First time getting spanked as adult.

Any suggestions on what to do for first time getting spanked?

thanks.

Any suggestions on what to do for first time getting spanked?

Tell your partner you want to be spanked.

That was easy, wasn't it?

Make sure some ground rules are in place...including safe words. They just try to relax and let it happen. Keep us posted.

All good suggestions. I had my first adult spanking from "Daddy Howard" in San Francisco back in the mid-90s. I used an afternoon of free time at a business conference to take the opportunity to have my first such experience from an expert. Was nervous about submitting to an amateur. Daddy Howard gave me his "grand tour" - a little sampling of everything in his repertoire, a sort of survey course on BDSM. Awesome. My bottom was hot and bright red the entire drive home, fortunately back to normal when it was time to go to bed with my wife that night. My advice: take the time to find someone who knows what they are doing for your first experience, and follow all the safety rules. If something doesn't feel "right" about the person, leave.

Relax and enjoy. Breath deeply and just let it happen.

Start slowly. First spanking can leave pretty ugly marks, even if light.

I just take down my pants or pull up my skirt, and dive over their lap, and hope for the best! Most of the time, my panties will have been pulled down, prior to the spanking!

Grin and bare it?

I did what @SwitchableSusie said: I asked for it.

The woman I asked was actually one of my dearest friends who I’ve revealed many private experiences and struggles over the years. At the time I felt for the first time a need to be punished, I just needed it as an emotional release. I’d explained my headspace to her over a few weeks and finally got up the courage when she asked ‘how can I help?’

I asked ‘would you spank me please?’ She paused but without judgment said yes and led me to her bedroom. I’m not sure what she was expecting but I straightaway laid facedown on the bed and pulled my pants and underwear down to my thighs. She said ‘ok’. I told her ‘can you give me 10? really hard, I want to feel it.’

That’s exactly what she did, bare hand, and it was quite cathartic. After, that was it, no discussion, no sex, we left the house, and it never happened again.

Did you remain friends afterwards, though?

@school_Spirit

Yes definitely, although eventually we both moved and I see her rarely in person now.

Glad to hear it. I feared it might have been all kinds of awkward for you two ever since. Good to hear it wasn't so!