Care home visiting

A few months ago I went to visit an old friend who had just moved into a care home. The majority of the residents were in various stages of dementia, and everyone was quite obviously diapered. Although I love wearing diapers for pleasure my initial reaction was shock, but as I began to think about it later, and following subsequent visits, I became quite fascinated by situation and I have to admit that seeing so many men and women in diapers was somewhat arousing.

When we go to see mum at her residential home there are always nurses walking around with pads or nappies or even both on their way to the disposal bin, unfortunately the ventilation fan in that room ceased to work and mum got bombarded with nasty niffs coming in from the room next door which has the bins in it, we never knew that was what the room was and on complaining to the owners the fan was much to the relief of mum fixed the next day, interesting to note the disposal room is also the stock room for dozens of boxes of ID expert and Mollicare as well as some Tena slips.

Oh well if I get leak at least I know which room I should head for !?

I used to go visit a friend in a nursing home that I seen so many people I like it was hard not to get aroused so I didn't stay very long he's like why don't you stay awhile

I work in a care home.

Out of 40 residents only 15 wear pads

I am lucky to work for a private company who really try there best to promote the independence and dignity of our residents

I've went to nursing homes and seen people in diapers. The odd thing is I am already confined to them, being autistic with dd developmental disability. I started having wetting accidents and my wife put me back in them.

Back in 1986 or 1987 I went to a nursing home and a lot of the people were in diapers. We were there to visit a family member. Back then nursing homes had that smell of dirty diapers.

When my sub's Mom was in the care facility she had to wear pull ups because she has accidents. It made it easier for those taking care of her to not have to cleanup after her "accidents" as often. The supplies are kept in the closet or in the bathroom. Which means one has to look to find out. I don't know if others had to as well, but would guess a few may have.

When my Dad was in his facility, we didn't see that many of the residents. But I would guess some had pull ups or diapers too. For the same reason that sub's Mom or for incontinence.

@Secret_sub I work in a care home. Out of 40 residents only 15 wear pads

I always find statistics interesting.

Going a bit off-topic, but speaking of care facilitates I was reading about "A drug-resistant and potentially deadly fungus has been spreading rapidly through U.S. health care facilities"

https://news.yahoo.com/deadly-fungal-infection-spreading-alarming-000734788.html

Like "diaperuser" said, when we were visiting my wife's great grandfather in a nursing home in Oklahoma in the late seventies the hallways smelled strongly of urine. This I think was before adult disposable diapers so I assume they used cloth diapers and water proof pants and the smell was from dirty diaper bins that were in the hallways. When my mother-in-law was in a care home and recover facility in 2005 I never smelled any trace of urine or poop, and she was in disposable diapers and most all the residents also. The care givers actually wanted the not so mobile residents to use their diapers, it was easier then taking them to the bathroom. My mother-in-law was paralyzed on her left side from a stroke.

Has anyone ever been changed while visiting a care home by a nurse or staff member?

As a kid, we had to go to the “old folks home” for Christmas plays and bullshit. I remember a very antiseptic smell. Almost too much. They were clean, and as kids we had no idea if any were wearing diapers.

I’d ask them now, but they’re all dead! 😀

I'm incontinent from my spinal cord injury at 19, and I've been fortunate enough that family got me to a point where I live in my home with just morning assistance from an aid. I discovered diapers way before I became disabled, so I've always found it pretty crazy that I wished I was in diapers since my first joy of being in them when I was 5. Then a stupid mistake in 1991 resulted in my paralysis put, leading me back in diapers. Obviously what happened to me was terrible and it was so hard, most would find it distressing. But I very quickly accepted the intensely enjoy I was getting to be in diapers because fact that I was in a wheelchair fits right in with what we all think many times in seeing somebody with a disability.

I totally love being in diapers, both for the sensation they always give me from becoming more swollen and slippery with every involuntary wetting that continues throughout the day.

Probably about two years after my injury did I have these fantasies of being cared for 24 / 7 in a facility. The idea that I get to wear diapers and they would change me every day whenever I was wet had this appealing sound to it. My visualization of such an occurrence would be having my diaper warmly changed by a kind caregiver who is comforting me during the whole thing. I'll be put in a thick soft diaper that felt super cozy. My desire for a while was so strong I remember talking to my visiting nurse when she stop by my home, and I asked her if I didn't feel safe in my house and I wanted to be put in a full-time nursing facility, would you be able to help me? And to my surprise she didn't even bat an eyelash, she straight up asked me if I wanted to her to bring the paperwork in a few days for me to sign and have me put in a nursing home. I swear I was so tempted to do it, but something made me take a step back from that for a while.

Unfortunately I've seen, particularly here in New York in recent years, that staffing is so short at many of those places they don't really have any kind of time other than to change you as quickly as possible. Also the cheap bastards that run those places use terrible quality diapers that are not very comfortable at all and have very little absorbency or capacity. So wildest fantasy I have I've been tucked away in constantly fresh fluffy diapers in a safe facility where I would be cared for every day for the rest of my life sounds really appealing, the reality would be that I would be having some lame diaper changed by an overworked caregiver that simply wanted to move onto the next patient because I have too much work to do. I'm sure it would not be what I experience outside of any place like that.

While I like to mess and wet myself caused by soap or suppositories, I sort of really don't like what the future holds for me, but in another way I wonder how they will deal with my pain killer induced constipation......any nurse types out there want to play nurse/patient while I still can ?

To ‘Diaperbound’, First, sorry about your accident. Obviously you’ve found a positive side so I hope there are few to no negative sides except the wheel chair.

Your picture of nursing facilities is too often true and depressing. However, in my role as an ent, I’ve had cause to go to quite a number of these facilities. They are not all as you describe, though probably none would live up to your ‘dream’ facility. Many of the staff work very hard not just to physically care for the residents but also to offer a smile, some friendly conversation, etc. But, yes; they are almost all overworked and almost universally underpaid.

So keep your dreams (important) and if that time comes when you feel you need such a facility may it be as close to those dreams as possible.

Lonbaby

Hi Lonbaby, thank you for writing and sharing your observations. I love the idea of everything you said, and I hope it is more often the case than what I have seen. I should acknowledge that even in the places that might not have a good reputation, there are people there that care about their job in providing care to the residents. I hope somehow through the years it continues to get better, because unless I end up with a spouse that's willing to care for me as I get old, I know one day I will be in a care facility.

I share your desire that nursing home care will continue to improve. Actually I’d like to see health care improve in our country because it is not just elderly or handicapped that get less than the best. Obviously part of it is financial. A tough one, as medical care is expensive (but it need not be as much as in our country-USA). Just read this so it is fresh in my mind-USA is ranked 10th in world health care (or industrializes nations-not sure which); England is ranked 7th. First problem ;we try to claim that USA is best world care, England is embarrassed by being 7th. Which is more likely to seek improvement. Health care in the USA costs 7 times what it does in England! Now these numbers are obviously composites and I’m sure we could find individual instances where this generality is not so.

T o answer Hannah's question. Yes I have been a few times. The first time was several years ago. I was there visiting a family member and I needed a change. I went to the desk and asked the nurse where the bathroom was. I needed to get changed. She told me to follow her. She took me to an empty room and said that she would have to do it for me. Something about the state's policy.

We plan to visit care homes, especially residents that do not get company, my caregiver contacted a few care homes and asked and of course they were thrilled, she also stated I was bladder incontinent and the floor nurse told her, don't worry we can work that out when you get here. Others said we have changing tables and family bathrooms