I know I am a sub ready for a dom but am too shy to go about it...

Like my subject title states... I know I am an extreme sub and needs a dom but am too shy to go through with getting past this point of just now saying this. It is just who I have always been and what I know I need and want and am too shy to take this upon my own self to do more than just throw this out there so someone can take my interest and make this something more than just what I know I'm interested in. Looking for anyone to take on this challenge now that I got brave enough to say this.

What fun to be confused! What do we want? Any of us. any time. Why do we do what we do, over and over? Why are we on this site, where, if discovered, would be humiliated endlessly. You WHAT?! Oh, that's ____!_-, fill in the blank of what would be exclaimed.

So, we are all shy in our own way. I keep my secrets to myself. Harm myself to my contentment. I wouldn't let someone do to me what I've done to myself, y'know?

My sexless situation at home leaves me dom/sub empty. Nothing going on.

I like to look at pictures, who doesn't. If you admit you like pictures on the web, you are already "in trouble" with their opinion of you.

What would you want your dom to request? suggest? demand? offer? What are you willing to do, offer, e5tc? all good questions.

How interested are you in communicating with an equally confused man who has a vivid imagination, a compassionate curiosity, limited opportunities except on line for the time being?

I would love to hear from you. Perhaps a plaintif plea? A squirming admission? something you crave?

Once finished here, I'll look up your profile. I hope to find something exciting.

Whew, it's all good,

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I think you will have many that respond to you here. Just be careful and go slow. Don't get in a rush and get to know the person before you ever think of meeting. Have Fun!

@mmm333 said

Like my subject title states... I know I am an extreme sub and needs a dom but am too shy to go through with getting past this point of just now saying this. It is just who I have always been and what I know I need and want and am too shy to take this upon my own self to do more than just throw this out there so someone can take my interest and make this something more than just what I know I'm interested in. Looking for anyone to take on this challenge now that I got brave enough to say this.

Not until you have seen the implements of pain and physical restraints laid out in front of you, and you are lying down and blindfolded, tied spread-eagled to the four corners of the table with screw down nipple clamps applied, massive dildos forcefully inserted deeply in your anus and the whips begin to make contact with your thin milky skin will you know if you are an "extreme sub."

Novice subs frequently make the mistake of believing they can tolerate extreme situations that they have no way to imagine.

Keep in mind it is far better to end your session wanting more than to have gotten too much.

Tomorrow is another day.

Not until you have seen the implements of pain and physical restraints laid out in front of you, and you are lying down and blindfolded, tied spread-eagled to the four corners of the table with screw down nipple clamps applied, massive dildos forcefully inserted deeply in your anus and the whips begin to make contact with your thin milky skin will you know if you are an "extreme sub."

Novice subs frequently make the mistake of believing they can tolerate extreme situations that they have no way to imagine.

Keep in mind it is far better to end your session wanting more than to have gotten too much.

Tomorrow is another day.

I'm not much into the whole Dom/sub thing. I do have those tendencies but was once labeled by a Dom as a "Third degree PlayDom" whatever that is. I like to turn a nice bottom red and did try floggers and crops and belts with my late partner who really liked a red hot ass among other things. I guess my suggestion would be to start slow and use a safeword until you know what you can and cannot do.

I'm not much into the whole Dom/sub thing. I do have those tendencies but was once labeled by a Dom as a "Third degree PlayDom" whatever that is. I like to turn a nice bottom red and did try floggers and crops and belts with my late partner who really liked a red hot ass among other things. I guess my suggestion would be to start slow and use a safeword until you know what you can and cannot do.

When my husband and I were younger and our daughters were at sleep-away camp we used mark each other, but we were very careful to not create marks that would scar. I don't think redness qualifies as a "mark."

There is a BIG difference between "turning a nice bottom red" and turning it black and blue even if the skin ISN'T bleeding.

Whatever you do, take note of the character of the person with whom you connect. A good Dom does not hate women, but does try to provide all the intensity they can handle, including everything @SwitchableSusie said, and more. Try to understand the person with whom you plan to play. Chat online if possible. Meet in a public place at first. DECIDE if you want this person to have total control of your body, including your pleasure, your pain, your movement, your sensitive tissues, and more. Get to trust that person gradually.

On another note: You will probably find a worthy partner here, but you must be able to discuss your needs at some level, otherwise you will wind up in the same situation you experienced with your husband for decades.

When my husband and I were younger and our daughters were at sleep-away camp we used mark each other, but we were very careful to not create marks that would scar. I don't think redness qualifies as a "mark."

There is a BIG difference between "turning a nice bottom red" and turning it black and blue even if the skin ISN'T bleeding.

I also remember you telling the story when you used a delrin rod and cut him with it. I've used straps and other implements but always with her agreement and she could have stopped it at any time. I'm more into a temp with a spanking before going on to other things with a nozzle. I know some like it really hard, that would seem to be a multiple session thing and work up slowly.