Starting to date...a medical professional

So, this is weird. I got divorced a bit over a year ago, and just haven't really felt motivated enough to do the "dating thing" yet. But I do now, and at the moment just trying the basic, obvious routes, like online dating -- without any sexual/fetish-oriented theming (think match.com, not xmatch.com!).

On the first phone call I have with a women who, coincidentally, is the first person I've physically spoken to since I started this new "dating thing", I discover...she's a doctor. A dermatologist.

I'm thinking...this is either a very good thing, or a very bad thing. However, given that she's an actual MD, still has kids living at home, etc., probably the latter.

My question is really...what to do? Some of you here are medical professionals, but you already "get it". Still, I'm hoping you know a lot about your coworkers who aren't into this...

Questions that occur to me ... do I bring it up earlier or later? If so, how? What are the different ways it might be received?

All thoughts and suggestions are more than welcome!

Treat her like any other woman.

LATER you can get cute with her.

You don't want her thinking you just want to get into her pants -- unless of course she is a whore and just wants to get into yours.

Thanks @SwitchableSusie -- that's exactly how I'm trying to think about it, you're definitely right.

I might not have been clear, but my question isn't so much about "how do I make it work?" than it is about whether it's something to be addressed sooner rather than later. For example, if I keep it on the down-low for now, but later, when things are "working" it comes out, could it screw things up?

Hm...now that I write more, I think I'm not even sure what I'm asking. Some questions: are most doctors aware of medical fetish, and if so, does it seem just like any other sexual proclivity to them? Or, being professionals in the field, would they be more likely to be understanding about it when it comes out? Or less likely? If things go great for a couple months, but later it comes out, might a doctor think "You were just using me this whole time because I'm a doctor!"?

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Truth be told -- this is way early, so I think I'm less worried about this particular person, than I am with how I should think of this as I venture into this new "dating world"?

I never told my [ex-]wife about it, and when she discovered it years into our marriage, she was not understanding. It is my objective to avoid that kind of situation, whether it is 3 months or 3 years from now.

There, clear as mud? 😃

Seriously though -- thanks for the answer -- I totally appreciate that getting to know someone and the relationship itself needs to come first.

Hope that helps clarify my question a little more.

If either of you makes a light hearted joke about it, that could be ok, but don't harp on it in the beginning.

@gflin , for years Sirensong thought my fetish was separate from her, when in reality it was ABOUT her. It was SHE that I wanted to engage in fetish play with ….. in my case, enema play. I wanted an enema from HER, and I wanted to administer enema's to HER. It was not something I wanted to do with every 'skirt' that walked down the street..... it was a very intimate act that I wanted to experience with HER and only HER. It took me years to learn how to convey that to her. So, allow the relationship to mature ….. if you move quickly into the fetish, then whether you realize it or not, you're putting the fetish first, and the relationship second - and that's a disaster.