he cleaned himself up and showered. I then diapered him again and diapered myself and we just sat there for hours chatting while he played clips of old TV shows on youtube on autoplay, which I found weird and distracting when we were trying to do sexy stuff. He was also a smoker and his room stank which I really didn't like.

After a while he wanted me to fuck him but we had been sitting so long not doing anything sexy that I wasn't in the mood anymore. If he had asked right after the enema I probably would have been able to but I tried and couldn't get it in. I then decided to leave. I went straight to my boyfriend's and cried because I felt like I had taken advantage of the guy for something that wasn't even good.

This was shortly before Covid hit and every couple of months since he has been messaging me begging to come back but I just found him kinda gross. It wasn't the wheelchair thing, it's just that he is a smoker and we have literally no common interests outside of kink. I prefer to do kinky stuff with people I can get along with outside of a kink context I guess. I feel bad for him since he has been posting on kink groups for literally years trying to find someone and I was the only person to ever bite. I'd try doing that kind of thing again with someone I have more in common with but that is definitely one I would consider a bad experience.

Yes, I have had a few bad experience. I understand that I’m young and people will/have blamed that for my poor decision making but I’ve also had positive experiences. Just do your research and as soon as it doesn’t feel right just leave before it gets worse.

Glad you're okay CC.

Lessons learned.

Ditto what @easy123 said. Be safe @ccm93.

I've exchanged messages with a few folks on here, and have done in person stuff with one other. Everything proceeded safely and consensually, but there were certainly nerves that first time!

I've met up a few times with someone from here, i was terrified at the first meet up. He did an amazing job in calming me down and making sure i felt okay the whole playdate. Needles to say we've met more times after that one 😉

Just make sure someone knows what you are doing (i told a close friend i had a date) and where you are. Leave when you feel uncomfortable (if able) and just dont meet up after 1 or 2 messages, make sure you've talked for days/weeks