Definition of a sissy

I have heard different definitions of the term 'sissy'. Some say you HAVE to dress, others say it is how you think or attitude.

I am a masculine type guy, however I DO switch D/s roles. When I submit, I like being treated like a girl (my cock is caged and becomes my clit, and my ass becomes my pussy), but I am not into the clothing. I also like the contrast of me going from a dominant type A masculine guy, to a submissive bi gurl.

With that said, I don't know if I am a sissy when I submit or not.

I'd love to hear other's opinions!

As for me, the " vanilla' world would label me as a sissy due to my wanting to be spanked by my wife & my ABDL life of wet diapers, baby bottle & pacifier.

I recently read an artice on sissyfication and it brought up a core definition of a sissy. I quote:

Sissification differs from being transgender in the sense that choice is thought to be involved, not only in “becoming” a woman, but in reversing the process. As opposed to popular notions about being transgender, a sissy isn’t “really” a woman—he’s a man who’s volunteering to have his masculinity destroyed, with the understanding that if he doesn’t go too far in physically altering himself, he can always reverse the process. He isn’t seeking his “true” gender identity; he’s undermining it because erotic humiliation gives him a sexual thrill.

See: https://thoughtcatalog.com/jeremy-london/2018/03/the-art-of-sissification-is-sissy-a-new-sexual-orientation/

By the way, I am currently working on a definition of "sissy" with regard to BDSM practicies. So watch out, I will be back soon on this post.

A sissy is basically being, acting like, or being treated like a girly feminine guy or a girl--often for humiliation.

It has nothing to do with being trans anything.

The article

https://thoughtcatalog.com/jeremy-london/2018/03/the-art-of-sissification-is-sissy-a-new-sexual-orientation/

stated some very strange and ridiculous points.

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The Art Of Sissification: Is ‘Sissy’ A New Sexual Orientation? GOD I HOPE NOT. There are enough crazy descriptions out there.

I am going to have to coin a term for the sexual orientation where a woman likes to lie naked on a hammock in the sun where a light mist of water wafts overhead as my dog licks my toes causing me to have an orgasm. ---- That ISN'T any different from a man who wants to be sissified being called a new sexual orientation.

@SwitchableSusie Hi! You mentioned one "of the strange and ridiculous points" the article has made in your opinion. Would you care to give us the others? And why is being a sissy not a gender orientation in your opinion? The example you gave seems to me not quite fitting but rather be a kind of mockery of the ones who take being a sissy seriously. What you state to be the definition of a sissy is that one of a crossdresser and not of a sissy at all.

@SwitchableSusie Hi! You mentioned one "of the strange and ridiculous points" the article has made in your opinion. Would you care to give us the others? And why is being a sissy not a gender orientation in your opinion? The example you gave seems to me not quite fitting but rather be a kind of mockery of the ones who take being a sissy seriously. What you state to be the definition of a sissy is that one of a crossdresser and not of a sissy at all.

Being a sissy is NOT a gender orientation because, are you ready? THERE ARE TWO GENDERS.

The example I gave is EXACTLY fitting because you cannot have a gender orientation for every sexual or non-sexual activity people enjoy doing and again because THERE ARE TWO GENDERS.

I can accept people wanting to be sissified but it is NOT a gender orientation, being sissified is something they like to do, just like I like to tie people up, restrain them and inflict corporal punishment and pain---but there is no sexual orientation for that either---and there should NOT be because it is just something I like to do.

I also like REAL, MANLY MEN, not sissies. @Cedar once asked me for examples of real, manly men. These are the names I gave him: Clark Kent/Superman, Tarzan, Mephistopheles, my husband, George Clooney, John Wayne, Clint Eastwood, Genghis Kahn, Rasputin, Nietzsche's Zarathustra, G Gordon Liddy and several others in no particular order.

No wimpy girly guys for me. A man has to know exactly what he is with absolutely no question in his mind.

you cannot have a gender orientation

I think it's back to word meanings again, to definitions.

I would say that a gender orientation is not the same as a physical gender. An orientation simply sounds like a predilection, something that is for whatever reason attractive and appealing or appeals to some sense of a person's character.

A physical gender on the other is indeed limited to what a person's birth body indicates.

If there is going to be a long back and forth on this, let's at least agree on definitions first.

you cannot have a gender orientation

I think it's back to word meanings again, to definitions.

Go back and read my post again to see if that is really what you want to say. I was not addressing definitions in my post.

I was responding specifically to @Diana_Kah's questions to me, and he does have something on his agenda because he said he is working on a definition---which of course will be HIS definition that doesn't appear in accepted dictionaries.

Growing up in the 1950's "sissy" meant a male who was fearful, and scared of being brave. This derogatory meaning is stuck in my mind.. Saying I'm a sissy is worse than saying I'm effeminate, as "effeminate" doesn't imply to me as being fearful or brave...

Growing up in the 1950's "sissy" meant a male who was fearful, and scared of being brave. This derogatory meaning is stuck in my mind.. Saying I'm a sissy is worse than saying I'm effeminate, as "effeminate" doesn't imply to me as being fearful or brave...

Yes.

Originally a sissy meant the same thing as being a wimp.

The "fearful, scaredy cat" characteristic, however, was ascribed to girls.

To me being a sissy would be like being chicken or someone who's unnecessarily afraid of things. Sort of the opposite of being brave.

To me being a sissy would be like being chicken or someone who's unnecessarily afraid of things. Sort of the opposite of being brave.

That's what Reddevil said

@SwitchableSusie I will not comment any of your posts any more from now on. I do really dislike your tone, who poisons the atmosphere in the discussions. And the best to avoid it is to stop giving you any attention anymore.

@SwitchableSusie I will not comment any of your posts any more from now on. I do really dislike your tone, who poisons the atmosphere in the discussions. And the best to avoid it is to stop giving you any attention anymore.

The reason you dislike my tone is (1) I speak my mind, (2) by your own admission YOU ARE A SISSY, and (3) we disagree with each other.

Even sissies have to stand behind what they post and accept when people disagree with them. Being a sissy, you should just submit and accept what people have to say. Besides, I never attacked you personally. I simply disagreed with an article you quoted.

Aren’t there female sisses as well? Do male sisses own it? I know a lot of women I would call “sisses””. Many on this site.

@ SwitchableSusie, I like:

A sissy is basically being, acting like, or being treated like a girly feminine guy or a girl--often for humiliation.

I also like the part where the "sissy" can go back to "man mode". Often, when I'm done playing with another CD, when finished, we put on our man clothes (some leave their panties on) and have normal discussions. I would also like to add (at least for me) the feeling of being a slut (that's a whole different topic). As a sissy slut, I don't want to be 100 % dressed as a woman, instead I want to wear naughty lingerie and underwear (must be silky material, no cotton). Dressed like, that I want to be on my knees and have the person tell me all kinds humiliating things to me and how much that I am a nasty sissy slut. I want the man to slap my face with his cock and cum on and in me in various situations......

This may not have answered any questions, however, it was fun to write.

Aren’t there female sisses as well? Do male sisses own it? I know a lot of women I would call “sisses””. Many on this site.

Yes, but not in the way you might think. Just as a girl's nickname, with no negative connotation; in fact often the opposite, as a term of endearment. My wife was called "sissy" by her younger brother who looked up to her - it was easy for him to say "sissy" than "sister" as a little boy. Another example is Alan Jackson's sad "Sissy's Song" .

I also like REAL, MANLY MEN, not sissies. @Cedar once asked me for examples of real, manly men. These are the names I gave him: Clark Kent/Superman, Tarzan, Mephistopheles, my husband, George Clooney, John Wayne, Clint Eastwood, Genghis Kahn, Rasputin, Nietzsche's Zarathustra, G Gordon Liddy and several others in no particular order

You put a smile on my face with the above; and, 'cause i know no better, won't keep my mouth shut:

1. It is great that you cherish hubby, but he only comes fourth (yeah, no particular order, but still)... 😃 kidding, but hey - if I were him, I would appreciate either first or last positions.

2. Adding Mephisto in the mix shows some big brass ones; fully agree, that guy knew what he wanted

3. You do realize that most of your "examples" are fidgets of someone's imagination, or actors impersonating story characters rite? And that includes rasputin (dirty, gross, unwashed, totally repulsive sob) genghis kahn - same as previous only worse. How would you rate John Paul Stapp? Or Julian Assange? Or Keanu Reeves - the real man, not his acting gigs?

It is much harder to be a Real Man in real life than it is in stories... stories always have this way of rewarding the just, letting character shine, and generally the Good prevails... real life mocks that as and when it feels like it.

i read once a psych paper which showed our basic need for balance. Snr Executives (required to show strength, decision power, etc) have higher incidence of submissive behavior in bed, while people submissive at work show prevalence for being dominant at home... so how are these faring as to knowing what they want?

real men have alpha personalities which, when unchecked, can lead them in pretty dire situations. Real men left to their own devices usually end badly, unless some smart, beautiful and infinitely patient woman takes pity on them and sets them rite, usually through the gentle coercion of marriage 😃

Hope you had a great Easter!

You put a smile on my face with the above; and, 'cause i know no better, won't keep my mouth shut:

1. It is great that you cherish hubby, but he only comes fourth (yeah, no particular order, but still)... 😃 kidding, but hey - if I were him, I would appreciate either first or last positions.

2. Adding Mephisto in the mix shows some big brass ones; fully agree, that guy knew what he wanted

3. You do realize that most of your "examples" are fidgets of someone's imagination, or actors impersonating story characters rite? And that includes rasputin (dirty, gross, unwashed, totally repulsive sob) genghis kahn - same as previous only worse. How would you rate John Paul Stapp? Or Julian Assange? Or Keanu Reeves - the real man, not his acting gigs?

It is much harder to be a Real Man in real life than it is in stories... stories always have this way of rewarding the just, letting character shine, and generally the Good prevails... real life mocks that as and when it feels like it.

i read once a psych paper which showed our basic need for balance. Snr Executives (required to show strength, decision power, etc) have higher incidence of submissive behavior in bed, while people submissive at work show prevalence for being dominant at home... so how are these faring as to knowing what they want?

real men have alpha personalities which, when unchecked, can lead them in pretty dire situations. Real men left to their own devices usually end badly, unless some smart, beautiful and infinitely patient woman takes pity on them and sets them rite, usually through the gentle coercion of marriage 😃

Hope you had a great Easter!

My husband and I are generally patient with each other. If we weren't so similar in our likes and dislikes, one of us would be dead or we would be divorced by now, but probably dead. As far as being or getting married is concerned, we basically came upon the conclusion together. There was no real proposal or one of us getting on one knee or asking the other's father for their child's hand in marriage. We have romantic times all the time, but the decision to get married wasn't one of them. It was just a smart thing for us to do. I don't know that I would recommend getting married to anyone these days. It is an out-dated institution that forms a contract between the man, woman and the GOVERNMENT. If you don't believe that, just try to get a divorce. I can deal with a contract with another person, but the government part is what screws everything up.

If you read my post carefully, you will see I said, "IN NO PARTICULAR ORDER" and I meant it exactly as I stated. My husband being fourth in the list was primarily done to show impartiality. I am impartial, but I know where I stand, rarely back down and will stand behind what I say.

I listed the specific characters because people can relate to them. Of the others you mentioned, I have only heard of Keanu Reeves and I know nothing of his real life. I give little to no credibility to any psychological papers. My husband and I are pretty evenly matched. We get along very well, but when we disagree we work it out. Sometimes I win, sometimes he wins, and I can't recall any really good rockem-sockem fights.

Easter was quiet this year. Usually we have a big bash on holidays because everyone is off from work, but this year it was just the family at home.

My husband and I are generally patient with each other.....

I My husband and I are pretty evenly matched. We get along very well, but when we disagree we work it out. Sometimes I win, sometimes he wins, and I can't recall any really good rockem-sockem fights.

Well stated - key to a good marriage.