I'm Confused, Do I Belong Here?

This is my very first time talking about or sharing anything concerning BDSM. I never thought much about this until I happened to glance at some of the information here. I've always thought I was a straight woman but now I question that. I'm thinking there may be some Dominance in me? Here's Why?

A few years ago I found that I really loved having my husbands tongue in my anus. He seems okay with this and we have done it many times. Me to the extent that I get excited to the point where I actually feel my heart beating in anticipation. I orgasm easily when his tongue is buried in my bottom. I push against his tongue to get him as deep in me as possible. When we have our gynecology fun I'm sitting like a princess in my exam table with my feet in the stirrups. I'll put on some make up and I always wear stockings and heels. I want him kneeling in front of me with his tongue in my bottom. I love it and orgasm each time. I enjoy showing off and my husband enjoys this also. We have been doing this for years. Now I'm thinking about something new!

I'm questioning myself about this and have not yet talked with my husband. I will soon and I think he would say yes? Here we go! I want him to purchase me a Queening Chair! There I have said it and I'm shaking trying to type here. I'm getting turned on just thinking of it!

So is this an act of a BDSM woman? Maybe Dominant because I desire him to take a walk to a new place with me?

Thank You For Listening,

GyneDoll-Gwen

@Gynedoll said. . . . .

I'm questioning myself about this and have not yet talked with my husband. I will soon and I think he would say yes? Here we go! I want him to purchase me a Queening Chair! There I have said it and I'm shaking trying to type here. I'm getting turned on just thinking of it!

So is this an act of a BDSM woman? Maybe Dominant because I desire him to take a walk to a new place with me?

Thank You For Listening,

GyneDoll-Gwen

It ISN'T necessarily something of dominance. The practice can simply be something your husband likes to do for you because you enjoy it.

Now if you urinate on him during this I would consider it more an act of domination and definitely an act of domination if you defecate on him.

Personally, I would rather be lying down in bed with my husband lying between my legs while he orals me than in a queening chair.

@SwitchableSusie, Thanks for your input Susie. Ideas will help me.

If you force him to do it somewhat against his liking I would say it would be an act of dominance. Do you have other things that you have him do that he doesn't like or doesn't like in the extreme that you do enjoy?

It ISN'T necessarily something of dominance. The practice can simply be something your husband likes to do for you because you enjoy it.

Now if you urinate on him during this I would consider it more an act of domination...

Actually, if I were her husband I'd consider her urinating on me an act of kindness. Yes, some of us would be happy as we like to do what pleases our women. My wife could only handle 1 orgasm in a single session of sex. When I tried to continue on, she would clench her legs together and pull my head away from her pussy. If I could be positioned under a queening chair and licking/tonguing/sucking her to orgasm after orgasm after orgasm I'd be happy to be there for hours. Getting her off was always the most important thing to me. Her juices flowed so freely, and tasted so divine, I can't imagine how much I'd have enjoyed eating her pussy if she had ever had multiple orgasms. It may have been more than I could handle.

Hell yes you belong, are you a Dominant? Who knows, as long as its consenting who cares. You are getting something you want and he is also. So stay around and enjoy the ride

You have a right to be where you are. You belong where you say you belong. It "sounds" like BDSM, and it may be, but even if it is "not true BDSM" so what?

You are allowed to order sex as you like it.

And you get to decide what you like.

It's all okay.

Really.

It doesn't matter how you define your sexuality. The important part is that you really don't have to defend it (as long as it is legal and consensual.)

Be well!

Thank You Everyone for your input. I appreciate your help.

@EJM,

It doesn't matter how you define your sexuality. The important part is that you really don't have to defend it (as long as it is legal and consensual.

This is exactly what I needed to read. I feel much better now.

We have been away from any type of sex for a few months. Now that we will be going back to our home, my mind is set on having some great fun.

I also see there are a number of people in my age group. Knowing it's okay for a grand mother to have the same desires as other do makes me feel like I'm not an Odd Bird. I'm just a woman that enjoys sex and passion with my husband. We have been together since I was 17 and my husband is the only man I've ever loved. Now we love each other in so many new ways. As we have gotten older all the inhibition is long gone. I thank Zity and it's members for sharing their lives with me. I'm happy to be a Long Goner. I often think about this. Do it today, no one is promised tomorrow. Especially with the way things are all over the world.

I hope everyone is being safe. Love Your Lover!

I admire your candor. Yes, your place is right here

You most certainly do belong here, @GyneDoll . Always enjoy reading your honest and detailed and erotic comments.

As to your new idea, it sounds like you and your husband are very close and frank with one another. So don’t worry about the terminology, BDSM etc, just talk it through and see where it takes you.

You are a very very sexy couple, by the way!

The reply posts here are what set Zity apart from other fetish sites. Corny as it may sound, there is a lot of genuine love here. @GyneDoll, it is being tossed your way and you truly deserve it. This is the right place for you and everyone else here. Bask in the sunshine of Zity and be comfortable in your difference.

Many others have said it - yes, this is the place for you. There is very little judging here and tremendous support. Open up and share!

Thank's everyone for your replies. As I get older it's easier for me to accept myself as I am. I look at things like this now. Be yourself, have fun today because tomorrow is promised to no one. I'm very grateful for the Zity Biz family.

@Plumber70,

I took a look at that video! Reminds me of me! I'll tell the truth and say I've been doing that for about 20 years. No I read about "Eating Ass" Lordy, I love that! When my husband does this to me I'm the happiest girl on the planet. I can even orgasm while doing this. I like doing this while wearing black seamed stockings and a pair of sexy high heel shows. Puts a bit of extra naughty into the fun. Or I should call it Anal Passion! I Love It!