BDSM is rare in India

I love humiliation, foot worship, body worship, to be tied up, gagged etc ? to feel that power exchange bw two people but it's so rare here 😢

There’s probably more there than you realize but maybe finding out about it is harder because of social stigma.

Expression of sexuality, particularly in unconventional ways (kink) is viewed as taboo basically everywhere. There are a great number of reasons for that, but most have to do with:

1 - control: kink and sexuality in general is empowering to individuals, as they can seek intense and fulfilling experience and gratification with little need for external brokers of traditional power/fulfillment. This threatens many power structures, which respond, often, rather negatively to such threats

2 - fear: People fear what they don't understand - this has been true since man first saw a thunderstorm. Kink is something that, by definition, most will NOT understand; it's a unique experience for us all.

Yet places like this exist so we can share our experiences, and, in so doing, come to understand others and be understood. Or, if not understand them, at least start to realize that there is little to fear in the ideas and thoughts of others, and we can build an appreciation for that. Knowledge and experience tend to do that - after we realize that the thunder in the distance poses little threat, we eventually may even learn to enjoy it's gentle rumbles; after we have seen enough things in our world, we get the liberation of being able to approach newer ideas with a more open mind and a willingness to react not as unconscious, animalistic beings, but rational, capable individuals, and, in so doing, come to experience even more wonders laid before us in the world.

Sadly, while we can influence our own views and our own experiences in this way, we can often do nothing about those around us, and thus, while we ourselves might come to understand and value these more unique ideas, the prevailing fears of others and the systems that seek to exploit those fears to maintain control remain, and thus, we are often prevented by them from being able to openly express these ideas.

That doesn't mean that there aren't others who share these ideas and a willingness for them, it just makes them harder to find. Keep looking. Join places like Zity. Keep exploring, learning, and trying, and I think you will be surprised, in time, how close you might actually be to others like you.

It is my belief that suppressing those feelings, desires, etc. is detrimental to oneself, yes there are others who do not understand and best that they don't know these things about you. You should never feel ashamed about this and you need a certain strength and resolve to resist people trying to tell you who you should be. I am 60 years old and have been on this journey for close to 55 years now. I will part with some words of wisdom from President Franklin D. Roosevelt, "So, first of all, let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is...fear itself — nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance."

@S0707 said

I love humiliation, foot worship, body worship, to be tied up, gagged etc ? to feel that power exchange bw two people but it's so rare here 😢

I learned a new phrase last week: tuchus oyfn tish. Literally it means to put your ass on the table, often when discussing a topic. It also means "no BS" or getting down to "brass tacks" or laying your cards on the table. It is a Yiddish phrase and you can google it for a good definition. The phrase is most appropriate here.

https://jel.jewish-languages.org/words/588

You need to put your ass on the table. If you enjoy something, DO IT.

It is your life. If you can find someone into your kinks, that is terrific. If BDSM is really important to you, go where the kinky people go. If you have to move, do it.

Fuck cultural norms, fuck political correctness and fuck people who try to tell you not to do what you enjoy.

A person makes his/her own happiness.

Start making yours!

A person makes his/her own happiness.

Start making yours!

That is a 100% true statement. If you like it, do it. I would bet that there is more BDSM in India going on then you would think. Kinky is not limited to the Western World.

Non-procreative sexuality is extremely repressed in India

Don't get disheartened. You may not know others are into those kinks, only because they are not saying anything just like you.

Follow the advice of the others that have posted and maybe you will find your match.

Some years ago I was IRC chatting with a woman in India, but don't remember where she was. She had a degree, like an MBA, but worked in an adult club for males only. She described some of the stuff going on and it was certainly in the BDSM vein. I have no way of verifying her stories, but they certainly sounded real.

From what she told me, both getting and giving enemas was very often done and every room had a generous supply of bulb syringes for that purpose. There were apparently also servants whose job included cleaning the bulbs after use. Apparently, sometimes two or more women would tend to one guy.