Vulnerability

Please forgive me if this is in another topic. I searched for the word "vulnerable" and I did not get many hits.

I think that, too often, we treat sex as an action, and don't consider the feelings behind it. I'm not against a one-night-stand, or swinging, but I like to know who my partners are. I like the feeling of knowing that I will see them again, and that it will be fun, awkward, naughty, and perhaps there will be more sex.

It's not that I need to know everything about a partner. I don't. But getting to know them over time can be fun. It keeps things fresh, and alive. Plus, there is the fact that I have to explain this to my husband. We get new ideas from new people. One conversation had this gem:

"I didnt' know you liked to do that!"

"I didn't know either!"

When I get enemas in front of others, it is very embarrassing (or is that just naughtiness?) Seeing them again a few weeks down the line and having them ask about it is a turn on -- even naughtier!

I would like to get gangbanged sometime, but not at a sex club. At home, surrounded by people I know. Knowing that my friends will be watching me get pleasure, and see how my body responds. I don't know that I will "enjoy" it (if that is the right word) as much as I will experience it. And I want that experience.

Hope that's not too much.....

Vulnerability is really quite key to so many interests on this site. It has a great deal to do with lots of fetishes, fantasies, and curiosities, both those we’ve partaken in, as well as ones we’re still yet to explore.

My own medfet is certainly rooted in the vulnerability I felt at physical exams as a child, and which continues with most such medical encounters ever since. My exhibitionism is largely about the thrill I get from others seeing me, and there is almost always a sense of vulnerability in there too. Being at swingers clubs has been about much the same thing, and learning new things, while being exposed, often with strangers. Even my modeling for artists, and nudism, while mostly being where I’m quite at ease in front of others, still has involved a number of times where I’ve suddenly felt vulnerable, and I think that potential makes it more exciting for me.

Zity’s a great place to discuss openly, and explore, these thoughts you may have.

@EJM So wonderfully, honestly stated. Embarrassment, naughtiness, trust, pleasure, fun. Yes!

I agree with the other posters-so-far. I especially liked this observation (post #2 ): ' My own medfet is certainly rooted in the vulnerability I felt at physical exams as a child, and which continues with most such medical encounters ever since. Yes, same here! But I would especially include the vulnerability I felt on the operating table just before my childhood surgery (tonsillectomy) and in a dental surgeon's chair 2-3 years later (removal of milk-teeth). Both times, I was given general anaesthesia. Practically all my medfet and related fantasies go back to then.

- Ken

I agree with the other posters-so-far. I especially liked this observation (post #2 ): ' My own medfet is certainly rooted in the vulnerability I felt at physical exams as a child, and which continues with most such medical encounters ever since.' Yes, same here!

A third one for this! Even though I didnt realise it at the time, my own medfet stems back to my exams as a kid, when I was was asked to strip down to my undies at the doctors in front of my mother and big brother while they examined me in detail. From then on, if I went to the doctors, either because me or my brother was ill, I never knew if we would just have to take our t-shirt off to be listened or be stripped down tomy briefs/boxers in front of my family, but I did enjoy being examined or watching my brother being checked out if he was the one stripped down. This continues to this day and the vulnerability of only wearing my boxers in front of a fully clothed doctor

I would agree with this. I've come to realize that most of my personal fetishes all come down to submission, wanting to be controlled by someone else. And a big part of that would be the vulnerability that's required for that submission.