Lesbian sex tips?

Hey all! I know there aren't many lesbians on this site, but I thought I'd give it a shot. I've been with my current girlfriend for about a year and a half, and our sex life is healthy but also very vanilla. I prefer not to share my fetishes with her, and I think she's not kinky at all.

Does anyone have any advice on how to spice things up while keeping it relatively 'traditional'? I've never used toys, but I'm interested in trying. I would welcome recommendations, advice and tips!

Thanks all

Does anyone have any advice on how to spice things up while keeping it relatively 'traditional'? I've never used toys, but I'm interested in trying. I would welcome recommendations, advice and tips!

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That's about as vanilla introduction into kinks as you can get.

Get dildos and butt plugs of various sizes. Introduce her to smaller or medium sized ones first.

Vibrators are good also.

You could try spanking since that doesn't require any tools or equipment. Start with light playful spanking and work your way up to painful spanking, black and blue marks, blisters and breaking the skin if you are inclined to go that far.

You may need to slowly work your way into enema and BDSM equipment.

Start with ropes or simple leather restraints, then you can get into chain and more elaborate metal devices.

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Your relationship will have a better sexual component if you GRADUALLY admit your fetishes to her and see how she responds. Try to implement the more tame/vanilla fetishes first to see how she responds. You can say you have done some reading lately, and certain fetishes were interesting and you wanted to try them out.

Buying some simple toys and having a little light spanking is good advice, trying to ratchet it up to heavy duty hurting her might be less wise, and certainly what neither of you want or need. There's lots of ways to spice things up, but these can be mental as well as physical. You have to create some points of difference between you, which you can explore or bridge through sex, otherwise two women together can get so similar you're more like sisters than lovers and the sex life dies. Try some role play - pretending to meet in a bar as strangers perhaps - or cosplay in the bedroom. Try sexy texts, or games, or going away for a special weekend. It doesn't have to be whips and chains all the time. Ask her what her fantasy is and make a big effort to make that come true first, then you can offer yours. Always aim to give her a good time and she'll want to explore more things, if it's just about getting your own rocks off, you risk alienating her rather than opening her mind and body to new and fun experiences.

Oh definitely go find some toys. Starting with some dildos and butt plugs and buzzing little vibes can really liven things up and make playtime more intimate.

A gentle vibe while kissing can really turn a girl on, whether one is more a giver or receiver or if it's mutual.

Gradually exploring kinky things is worth talking about and helps prolong an encounter in so many ways

I definitely agree with what the other girls have said. Intimacy requires openness. It might be good to talk about some of your interests and gradually introduce her to things you want to experience.

Talking about what gives you pleasure or other sensations you want is really important. And gradually introducing toys and simple acts goes a long way.

Things like light spanking can be fun and flirty, it doesnt have to be very sore or long lasting to be exciting. And then you can gradually introduce and explore other toys and techniques

Like in all relationships , bi , straight, gray, lesbian . One has to communicate , if your partner doesn't know what you like, they won't engage in it. Some couples are afraid, or embarrassed, or even humiliated to talk about kinks. Look at all they will miss.

It migjt be hard to talk about it. But there are ways. Netflix streaming has many shows with kids and sexual situations in them. Watch one of these shows, and when something interests you, tell your partner that looks interesting, see how she reacts. You might be surprised.

My wife and I live a cuckold / hotwife relationship, she is my dom . You think that was easy talking about. But we talked about one thing at a rime, and built little by little to where we are now. Don't be afraid to talk about things . It all started when we watched a show long ago where a girlfriend was pulled across her boyfriends lap and got a few swats across her behind, she was fully dressed. My wife said something as to he was acting macho. I said sell maybe it works the other way. She said let's try then, see if you can submit. I did and this is how we got to where we are.

Try porn. There’s lots of good lesbian porn done by actual lesbians aimed at other women. Start there and maybe use it as a jumping off place to introduce the idea of role playing. If she’s pretending to be someone else she might be more inclined to do things she’d be reluctant to do as ‘her’.

One way to break the ice is for the adventurous partner to start the conversation by asking their vanilla partner what they would like to do but have never done before. This way you are not trying broach the subject of your fetishes, but letting your partner open up about their own hidden sexual desires maybe some of which are quite sexy, but they were too shy or embarrassed to ever share with someone else. By fulfilling your partner's fantasies, you will set the stage to try the the things you like to do.

If both partners truly trust each other, the padlocks will come off the doors guarding each partner's deepest secret desires.

I find that any time I wish to introduce anything of a sexual nature to a partner it goes much smoother if that person is already seriously worked up sexually. The hotter the better.

You may want to try for the anal G spot - please check my post in Anal Orgasm - it's for real.

Perhaps I will get a bit off topic but then I tend to do so. The first thing one does when approaching a relationship with a person of the same sex is to treat it like any other person. You meet for lunch then talk, listen, talk, listen and repeat, one likes what they hear, see and perhaps move on to the next level. We both found out we liked shopping at thrift stores, Mexican food and eating out, we enjoyed time in the kitchen and loved going to a casino and spending the night.

Our first time in bed was like any other couple, finding out and exploring each other’s body and what we could do with each other. I quickly found out we liked similar things so for us it was fairly easy but if we were going to keep seeing each other due to our height difference, she 5’2” and I 5’10” there were some things we had to adjust. That is another story in itself.

Secret to a good relationship, and good sex, listen. Regardless if it is a man or another woman.

You have been with her for a year and a half so you should know some things about her. What she likes and dislikes. If you have ever tried to touch her ass and she pushes your finger away don't go for there. Look at some lesbian videos online. Bellesa Videos. Porndroids are good. Watch some lesbian videos where they use toys and get her reactions. Ask what she thinks about certain toys when you see them in a video. You could watch more, even lesbian anal videos. But be sure and watch it first. A lot are made by hardcore men producers and they are rough, made for men. What woman wants a massive fake penis shoved in her ass over and over without any foreplay or anything. Those are just brutal. There are some videos made by women for women. If you are looking for anal play with her watch some of these videos with her. https://xhamster.com/videos/hegre-art-screaming-anal-enema-massage-fem-14915420. Ask her if she would like to try this and that. Be open with her and ask questions. If you want enema play and she says it is gross ask her if she would help you. I am serious. I had an enema when I was nine years old. The finger and lubing were alright and even the first gush of water was alright but when the cramps hit I was gone. For years I thought getting touched on or in my ass was gross. then a girl moved in with me who was totally into anal. She would try and slide a finger in my ass after she got me really wet and I would push away. I didn't mind doing it to her. One night after sex we were talking and she asked why I didn't like being touched back there. I told her the enema story and how I would totally be freaked out if someone put their finger in me and felt something. She asked if I had ever felt anything in her and I said no. She told me that is because she did enemas. Then she asked if I would help her which I had no problem with. For weeks I would watch her have major orgasms while I was giving her enemas. I finally got up the nerve to try. The first was 1/4 of a bag and she would stop it when I said stop. Then after weeks, I got to 1/2 a bag and then 3/4 a bag but never had an orgasm. Then one time she was giving me an enema and I was on my back watching the bag deflate. She was licking me and I saw the bag was almost empty and I closed my eyes. The next thing I knew I was having a major orgasm and when I opened my eyes the bag was empty and she started kissing me. After that, I was hooked. We would do enemas usually three and then she could explore my ass all she wanted to. After she had to move back to her home state and we went our own ways, If I was going out with a woman that may want to touch me back there I would do enemas before the date. But that is just my story and how I got into anal. She could be waiting on you to make the first move.

After you have figured it out and ordered toys and they arrive send her a sext text. You could make her a bubble bath with candles. Have the toys in the bedroom and blindfold her as soon as she comes home. Give her a nice bath. Dry her. Use lotion and then lead her to the bedroom. Make sure the toys have new batteries or are fully charged or plugged in. You may want to get a Feeldoe, glass dildo, wand massager, a rabbit vibe, a double-headed jelly dildo.