Polyamoury or Polygamy - Your experiences, (pros and cons)

For those who have lived a poly lifestyle: is there one piece of advise you would give someone entering into a poly relationship including kinks and how they related to you. Could you also please state your 'role', ie) Mistress, femsub, boot-boi, pet.

Thank you

Do you mean polyamory?

Do you mean polyamory?

That's what I thought too. If it's confirmed I'll edit the thread title to use the full word for clarity.

Yes polyamoury or polygamous would be better words to use.

One meaning love between more than 2 and the other meaning sexual relations between more than 2, (I'm thinking).

Though one does not rule out the other.

Okay, I've changed the thread title. It's always better to use complete words so that the content will show in a search. Abbreviated words might make sense to the person writing, but will be ambiguous or even meaningless to a good many more.

In this example, members searching on the word "polygamy" would not have found your thread at all due to "poly" being only a partial match.

But now, others searching on "polyamoury", "polyamory", or "polygamy" should be able to find it if they search.

@lana_peterzon

For those who have lived a poly lifestyle: is there one piece of advise you would give someone entering into a poly relationship including kinks and how they related to you. Could you also please state your 'role', ie) Mistress, femsub, boot-boi, pet.

Thank you

Just to let you know the definition or that concept of polyamoury that I am familiar with @lana_peterzon this is the link that best describes my understanding of this, although I am not a fan of almost anything associated or written by a 'psychologist';

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201807/what-is-the-difference-between-polyamory-and-polygamy

And for those who love labels, there is this for a starting point for the discussion;

https://www.unicornsrule.com/unicorn-polyamory/

My husband and I are currently engaged in our own 'sexploration' that suits us and helps our marriage and what we want with and for each other. Obviously 'sexploration' is not a real word but it's one my husband and I believe best describes what we are doing and what we want.

Speaking for myself, and in harmony with my husbands' thoughts, we are of the belief that we only have sex with or make love, or fuck, friends. In reviewing the different internet definitions the definition that I posted above accurately described polyamoury as a buzzword. It could also apply to 'open marriage' or 'swinging'. But your asking about the 'role' leads me to ask if you are thinking of something other than polyamoury or polygamy?

But your asking about the 'role' leads me to ask if you are thinking of something other than polyamoury or polygamy?

No, I am talking about "polyamoury". The 'roles' i suggested where to get people thinking in a more dimensional way rather than the head of the "family/circle/group" and all others being equal to each other. There are so many ways to practice "polyamoury". Bringing up the 'roles' of those in the 'family' can show that depth and the myriad of relationships that there are.

It would have been better for me to have left out the 'roles' part. The way i phrased it combined two totally different questions. I really think this question should be put to bed and if possible deleted as i don't think it serves a purpose other than to suggest that i use proper words instead of short forms or colloquialisms

When i ask a similar question, i will head the lessons here. Thanks all..

@DrZ @MsLila @SwitchableSusie

I think this is a good topic and would like to see it remain. It caused me to look into it and the 'roles' were an element I hadn't considered in how I viewed polyamoury.

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Thank you, even I thought it was confusing after looking at it a few times but maybe it will garner some conversation. Needless to say, I've learned through all of this.

Body of my post today:

I have lived a polyamorous life for over 12 yrs. Our 'family' was dynamic through the years. My Sir was the core and people moved in and out of the family depending on their needs. There were from 3 to 9 women in the family and at one time there was a man. I was there in the beginning and also in the end. We moved away from the area and became a triad. (One center and two unrelated branches off of the center.) She and I were like room mates and had Sir as our focal point. I always referred to her as His 'other' and that was not derogatory. It was meant so that others would partially understand things.

There were many positives when living this way, few detractors and some very amusing moments. I don't regret these living arrangements at all. My one piece of advice when considering entering into a polyamorous relationship is that jealousy is extremely destructive and can wreck havoc if not addressed as soon as it raises it's ugly head. (Though that might be an obvious statement.)