When your partner is not in mood to fuck you

When you eagerly need hard sex and your partner is not in mood to fuck you. Or your partner finished after fucking you and you still demand more so what you do for your sexual eagerness. Please suggest for me.

Have your partner masturbate you.

OR

Get a couple of toys and masturbate yourself.

That's why you have fingers.

Alternatively, you could go out and sell yourself on the street corner but that isn't really a good option.

Have your partner masturbate you.

OR

Get a couple of toys and masturbate yourself.

That's why you have fingers.

Alternatively, you could go out and sell yourself on the street corner but that isn't really a good option.

This is not possible in India easily for fuck come on street..

Inquire as to whether your partner will give you an enema and then either masturbate you or watch you masturbate yourself to your orgasm holding your enema.

Eric

Alternatively, you could go out and sell yourself on the street corner but that isn't really a good option.

A friend of mine when being interviewed by his commanding officer at discharge from the Navy in the early 70’s in San Francisco was asked what his plans were. He retorted: “Well sir, I’m going to a street corner on Geary street to give blow jobs to regain my self respect. “

It has been along time since I had sex. Spouse not interested so I masturbate. More than once even after climaxing with her I waited till I knew she had gone to sleep and then I slowly played until I came again. Was told just hurry up and cum. I know it sounds selfish. Never cheated but have thought about it.

I honestly feel that if one has a partner who is happy to satisfy HIS need with you...and then want to be done with it all, without helping you to an ending of satisfaction, there is something missing in the relationship that I am otherwise thinking is nothing short of selfishness. I would be most disappointed in my relationship on those terms. We always share with each other's needs mutually here so I am at a loss in your situation.

Then again, if that is good with you, then I respect that, as all that matters here.

We always tried to accommodate each other sexually - but there were times when one of us just wasn't ready for it, physically or emotionally. Not a big deal because it didn't happen often and when it did we respected each other. Once my wife really wasn't in the mood and we didn't do it. The next night she felt bad, got a babysitter, and got us a room in a "sex" hotel. Sling, steam, water bed - mirrors all over. Kinda creepy, but we still had a good time. (Wiped everything down before using it!!!)

We always tried to accommodate each other sexually - but there were times when one of us just wasn't ready for it, physically or emotionally. Not a big deal because it didn't happen often and when it did we respected each other. Once my wife really wasn't in the mood and we didn't do it. The next night she felt bad, got a babysitter, and got us a room in a "sex" hotel. Sling, steam, water bed - mirrors all over. Kinda creepy, but we still had a good time. (Wiped everything down before using it!!!)

Wow that's nice.surprise

Just lay on top of the covers and masturbate. Make over the top little groans and your partner will soon change mind and participate.

Just lay on top of the covers and masturbate. Make over the top little groans and your partner will soon change mind and participate.

Ahem, sorry but if I had ever done that, there would have been a seriously pissed off wife to contend with afterwards. Some people might interpret doing that as an insult or a mocking response.

Might only work if your a women. And yeah i am mocking him for lack of stamina. Does not matter if needs more time to get erect again but he has a tongue, he has fingers and we have toys.

Might only work if your a women. And yeah i am mocking him for lack of stamina. Does not matter if needs more time to get erect again but he has a tongue, he has fingers and we have toys.

If that is the dynamic of your relationship Karen9, mock away. I prefer to not mock my sub when he is unable to rise to the occasion.

What caused the issue? I would think mocking might increase the problem meaning possibly less sex. Just a couple thoughts that went my head when reading...

Just lay on top of the covers and masturbate. Make over the top little groans and your partner will soon change mind and participate.

Agracier said

Ahem, sorry but if I had ever done that, there would have been a seriously pissed off wife to contend with afterwards. Some people might interpret doing that as an insult or a mocking response.

Yep. This wife would not be happy if that was done to me. There are times one just can't get into the spirit of fucking. But some would say, "take one for the team". Sorry, that is not being a team in my eyes.

Just lay on top of the covers and masterbate. Make over the top little groans and your partner will soon change mind and participate.

@Agracier said

Ahem, sorry but if I had ever done that, there would have been a seriously pissed off wife to contend with afterwards. Some people might interpret doing that as an insult or a mocking response.

@MissStress said

Yep. This wife would not be happy if that was done to me. There are times one just can't get into the spirit of fucking. But some would say, "take one for the team". Sorry, that is not being a team in my eyes.

To the contrary, that is EXACTLY what it means to take one for the team and to be part of a team.

Sometimes you have to do what the other team members want even if that isn't your desire. As the old line goes, "there is no "I" in "team."

Since you are in what you called a reduced sex relationship, you don't see that.

He certainly has no issue keeping me happy but i mean in context of original post if had sex but i still want more instant boner 2nd or 3rd time round does not happen. Needs little time to reset himself but sex is so much more than just cock and pussy.

He can use lots of other things and after brief period he is ready to go again.

Even if not horny if he is I will give him time to get me going and even if still not in the mood i still put out.

Since you are in what you called a reduced sex relationship, you don't see that.

If one has never had such an experience, which I wish on no one, they are truly unable to know the full extent of the effect it can have on the relationship. But life sometimes changes a relationship. Sex and love just adapts or it may not be any more.

Enjoy your daily sexcapades while they last. I always thought at this stage of life we would be, but that just didn't happen.

"Taking one for the team" is part of learning to compromise and is a very important part of being married and of a successful happy marriage -- not a marriage where you merely live in the same house.

Yes, there are (very rare) times when I don't feel like it, but I do it anyway because I know it makes my husband happy and once we get started, I get into it.

The person who always says, "no" or "not tonight" is not compromising.

Enjoy your daily sexcapades while they last. I always thought at this stage of life we would be, but that just didn't happen.

If genetics plays a role, it will last a long time. My parents are pushing 80 and I know for a fact my mother is a fucking whore for my father.

You both have to work at it if you want success.

Start earlier. Talk nice to your partner during the day. On a regular basis, relieve partner of household duties so they aren't so tired. Have as feeling this is a huge factor.

My husband will sometimes ask for sex at midnight, either I am falling asleep, or in the middle of a project. I laugh. Neither times I am even thinking about sex. We, he, doesn't do quickies. I told him ask earlier in the day, plant the seed and then ask or remind me earlier, like 8pm.

However, when he asks at midnight or 1am and it us a no go, we plan for it the next day.

You need to look at your partner's point of view.

sex is so much more than just cock and pussy.

He can use lots of other things and after brief period he is ready to go again.

Even if not horny if he is I will give him time to get me going and even if still not in the mood i still put out.

Yes indeed. As a bottom/receiver, if He wants or needs it, i'm available. As a matter of fact, as a subbish guy, that's part of the dynamic i love between D/s. i love being available, whether standing at the kitchen counter washing dishes or asleep in bed or watching tv, i love being a place for Him when He needs or wants to penetrate me and cum... or even more. i love the connection and the process of connecting, and hell yes, it is "so much more than just cock and pussy."

When you eagerly need hard sex and your partner is not in mood to fuck you. Or your partner finished after fucking you and you still demand more so what you do for your sexual eagerness. Please suggest for me.

Not to answer you as a smart ass, but FUCK YOURSELF! But first communicate with your husband and agree that there are times one of you is going to want more than the other can give.

My husband and I were beginning to let our sex life slip because of the kids, our jobs, his recovery, and all sorts of things and we were finding it harder and harder to make time for ourselves. BOTH of us were starting to see in ourselves that it was easier to make excuses than make love. That was bullshit.

Now, even if sometimes I might not be in the mood or he might not be in the mood we have come to realize we are going to be selfish when this happens. If I want to fuck, then we are going to fuck BUT I had to have a reality check in that sometimes my husband just isn't physically able to fuck at that time. Fine. But he has fingers, a tongue, power tools 😁 and I have toys and all I really want is for that big hunk of man meat is to be there when I am getting mine. 🌹 That's all I want if that is all I can have at that moment, I want that guy who listens to me bitch and moan and vent to be there when I do myself because after it is all done, no matter if he was able to fuck me at the moment I wanted it, he loves watching and I let him know I love him watching me.

And the same with him, although it is a hell of a lot easier for me to "be there" for him. If he is in the mood and I am not into it at the moment, all I have to do is lay back, bend over, stand on my head 😉 and my pussy is there for him to slide in and do his thing in my thing. 😄 I have learned that a man needs some extra "mechanics" to perform and it may not always happen for him. For me, I just spread my legs and know that my husband is just being selfish at the moment and I am more than ok with that. I HAVE to be ok with that because I love the guy 🌹 once he's in I get in the mood and I'm right there with him. The same with him, I may start out on my own with him there to be with me while I get mine, but somewhere during that time he changes his mind and it's on! 😈

This is sort of a new approach for us, but I got the idea or mindset from what my Mom was teaching me about marriage. She called it "communicating" with the one you love. Go figure! If I want to solo masturbate, rub one off on my own, that's ok, but when I want the object of my sexual desires present to give it to me or be there when I get mine, that's what I want. I'm selfish at that time. Own it. The same with him, if he wants it and wants me there while he gets it, then that is what the fuck it will be. He's being selfish. I am good with that. WE ARE GOOD WITH THAT!

I'm not totally there yet, WE are not totally there yet, but sex should not be thought of as having to cum at the same time or something sacred and holy. I love sharing my feelings with my husband and saying what is on my mind or in my heart and even venting but why stop there? If I am feeling horny and my favorite person in the world is there when I want to do something about it, either with him, or for him, or him just being there to laugh at my goofy faces and noises I make when I cum, then that is what marriage is about or should be. My Mom told me that she and Dad nearly "ran off the rails" because they believed that sex had to be a mutual in the moment thing or else you weren't in love anymore. That thinking like that was eating them alive and killing their marriage. She said they communicated and got real about what sex is and is not. She actually said that sometimes the only sex I would get is if I would fuck myself. And that if I and my husband didn't want to end up like her and Dad, that we'd better communicate and get real.

@Dahiana Very good post - thanks!! Do you really have "power tools"?

@Dahiana Very good post - thanks!! Do you really have "power tools"?

My husband does a lot of mechanical work and he is a pervert. 😈 Think "reciprocating saw." 😉

@Dahiana said...Not to answer you as a smart ass, but FUCK YOURSELF! But first communicate with your husband and agree that there are times one of you is going to want more than the other can give...... If I want to fuck, then we are going to fuck BUT I had to have a reality check in that sometimes my husband just isn't physically able to fuck at that time. Fine. But he has fingers, a tongue, power tools 😁 and I have toys and all I really want is for that big hunk of man meat is to be there when I am getting mine. 🌹 That's all I want if that is all I can have at that moment, I want that guy who listens to me bitch and because after it is all done, no matter if he was able to fuck me at the moment I wanted it, he loves watching and I let him know I love him watching me.

Oh yeah! Power tools! We have a nice fucking machine also. I can't help but get hard, watching her lay there, being relentlessly pounded! I always want to join in, at least sucking and nibbling her nipples. 😁

If MrsFn is not in the mood, she often spreads her legs and gives herself to me anyway. At times when she does not feel well, but she knows I'm horny, she usually strips naked and lays on the bed, spreading her legs, cupping her breasts, putting on a show for me to masturbate to!

Small battery operated vibratory sander, covered in terrycloth and then saran wrap and a lot of lube; makes the magic wand look like a child's toy! 😉

Small battery operated vibratory sander, covered in terrycloth and then saran wrap and a lot of lube; makes the magic wand look like a child's toy! 😉

Yep! Once while detailing a car, I discovered, quite by accident, just how good a 6 inch random orbit, dual action polisher felt when pressed against my jeans. 😁 😜

@DrFn and @Sailing_Master I am totally looking at hardware and automotive stores in a whole different light. ?

Take matters into your own hands with a little lube if your horny enough... or be more creative using something else that'll get the job done. Some of the replies on this topic are hilarious.

In the beginning of our relationship, my wife (then my girlfriend) simply would let me masturbate if she was not in the mood. Then gradually she would handle the masturbation. Then she decided the right place was not her hand but her vagina.

So now most times if I feel frisky but she not quite, we will have some foreplay then intercourse. Occasionally she'll do a handjob and/or some sucking only. More rarely she will let me deal with it.

Before some of you react saying I should not force my wife to have sex if she's not in the mood: my wife disapproves of me masturbating when she's around, she feels she is the person to deal with my urges and the vagina is the best place for it.

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Before some of you react saying I should not force my wife to have sex if she's not in the mood: my wife disapproves of me masturbating when she's around, she feels she is the person to deal with my urges and the vagina is the best place for it.

I don't think you should force your wife to have sex if she is not in the mood, but I might make some sort of manipulative statement to her that she should have sex with you if she is able. Being lazy is not an excuse.

Regarding your wife saying that she should be the one to get you off and her vagina is where it should happen, rather than you masturbating is just plain silly. Sometimes it's nice to get yourself off without any help from your spouse.

Susie: She considers it inconsiderate if I "deplete my batteries" and says it's her job. I won't argue...