When your partner is not in mood to fuck you

In my previous marriage, sex stopped completely. Luckily I had a friend, a woman who lived in a façade marriage with a gay man and they didn't have sex between them. I met my friend 1-2 times a week at his place and we had sex with him. Her husband was downstairs at the same time, watching TV and making us coffee when we had satisfied each other. Unbelievable but true

Dahiana,

after reading all of your posts, I can't imagine your not being in the mood for sex.

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I wrote this a few years ago and I still feel this way.

Do you mean a mismatch on sex drive or a lack of intimacy because they’re separate issues. If you’re still horny after sex and your partner is done I’d suggest porn and masturbation.

If the issue is you’ve lost the intimacy of your partnership, you have a much larger problem and should seek counseling.

Taking a lover outside of the marriage without the knowledge of your partner isn’t an ethical solution.

Sometimes problems don’t have easy answers

This eventually happens in all relationships. Men and Women can become bored with each other sexually or as the years pass and children arrive into the relationship roles change and you become a dad or mom and for me that’s when true love and respect shines brightly. My wife has lost her desire for sex it seemed to disappear after we had our second child. I still love and respect her and I would never consider leaving her, she is a wonderful lady. I have discovered the joys of masturbating , I can close my eyes and use my imagination to create and be with any lady I desire . I’ve developed it to the point that sometimes while i’m sleeping and dreaming I am making love to other women and it feels one hundred percent real. I don’t know if they are in alternate worlds or reality’s, I am still trying to figure it out, it that vivid and real.

My wife and lover of many years always said:

"can we just do a quickie, i'll make it up to you next time"

the next time would always be extra special.

Count me as lucky because in 35 years this has not happened more than a handful (no pun intended) of times. My wife is usually very ready to go and has been known to ask "Want to do it again?"