The need to be seen in diapers

Hi, this is my first post, but as I have been reading through the forum I find myself very connected to much of what is being discussed especially from the DL perspective.

My question is, why do so many of us want others to see us in our diapers? Even accidentally? There has been a lot of discussion about why we like diapers, and how many of us like to wear in public- often discretely. With everything else in life I am a very private person, and wouldn't even think about showing someone my regular underwear so what makes diapers different? Any thoughts?

Good question crinkle. I believe its becasue diapers area a humiliating type thing to wear, it what everyone was brainwashed when we were young to belive. so i think becasue its a embaressing type of fetish to have we feel we should be embaressed by other people for it. I think lol!!!! But if you ever noticed a toddler never wants to go on the potty and alwasy in his/her diapers!! they must know somehting we grownups do not and thats how to let go completely and not care or be embaressed about it. its the funniest thing to see a kid in diapers shit him/herslef in front of any one they just dont care.

:-\ I think it's the thrill of it. It's the risk taker in us all. :😃 To be caught doing something many people find hard to understand. A certain level of humiliation is involved.

I can't speak for others,but for myself I would love for girls to see me with a little smidgen of plastic sticking out of my jeans or shorts, Maybe I feel it's only way I'll get attention.Maybe they'll think they're cute or that they'll get curious and offer to babysit me. I just don't understand how someone wearing cloth diapers and in pink or yellow plastic panties can be that threatening.Isn't the same for crossdressers and transvestites?

I wouldn't like to be seen diapered in public. Even seeing a girl wearing them would raise my eyebrow. My first impression would be she had a severe medical problem. For me this is something very private, something you do indoors so to say.

Its totally different compared to showing of private stuff. I think it's because its the complete inverse of what's your actual practice most of the time, namely hiding your diapers, that's what makes it so attractive.

I've never really wanted to be seen. To me, I've never really been one to show off my underwear no matter what I'm wearing. Now that I wear for incontinence also, I try to be as discreet as possible. Though it would be freeing in some sense to not worry about it...

I also want to be seen in cloth diapers and plastic panties is that I loved watch babies getting their plastic pants slowly and lovingly pulled down and their diapers unpinned while being talked to in soothing baby talk.Also watching girls playing with dolls i.e. feeding with baby bottles cuddling and rocking the dolls and changing them along with baby talk. I loved to see colored plastic panties like pink and yellow as well as baby printed plastic panties hanging out on backyard clotheslines and wished that they were mine and what did that mommy feel about changing their babies' diapers.

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good question crinkle. I believe its becasue diapers area a humiliating type thing to wear, it what everyone was brainwashed when we were young to belive. so i think becasue its a embaressing type of fetish to have we feel we should be embaressed by other people for it. [/quote]

Mamasboy, what did you mean it is what we are brainwashed to believe when we are young?

Well parents tell you all the time only babies wear diapers when your younger and thats what i meant bye it. they try to get us out of them as soon as possible because they are lazy and dont want to change them. so when you are young you wnat to be a grown up right? well if you like diapers your ot a grown up so they are brainwashing us to belive if we like diapers we are not grownups well im here to tell ya kids im a grownup in my baby mind LOL!!!!

I guess what I notice is that there seems to be a compulsion above and beyond by some of us to be seen. Trolling through the forum you will find lots of stories of folks who go out of their way to be seen. I know there is a latent delusion that many of us have that if a women sees our diapers they will want to engage in diaper play with us. When you stop and think about it, this is kind of silly. What are the chances? There are so many stories of significant others freaking out about diaper wearing, how can we expect a stranger to just jump on in and be a part?

I know I get a rush out of being "accidentally" seen, like sticking out of the top of pants or something. It is just not like the rest of my persona to be this way. But heck I am an adult who wears diapers by choice so who is to say what normal is.

Dear Crinkle;

Diapers are just another form of underwear, they are as

much for babies as for adults. It takes a certain amount of courage to be seen in just your diaper, but I know that you can do it. If you can walk around the house in just your underwear, then you can certainly wear diapers.

I know that I get a rush out of people seeing me in my diaper, even if it is only seeing the top of my diaper

sticking out of my pants.

If wearing diapers is your choice, go out and have fun

showing them off, and the hell with what others say. It's your life, go enjoy it.

The want to show someone can be described with the phrase, "a longing for dependence." Dependence is one of the big reasons we wear diapers. As for the want to be found out accidentally...this shows our fear of showing other people, if we make it an accident, we dont have to force ourselves into the situation.

I guess I am some kind of exhibitionist, because I DO like to be seen wearing only my diaper and plastic panties. When at home I seldom wear pants over my diapers even when people come to the house I am in diapers and nursery print plastic panties. 😳 No, I do not get embarrassed! 😉

Yeah I dont understand that... I dont want alot of people to know I wear diapers but I am always trying to get people to see me in diapers to see what they say... I dont understand it

I'm not sure why it is but now I wear nappies all the time sometimes I like to be very discrete and other times I deliberately wear a thick nappy and plastic pants so there is a good chance people will notice. I went to the dentist the other day wearing a wet nappy under my plastic pants which could be heard when I sat down. I could feel the bulge and i'm sure it could be seen. I felt no shame only a warm feeling of pride. I am incontent and was wearing a nappy. I hope someone noticed and couldn't help wondering what was said about it after I'd gone.

Dear Crinkle;

Diapers are just another form of underwear, they are as

much for babies as for adults. It takes a certain amount of courage to be seen in just your diaper, but I know that you can do it. If you can walk around the house in just your underwear, then you can certainly wear diapers.

I know that I get a rush out of people seeing me in my diaper, even if it is only seeing the top of my diaper

sticking out of my pants.

If wearing diapers is your choice, go out and have fun

showing them off, and the hell with what others say. It's your life, go enjoy it.

I have to agree, Diapers are simply just another form of Underwear and another form of Short shorts as they are.

In my case, I see diapers as a need, another form of underwear and shorts that I chose to wear and as my option.

It takes a curtain type of person to wear their diapers out in the open, but if you can walk around your house in your underwear and out in public with your shorts on, then you can certainly walk around with your diapers as well.

For some, it's simply a fetish or a kink to be caught or humiliated wearing a diaper. For others, it simply a need or a choice that choose.

If you want to wear your diapers out in the open, that's your choice. If you want to use diapers instead of underwear, that's your choice as well.

How many like to share themselves being seen in diapers

I think that for many of us, it's very similar to how it must feel to be a gay person who wants to come out but hasn't yet found the courage to do so.

Being seen in diapers gives many of us an incredible rush, and I think it comes from the conflict between two very strong feelings:

1) I wish everyone in the entire world knew that even as an adult, I love wearing diapers.

2) I'm scared to death that somebody will find out that even as an adult, I love wearing diapers.

I think for many this goes back to when we were young kids and were made fun of for still wearing diapers, while secretly knowing that we loved it and never wanted to give them up. In my case, one incident stands out: I was in first grade and after witnessing several incidents of the other kids wetting / pooping themselves, decided that I wanted to experiment with this myself. I was already very much attracted to diapers, plastic pants and diaper pails (see my other posts). I had a playhouse shaped like a big rocket ship in the basement and would hide in there and wet / mess my pants. Sometimes I'd stuff in a towel and pretend that I was still in "diapers".

I made the mistake of sharing this secret with the kid across the street--who then blabbed it to the rest of the neighborhood. One day I heard a big commotion going on outside and went out to find about half of the kids in the neighborhood standing out in the street in front of my house laughing and pointing and yelling "HA HA HA YOU STILL WEAR DIAPERS!" I remember being embarrassed, humiliated, and strangely, warm, weak in the knees and very excited (a feeling I'd later recognize as being horny). Also very satisfied, in a weird sort of way, that everyone knew so I no longer had to go to so much trouble to hide it. So, part of why I like being seen is that it allows me to experience that same feeling again now that I'm old enough to understand it and enjoy it.

In general, I don't get to go out diapered very often, maybe I get a chance to once a year. But when I do I only want to be noticed by one group--middle-aged women who look like they are probably mothers. MILFs, as it were. I try to avoid being noticed by other men, and I do everything possible to not be noticed by kids. (My favorite time to go out diapered is on a weekday morning when the kids are all in school, around 9:00. I never see any kids, very few men, but I do see lots of women who look like they've just dropped off the kids and are now doing the morning shopping.)

Usually when one of them sees me, they get this surprised look of "I absolutely can't believe this!" along with a silly grin on their faces. This gives me this incredible sense of humiliated exhilaration. No, I don't think that women who see me in diapers will ever want to engage in diaper play (even if they did, it wouldn't happen because I have a wife). I do think that--while many are absolutely disgusted by the idea of a grown man in diapers, others are turned on by it (my wife is!). Some just think it's laughably hilarious. Many of them probably think that all men are just a bunch of big babies, anyway, and this just confirms it. Not to mention how some of them probably like the idea of being dominant in a relationship and there's no better way to do that than to put the man back in diapers!

So on those rare occasions when I go out in mine, I find myself putting myself into increasingly more "dangerous" situations while making my diapers increasingly obvious--UNTIL I know someone has noticed. At that point, I've achieved my goal and the go home, reenact it in my mind, and get myself off while enjoying the humiliation. I think about that look on their faces and imagine them thinking about what a big baby I am, and how at that very moment they're probably telling all of their friends "You would not believe what I just saw!"

And no I don't think that by doing this I'm "inflicting my fetish upon others". As long as I have on shorts or sweatpants over my diapers, I'm not doing anything illegal. In public you're going to see some interesting things, and nobody is forcing them to look. And most of the people that see me--even if they find it amusing--will eventually decide that I'm wearing them because of incontinence and likely feel guilty for thinking it was funny. They'll never know that I was doing it for fun!

My need to be seen has sort of subsided now that my life has reshaped itself around diapers.

I get seen by the people I want to see me, but in general, I conduct myself discreetly.

Being seen, noticed, getting "called out". All nerve-wracking, but for those of us who wear for fun (no disrespect intended to those who wear due to real need) this is part of the pleasure. I will only speak for myself, but being seen in a diaper is one thing that brings some thrill to what is for the most part a very solitary interest.

It would be nice to get out more wearing an obvious diaper, but this is very hard to do -. People are very judgmental, and you never know who is going to be friendly, and who might cause real problems for you.

Too bad, because let's face it, it's just a diaper -- pretty harmless as predilections go.

The thing about being seen which is something I don't try to do as I wear mainly for need is that any person who sees someone wearing a diaper is going to assume their incontinent or some other medical condition which most people don't judge people for even though for many of y'all who wear for fun it isn't for need the average person would assume that even though it is embarrassing to an extent for the wearer

I have no desire for people to see me wearing my disposable diapers. I know from wearing 24/7 that it's bound to happen at times. I myself unfortunately exposed my diaper accidentally before and is embrassing to me. Enough people have seen my diaper while at the doctor's, getting a massage. I wear diapers for a medical need and not proud of it, yes I have accepted that I do need them. I'm very personal about them, my family and friends don't know that I wear them, only the professionals that I see. My point is many people don't want to see your diapers or your underwear exposed in public.

This has been a process for me. My first venture was to wear my disposable diaper to the dr.s for my checkup. I just sat on the exam table with only my diaper on until he told me I’d have to take it off for hernia and prostate exams. After he was done with that he said I could put the diaper back on because the nurse would have to come in and give me an ekg. When she came in I was asked to lay back as she stuck the contacts on me to give me the ekg.

The dr. Did ask me about any urinary problem and I told him I had a diagnosed neurogenic bladder from unknown causes that caused bedwetting and daytime leakage which he simply said ok to. Not a big deal at all.

My biggest risk came about when I started taking off my wet diaper, showering, then putting on a fresh diaper at my health club. The first time I did it my heart pounded as I had no idea what to expect. Well of course my expectations were way overblown as I have now done this a couple dozen times and absolutely no one ever says anything to me about it. I do find it sort of fun though watching guys intentionally turn away and pretend they have no idea what’s going on. I’m sure no one knows what to say, which is really how it should be.

While not being an abdl myself, needing diapers for medical reasons. Purposely exposing your diaper wearing is in my view a deviant behavior. If you are your diaper is accidentally exposed that is one thing, but going out into public and exposing your diaper wearing in all fairness is a deviant behavior. As I stated before I wear a diaper for medical purposes since I suffer with neurogenic bladder. Wearing them to a doctor's appointment is not a huge deal since they deal with all types of people. Most doctors will not bat an eye but they're most likely will be an ensuing follow-up question for the need to wear diapers. And the follow-up response from you will in turn have your doctor request that you have follow-up testing and such most of which are of an embarrassing and uncomfortable nature many of which I have had and would not suggest unless you truly have an issue. But if you feel the need to expose your diaper in public I suggest you seek professional help since this could caused you some significant legal problems in the future.