How do I get a spanking?

I'm 19 and I've been wanting a spanking for a while and I just dont know if there's a way to get someone else to spank me that isn't like dangerous from creepers or expensive.

That would depend on where you are? Whether you perfered a female or male spanker? What impliments to be used? What limits to be set?

Then place an ad here on zity for one option

Do you have any boyfriends or girlfriends?

TELL THEM what you want.

Alternatively, you could spank them, see what happens and ask for reciprocity.

FILL OUT YOUR PROFILE and take an ad in zity.

Personally, I feel it should be someone you trust, whether friend or intimate lover, male or female.

As has been said, you just need to ask.

You can also read quite a few Zity members’ accounts of meeting up with people found online. Some encounters ended up good, others fair, some rather poorly.

For myself, I’ve only been spanked once in my life. It was by a dear friend, female, who understood why I desired it and agreed to do it. Her hand on my bare bottom, 10 painful spanks. We hugged after, it was never discussed again. It felt really really good, cathartic.

Good luck.

As SwitchableSusie says, you got to ask.

Here is a little maneuver that I learned in college. You merely ask your date, partner, or whatever during an intimate moment not necessarily in the bedroom. It could be over a drink, probably two or more. "What are your fantasies?" Since you're male, your date will probably reverse the question and say you first. Now the ball in your court. You brought up the question but she (I assume it's she.) is asking you for your fantasies. You might want to give her some background but above all be specific. If you want to be spanked bare bottom (Is there any other adult way?) tell her. Hairbrush? As you say in another thread, tell her. Once the fantasy is out in the open. You can judge her reactions and if she isn't horrified, which I doubt she will be, it's easy to suggest that she play out the fantasy with you.

I actually learned this little trick in a college class and have used it. My first husband's fantasy was seeing a woman (me) douche, which I imagine is farther out than you want to be spanked. Good luck in your search.

You need to fill out your profile as SwitchableSusie mentioned.. As a wearer of women's underthings when I'm in a bi mode - that seemed to go hand-in-hand with my male partners wanting to spank me. While I liked the idea and thinking about being spanked, turns out I'm not good at taking a spanking - I have a low threshold of spanking pain. With enemas, that's a different story, as I was very good at taking large, hot soapy ones.

As others have noted fill out your profile. There are lot of folks — myself included — who are willing to administer a spanking with no strings attached.

You misbehave and you will get one.

Firegirl : You misbehave and you will get one.

There ya go 😈

I was in the same spot as you. I agree that you should fill out your profile and then place an ad. Please be careful, as I’ve had a few bad experiences when meeting people in person.

Go to a spanking site if you want to find someone to spank you. This is more of a discussion site, There are Very few ads here.

@Firegirl911 said

You misbehave and you will get one.

Generally NOT the case.

If a spankee wants a spanking, the best way NOT to get one is to misbehave.

If you want a spanking, you have to be GOOD.

If you are bad, you might get a caning or some other long lasting corporal punishment with wounds much worse than a spanking.

@SwitchableSusie is right in that a caning is much more intense and painful than I mere spanking. I would definitely start with a spanking and go from there.

The first two women I caned, I only did it mildly because the potential for extreme pain and injury was pretty obvious. I guess I was timid. Looking back, had those relationships lasted longer, we might have gotten into a more painful phase.

The other woman I later caned allowed me to go hard, though not enough to break her skin or cause bleeding, which we were not into. But the cane definitely left marks for days, like raised pink welts across her bottom. She said it hurt like hell but she craved it.

Okay. I don't know if this has been said outside of this, but it still needs to be said because of obvious reasons.

Before you meet anyone Online, even if you've known them for years online, make sure it's in a public place, and at least 3 people know where you are and who you are meeting.

That being said, the best way to get what you want is to be open with your partner (if you have one) If you are in a trusting and caring relationship then your partner should be willing to listen to you, just describe what your interests are, honestly, it's common enough a kink that you got maybe a 1 in 3 shot that whoever your involved with will be willing to oblige you. But don't rush into things, that's a good way to end up getting hurt and having an awkward talk with a doctor. Other than that, take it one step at a time, you'll get what you want eventually.

It easy for me all I need to do is act up and break any rules that we set for our domestic discipline.

I be flying over his knees like superwoman and get a bare bottom spanking.

Trust issues? So friging fugly dogs runaway at the sight of you? Then you need the Automatic double power spanking machine!

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Red bum on demand

Check your area fetish papers. Some cities have spanking and fetish clubs where you can meet people like yourself. Tampa has a good one as does Phoenix and has regular events and parties.

If you were spanked growing up you can ask. You never know what will happen. I have chatted with people who were spanked at 18 and after because they asked.

That can be frustrating but as a few here have suggested just ask. For me after years of frustration I finally asked my wife to give me a birthday spanking, but it took a while to get her to spank me hard enough.

Also sometimes you can bring it up in a conversation like I did once but I kind of knew this women. Some years ago I was doing computer repair work for a business and the woman that I dealt with kept screwing up her computer so I told her if you keep breaking your computer we are going to have to put you in time out. She immediately replied I would rather have a spanking. She told me she had just spanked her boyfriend last night and is no stranger to spanking and being spanked. We had some good spanking sessions although it turns out she told she had always wanted to spank me and boy she did paddle me good.