Insatiable sexual appetite after 30

I am now in my mid 30s and have honestly never felt hornier. When I am ovulating (which is right now!) I could masturbate or have sex all day, for days. I didn't get this way in my 20s and wonder if this is my body telling me to get a move on and get pregnant..... I just feel like my body is ripe for it....... Is this normal or am I just nympho? ?

You are NORMAL. Of course, could be normal AND be a Nympho... but either way, you're normal.

Also, it's HEALTHY to be horny.

Doc

You're a normal nympho-whore, and that should make the man of your choosing very happy.

The older I get, the hornier I get.

Sex is good, masturbation is good, do what makes you feel good.

I doubt your body is telling you to get pregnant.

The cool thing is, if your body is telling you to get pregnant and you don’t want to - you can ignore it and just enjoy the sex.

Truth to hornier as you get older. My horniest was let’s say 40 to 54. Around 55 my libido took a slight dip. Still plenty high and sex is still great but menopause does have an effect.

My wife's libido took a dip after pregnancies, when the kid was little and very demanding and tiring (and I was not too well myself). Now that they are older she's back to her routine of expecting sex every night. (There have also been dips in libido when she was working in the evenings.)

My wife's libido took a dip after pregnancies, when the kid was little and very demanding and tiring (and I was not too well myself). Now that they are older she's back to her routine of expecting sex every night.

Yeah when the kids are little you just don’t have the energy.

It is just normal,that you are so horny like you are……I am 72 now and it decreases….but in ur age it was similar…..

I am now in my mid 30s and have honestly never felt hornier. When I am ovulating (which is right now!) I could masturbate or have sex all day, for days. I didn't get this way in my 20s and wonder if this is my body telling me to get a move on and get pregnant..... I just feel like my body is ripe for it....... Is this normal or am I just nympho? ?

Being horny is probably a factor greatly influenced by your general well-being. And by that I would not only include your physical health, but also having a lack of financial, employment or relationship problems. Any kind of hardship can negatively influence your sexual drive. Anything that causes worry, even excessive negative news watching, is bad for a sexual appetite.

Notice how the very rich, affluent and successful often seem to be in the news because of their sexual appetites? That I would guess is because they have no money problems and any other problems can be bought off by money.

So I would say congratulations to you.

And I doubt very very much it has anything to do with wanting to get pregnant. My wife was never hornier and more open to lots of sex than when the child thing was out of the way and behind us. No more worries about unwanted pregnancies (despite birth control which isn't always reliable anyway).

Good comments @agracier .

I think I have a healthy sex appetite despite my age and agree outside factors are relevant. If I wake with time to do what I want, don’t have any particular concerns then I readily find myself feeling horny.

If alone then I will certainly masturbate and if with my partner then she will know we have work to do!

The only counter intuitive thought I have is that sometimes when circumstances are so exceptionally good or exciting then horniness can be relegates into second place - probably because something even better than being horny is on offer! If that is possible!!

Yeah, that's me as well. I'm now 45 and I am insatiable.

I am 75 and still horny and want sex a lot. It seems like I think of sex most of the day. Be prepare to be horny a lot.

Just a note to the cis-males sharing their experience, the OP is female. Female sexuality is VERY different than your own experience. While cis-males do experience a reduction in hormone production as they age, it’s nothing like what a cis-female experiences

72 YO and horny as ever.

@agracier I agree that outside influences have a great impact on libido.

In my case , I was disinterested in my early teens due to sexual abuse, in my later teens I became a bit more interested as I was dating my first boyfriend, and after just over two years the abuse had stopped after my mum finally believed me. Than second boyfriend did not understand “no” and proceeded to use fingers where I did not want to go. resulting in anal sex being a huge turn off for years. ( until a few months ago)

During the early years of dating and marriage with my husband I tried to have a ( what I would have considered a healthy sex life) but was turned down more often than not. that eventually caused me to stop trying after about 15 years. ( I know, slow on the upptake, should have taken the hint earlier lol)

during that time I masturbated once a week or so, sometimes going a week or 2-3 without.

Than I stumbled across Zity, hung about for a couple years under another name, left ( it became a bit too much too soon I think) but a year later I decided to rejoin, I could not remember my password so decided to rejoin under new name.

Now, with the help and encouragement of many friends I stopped eating to dull the pain inside me, started a keto life style resulting in, to date 25 kg loss.

With this weightloss my confidence has soared, I am finding myself doing things I would NEVER have thought possible, things like running my own business, traveling into London on my own, using the underground ( very reluctantly however) exercising , attending musical concerts on my own and even starting to experiment with anal stimulation.

Since my confidence has increased, an unhappy marriage is no longer a hinderance in my libido and now I masturbate at least once a day, most days.

Now in my 40s my sex drive is higher than it has ever been.

Women most desire sexual intercourse in their 30s. They have the strongest libido during those years. Fortunately, I was single during most of those years and never had to worry about whether or not I was going to have a lady most evenings.

Women most desire sexual intercourse in their 30s. They have the strongest libido during those years. Fortunately, I was single during most of those years and never had to worry about whether or not I was going to have a lady most evenings.

This is the perfect example of what I am talking about. ‘Women’ do, huh? And you know that how?

Just a note to the cis-males sharing their experience, the OP is female. Female sexuality is VERY different than your own experience. While cis-males do experience a reduction in hormone production as they age, it’s nothing like what a cis-female experiences

Just from personal experience. My cis-wife had a hysterectomy including ovaries removed in her early 30s, it was because of a pre-cancerous womb and constant ovary infections. So, physically that certainly affected her hormonal production.

Yet it was afterwards that she opened up and became much more sexually active. Nothing to sexually complain about at all before then, but afterwards she seemed to go into yet a higher sexual gear.

I attributed it to getting the whole ‘getting kids thing’ behind her, not having to worry about a possible pregnancy and also because at the time there were no financial worries at all for us, nor any things of a geo-political/social nature like a pandemic, wars on your virtual doorstep, financial/oil crises galore or more of the god-awful news we are now blessed with.

The times were simply more care free and less demanding. I find that to be quite important to achieve a calm sense of mind which is one of the best ways to induce sexual feelings in the long run.

In my wife's case, she actually a very early forced menopause and that didn't affect her sexually.

Just from personal experience. My cis-wife had a hysterectomy including ovaries removed in her early 30s, it was because of a pre-cancerous womb and constant ovary infections. So, physically that certainly affected her hormonal production.

Yet it was afterwards that she opened up and became much more sexually active. Nothing to sexually complain about at all before then, but afterwards she seemed to go into yet a higher sexual gear.

I attributed it to getting the whole ‘getting kids thing’ behind her, not having to worry about a possible pregnancy and also because at the time there were no financial worries at all for us, nor any things of a geo-political/social nature like a pandemic, wars on your virtual doorstep, financial/oil crises galore or more of the god-awful news we are now blessed with.

The times were simply more care free and less demanding. I find that to be quite important to achieve a calm sense of mind which is one of the best ways to induce sexual feelings in the long run.

In my wife's case, she actually a very early forced menopause and that didn't affect her sexually.

Illustrative of my point that female sexuality is more complicated than that of males. My comment was aimed at men speaking of their own personal sexual history vs that of a female.

Illustrative of my point that female sexuality is more complicated than that of males.

That does sound like quite the stereotype and assumption. .

Why not say that each sexuality is complicated in its own way? That is what it seems like, from reading all the accounts here. I hope you don't think that men are not just as complicated and don't have all manner of conflicting ideas and pressures, worries and social expectations about their sexuality. Because they most certainly do.

Perhaps just slightly different ones.

@agracier because I’m responding to a female that asked a question about female libido in a the section on female sexuality. I’d ask why you seem to feel compelled to make this about men?

@agracier because I’m responding to a female that asked a question about female libido in a the section on female sexuality. I’d ask why you seem to feel compelled to make this about men?

My example was about my (cis) wife and how she responded in her sexual appetites, despite also being deprived of the hormones which is the cause of menopause in older women. Just as valid an example as another.

My experience was and still is, that a good all-round life situation was an important part of bolstering a person's sexual appetite. In this case my wife's. And as secretsub also seems to report.

And I don't understand why a woman's sexuality is by definition more complicated than that of men. It may be different and difficult to communicate about, but that of a man is also complicated.

That is one doozy of a stereotype.

@Nurse Phillips Because women have told me!

@agracier you said

”. I hope you don't think that men are not just as complicated and don't have all manner of conflicting ideas and pressures,”

I responded that I’m talking about female sexuality. I never said that female desire was entirely regulated by hormones but there is more than enough scientific evidence to support menopause causes a reduction in desire for most women. I bring that up due to the plethora of men commenting on this thread ‘I’m X years old and horny as ever’. Good for you but this is about women. I’m glad your wife had an atypical response to early menopause. I’m happy for you both, sincerely.

Im making an observation. You sometimes hijack female centric discussions and bring male issues into it. I’m sure you have the best intentions. There aren’t a lot of women here and you should give them the opportunity to exchange their own experiences especially in the Female Sexuality section.

Im making an observation. You sometimes hijack female centric discussions and bring male issues into it.

How is contributing something (aka making an observation of my own) hijacking a discussion? Better to contribute something and keep it going than to not contribute at all. And as far as I am concerned, ladies are always welcome to make any observations or posts on any thread about male sexuality. Why not? I like to hear input and contributions from all genders whatsoever. Since when are sections of the website only reserved for a specific gender/sex?

And besides, my contribution boils down to one observation/notion: unhappy people of either sex do not have fulfilling or good strong sex lives.

This is a topic for LADIES to answer because it is about LADIES.