How has your diaper fetish developed since telling your partner?

I realised quite soon after telling my fiancée about my diaper fetish that bringing them into our life together wasn’t quite as easy as I thought it was going to be. Although the hardest part had been done and she hadn’t freaked out about it, I still found that actually using them in our relationship could be awkward at times too.

So after first admitting I had a fetish for diapers to my fiancée our diaper play to start with was somewhat limited as I’d not kept anything after being single for a while and then meeting her. We had to use bath towels as makeshift diapers and bin liners for protecting our bed, which also kept us confined to the bedroom. In our early days I had a bit of trepidation (as I still do now at times) of going out and buying anything specifically diaper related despite my admission, however it was actually my fiancée that really got the ball rolling when she bought a bought a baby bottle and a dummy into play (Much to my surprise!). From then I opened up a bit more and ordered a pair of plastic pants from an online store, I was even brave enough to put my fiancées name as the recipient of the package, they arrived when I was at work and she was at home and I even got a txt from her thanking me for the present.

Once we were able to move around the house more freely I ordered a few cloth diapers and a few more pairs of plastic pants and at times we would both be diapered. Sometimes though we could go weeks and weeks without a mention of diaper play, when I asked my fiancée why, she said that although it could be fun it was washing the diapers afterwards that become a bit of chore. I suggested that we could buy some disposable ones, I felt a bit awkward when she said it didn’t really matter as we had enough diapers but I decided to order some Tena slips anyway. When they arrived I took fresh initiative and put her in one when I had tied her to the bed and had just given her a baby lotion massage, I thought she was going to be a little mad especially as she seemed to have lost interest in diapers somewhat, but to my surprise she actually quite liked them and said she felt more babyish in disposables. I didn’t tell her that I had taken the morning off work to receive them though, that is still something she wouldn’t understand with my fetish for diapers!

Being tied and left in a disposable for long periods of time didn’t hold up too well for the Tena slips unfortunately and after a couple of leaks and without resorting to using cloth diapers and plastic pants too I brought a pack of pampers to use as soakers for long periods of restraint, coupled with a pack of pampers bed mats for extra protection.

My fiancée did then start getting a bit agitated that I seemed to buying more diaper related products for our sex life but little else even pointing out that I never brought her anything sexy and girly anymore. I felt a bit ashamed and also a bit embarrassed when she mentioned it but later made amends with a shopping trip to “La Senza” and “Ann Summers”.

I decided that I would put the diaper play on hold for a while and then started looking for something we could do in-between diapers and lingerie. I found a great online store that sold PVC lingerie that was available in clear semi transparent, all colours as well as some with cute teddy bear baby print. I order a few different pairs of bra and panties for her as well as a PVC baby doll nightie. They took a while to arrive, and I had to go to the Post Office to collect them as I’d missed the delivery but when I gave them to my fiancée she loved them.

Quite a while had gone by without us using diapers and they had been consigned to a large box under the bed. After feeling that I had pushed them as far as we could go I didn’t like to bring them into conversation and also didn’t want my fiancée to think I had too much of a desire for them.

My fears of this thankfully were quite short lived when after re-arranging our bedroom after she’d had a bad day work she pulled out our diaper box from under the bed. She sat down had a few tears and said that hadn’t been herself recently and all she wanted was cuddles. She plucked a Tena from the box, grabbed one of her bedside teddies and held them in her lap for a moment, contemplating, and then asked me to comfort her just like a baby. She hadn’t really been like this before but she had become quite low and although I was a little taken aback I happily agreed. I diapered her in the Tena, dressed her in pyjamas with some socks and led her into the living room, I sat down with her for a whole evening and into the early hours, we talked, watched TV and she had more than several feeds of Coca Cola from a bottle (She doesn’t like milk) and she also loved being changed after unusually wetting more than two diapers and quite heavily.

I look back at that evening which seemed to be the first milestone reached and it’s now been several months since then. We’re still developing our interest together with diapers and at least now we regularly play at the least every two to three weeks. I would still like to take it further and a little more often, it’s getting there and we have had a couple of instances where it has gone overnight in diapers for me but so far after around 18 months or so since introducing them into our relationship I’m not at all disappointed.

I wondered if anyone else after admitting they liked diapers still found it difficult at times with their partner who had not previously ever been involved in the fetish.

Hey, glad things worked out OK in the end. Maybe not as much as you would have liked, but it's a compromise. And who knows what the future may hold!

You did what many guys often forget... make a fuss of her in return for accepting your liking of diapers. You took her shopping and did things that she particularly wanted or made her feel especially good. +1 point! 😃

Unfortunately my experience with telling a partner were not so fortunate - she liked them at first, we played,then she suddenly switched off and refused to have anything more to do with them. I found out 6 months later she was seeing another bloke (even though we were engaged to be married)... she is now ex- as I left and started out on my own. That was 5 years ago and happily diapered even though alone! One day someone will come my way! 😃

Thanks Sandy.

I can share how it feels losing someone after you tell them. Coming clean about my diaper fetish cost me my first marriage, I said to myself after it ended quite bitterly that I would never, ever tell anyone else again.

When I realised how much more open minded my fiancee was compared to my ex-wife I had a feeling she would be more understanding. Even with one marriage behind me, and despite what I had said to myself I still told her too! There was a bit of a trade off with confessions to each other plus she hadn't been shy about taking a pee on me when I hadn't expected it which somewhat helped a few weeks earlier.

I suppose because of what happened to my first marriage is what makes me cautious about opening up further each time, and why I still find it awkward, almost embarrassing sometimes with my fiancee even now. I know I shouldn't as my ex-wife wouldn't even discuss it or even try to understand whereas with my fiancee, she is a happily active participant and has taken my diaper fetish far further than I ever thought it would go.

These are very good ideas.I will follow them.

BOB C

I told my boyfriend and he was totally fine with it. We had a few weekends with lots of fun and he really went all out and he admitted that he liked babying me and doing it. I eventually get very awkward about it though and then I can't initiate it anymore. He doesn't really initiate it and when he does it seems like he's anxious so I get turned off about it and demand that I don't want to play any-more! But all the while I am on these websites and practically sneaking around to get off. I also use a diaper sometimes when is at work and I am home. I think we'd have to get really drunk to play like we used to again! =(

For me, it hasn't. I accidentally told her a couple months into our relationship that I had a fetish (genuinely by accident, was chatting with another friend who knew, on the computer, and got chat windows mixed up, oops) and I told her a little more in person what the fetish was, and she seemed fine with it. I didn't bring it up again until after we were married, in the hopes that we could talk about it more, maybe try it, etc. WRONG MOVE!!! It was absolutely horrible. I thought I had done it all the right way, brought it up gently/carefully but, well yeah. It sucks.

Very tough subject to bring up with anyone who is not into alternative life styles. I have seen many couples split over the introduction of the diaper fetish or diaper lifestyle. It breaks my heart to see it because it seems to be mostly a misunderstanding of what the lifestyle actually is.

My wife was horrified when she found out, and no amount of talking about it made any difference, in fact it nearly broke up our marriage. I had to promise I would never wear them or dress up again. She burnt all my stuff in the garden, and thought the whole thing was perverted and disgusting. We are OK now, sort of, there is no sex any more and She has moved into the back room. She refuses to talk about it, and so I have to keep little Mary hidden at all times, which is why it is such a relief coming on sites like this.

My wife seems to quite enjoy it since I've become incontinent of urine (probably as a result of MS though still having tests). She likes to put a nappy on me and cream and initiate sex from there. She has also taking to smacking and kissing my bottom. She asks me if I've had an accident and changes me sometimes.

Mary Babs, you have just described the living arrangements of an awful lot of diaper lifestyle Men of the World. I talk with a lot of them on line and over the phone and many have been moved out of the bedroom.[quote author=Mary Babs link=topic=11216.msg414566#msg414566 date=1327138891]

My wife was horrified when she found out, and no amount of talking about it made any difference, in fact it nearly broke up our marriage. I had to promise I would never wear them or dress up again. She burnt all my stuff in the garden, and thought the whole thing was perverted and disgusting. We are OK now, sort of, there is no sex any more and She has moved into the back room. She refuses to talk about it, and so I have to keep little Mary hidden at all times, which is why it is such a relief coming on sites like this.

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My wife seems to quite enjoy it since I've become incontinent of urine (probably as a result of MS though still having tests). She likes to put a nappy on me and cream and initiate sex from there. She has also taking to smacking and kissing my bottom. She asks me if I've had an accident and changes me sometimes.

[/quote]Bobbyab your a very lucky Man. I wish you and your Wife all the fun in the World. Enjoy your diapers and don't forget her little sexual desires too

Of course, actually it rekindled our sex life. Just wish it had happened much earlier in our marriage when I was in my prime and could get seriously excited by these things.

Yes my wife discovered some matters on the subject a few years after we were married she freaked out. I wet the bed occasionally before we were married and told her I had to wear diapers to bed. She felt it was all a lie. I promised not to wear them anymore in time the inevitable happened and I wet the bed ruined the mattress. Since then we had ups and downs when she caught me on the internet. Today I have very little control of my bladder due to medical conditions and age. I wear diapers 24/7 She’s ok wit it not happy I’m on wed sites like this but she accepted it some years ago. She was told by our therapist that I would never change. I need my diapers and plastic pants for emotional support as well as medically. Most of the time I am happy and secure in my diapers sometimes not but thats life !

I told my partner quite soon in our relatioship. She was really understanding, but was also questioning everything. I still think that it is a good thing because she wanted to understand and be fully informed in this matter. She told me that she has full peace with it now and sees no harm done in any way with this fetish/kink.

Though she has no affinity with ABDL related things, she has given me the space that I need to keep developing my ABDL-side in the past years. I even have a phone-mommy I call every now and then so I get my jollys. So I’m still learning to accept my ABDL-side with my parner as the the wind beneath my wings.

Spike