Is Giving a Blow Job more Intimate than Being Fucked

A young lady recently told me that for a woman giving a guy a blow job is a more intimate experience than him inserting his penis inside her.

Is that true ?

Is the feeling of his penis in your mouth really more intimate than his penis entering you ?

Is sucking him off more intimate then letting him fuck you ?

I'm primarily asking the Women for their inner feelings , but men are welcome to add , just let the women respond so we understand them better 😃

Thank you ladies - let's have fun ......

For me, giving a blow job is a much more up close and personal sensory experience than PIV sex. So yes, for me it could be more intimate.

Not to be too clinical, but the times where I've felt giving a blow job was more intimate than PIV sex would have involved the following:

1) the guy is encouraging/complimentary and enthusiastic, but not too enthusiastic!

2) he's well groomed, showered recently, etc

3) he uses his hands and body to show he's enjoying himself, again not too enthusiastically

4) possibly it's been a long time since we've been together, or it's the first time I'm going down on him - missed or new smells and tastes are especially intimate when they're good (see #2)

On the flip side of that, if he has his way with my mouth and throat to the point where I'm gagging, choking, and worrying I might suffocate, that too would be more intimate than PIV sex.

I think so -- it IS an even truer measure of one's devotion.

For me, giving a blow job is a much more up close and personal sensory experience than PIV sex. So yes, for me it could be more intimate.

Not to be too clinical, but the times where I've felt giving a blow job was more intimate than PIV sex would have involved the following:

1) the guy is encouraging/complimentary and enthusiastic, but not too enthusiastic!

2) he's well groomed, showered recently, etc

3) he uses his hands and body to show he's enjoying himself, again not too enthusiastically

4) possibly it's been a long time since we've been together, or it's the first time I'm going down on him - missed or new smells and tastes are especially intimate when they're good (see #2)

On the flip side of that, if he has his way with my mouth and throat to the point where I'm gagging, choking, and worrying I might suffocate, that too would be more intimate than PIV sex.

@ellesse

Thanks for your insights -

In #4 you mention , “new smells and new taste are especially intimate when they're good “

Does every penis really smell and taste different ? Smell I can see , but how would you describe the taste differences ?

I think so -- it IS an even truer measure of one's devotion.

@JONW

How so ?

How are you showing a true devotion ? You mean once you fall in love with him , only then you’d blow him ? And is sucking a random guy for the first time still showing devotion ?

Newlywed groom to his friend: "now I can get a blowjob every night"

Newlywed bride to her friend: "I have given my last blowjob"

From what I have seen in movies, TV shows, read in books and articles etc, I had the impression that, in the US at least, giving a blowjob was something that was almost a given after a few dates, a mostly non-consequential sexual thank-you. Like proverbial cheerleaders blowing a winning team.

That is at the kind of attitude that I seem to pick up, maybe perhaps from the 'always-hysterical about sex' crowd.

Which would mean that blow-jobs are far less intimate than PiV. At least that is how I deduce the social convention. After all, blow-jobs come with no (virtually) risk of pregnancy while PiV is a different matter, hence more intimate and personal.

But hey, convince me I have been interpreting the sexual conventions shown on TV and in the movies and media wrong.

I think it definitely is.

My first sexual encounter with my to be wife was oral followed by PIV sex. It was and still is incredible.

Yes, very intimate and erotic sensation and experience. I enjoy it very much!

Yes, very intimate and erotic sensation and experience. I enjoy it very much!

So do we! Thank you, Polly!

Oral sex is great - but anal sex following oral sex is more intimate for us.

Depends on the situation and variables involved.

I'd consider the first few blow jobs or rounds of oral sex in the relationship to be more intimate than sex. After you've been together awhile, I wouldn't consider it as intimate as sex any longer. It could be a scene your partner has created with you in mind to increase the intimacy one way or the other.

A rare trait I think, based on my experience. The two lovely women with this trait that I know well absolutely live for it and both can achieve orgasm from GIVING a blowjob! Incredibly intimate.

One of these ladies is a pro Dom I still stay in touch with and I married the other. Unfortunately, the one I married has dislocated her TMJ joint giving head to me multiple times so we no longer play that way.

Yes, I find giving a blowjob far more intimate that penetration.

By penetration you do not get to taste your partner for one , but far more for me is the trust a guy has to put his penis in.my mouth, that takes great trust . Afterall that is where I keep my teeth 😉

And as I eat a bag of pork scratchings a day, my teeth are very strong!

So be warned.😈🤣😇

I had a friend who enjoyed penetrative sex, but never wanted me to go down on her. I often wondered why. But then it occurred to me that maybe she thought there was a malodorous scent from periods. She later admitted to me that this was her thinking. Eye opener! Do most women think similarly?

I wouldn't say it's more intimate but it's the expressway to a man's heart! As we used to say in college, "Whoever said that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, really didn't know men at all!"

Not in my opinion. I’ve blown a lot more men than I’ve slept with.

As a woman, you’re intimately aware that any man you fuck can potentially knock you up. Even if you’re not thinking of it overtly, the possibility is there so that’s a factor. Also, you’re in control with a blown job, you’re less in control when being fucked.

@Nurse_Phillips I really appreciate your incite. I have always enjoyed the blow job almost as much as vaginal sex. When you mention having control during a blow job, well, you could not be more correct! Once a woman's tongue is on my cock, I am hers. Lol

It certainly is easier to perform fellatio on a man and as to it being more intimate than sexual intercourse I am not sure how I feel about that. I think it is because that once I have performed the fellatio that whenever I see them in public they only have to look at my face and mouth to visualize me with their penis in my mouth and sucking them until they ejaculate. They do not have to wonder or remember what I look like in the nude when they were brought to orgasm by me because my face and mouth are there and they can easily recall what we or I, did.

But those I have fellated are men that I have no problem with thinking of me that way or remembering what I did or will do. And I have seen them looking at my face and mouth and getting a smile when we meet in a public setting and I sometimes wonder if that is what they are thinking or remembering.

For me, I would say that putting a penis in my mouth is more intimate than having sex. The number of men who I have given oral sex to is less than the number of men that I've had sex with. I suppose that I was always a little shy and embarrassed about oral sex and only did it with select partners, though I do enjoy both giving and receiving.

@computerstation I don't necessarily mean that I'm dominating them or anything like that as I'm not really switchy, but look at it like this: When I let someone fuck me, I'm literally opening my legs and inviting them inside of my body. I have to be at least partially naked to do it, vs a blowjob where I don't even have to take anything off if I don't want to, I control what happens, how deep he goes etc (I'm not talking about getting face-fucked, I mean giving a BJ) and I decide where he's going to cum. I grew up that a BJ was something you did when you wanted to make the boy happy but didn't want to fuck.

I enjoy anal sex to be sure, but for me it's just about sex. Sucking my liver's penis is making love to him. It's truly intimate, especially silly when he gives me his seed.

I wonder how demographics plays into this. I'm a tail end boomer from the northern part of the US and I grew up with BJ as foreplay/alternate to sex. It looks like many with similar backgrounds feel similarly.

@Nurse_Phillips My wife was intimidated by oral sex at first, whereas she had had vaginal sex; and she's still uneasy about cunnilingus. I think there is something about feelings of uncleanliness. I read that in certain cultures the mouth is sacred, so oral sex is taboo.

I was born in the middle of the boomer generation where nice girls were supposed to wait until marriage and the rest of us either engaged in oral sex as one way to avoid getting pregnant while others chose another route to avoid pregnancy. Then there were those of us who chose both routes. But the other route is not the subject of this topic thread.

@Nurse_Phillips

I’ve blown a lot more men than I’ve slept with.

Girl, I absolutely love the frankness of your replies. I am sure that I am in the same boat but I don't know if I had the chutzpah to say it. Well I do now! LOL!

@ddell2 its easy to be blunt when you’re a) old and b) behind a keyboard 🤣🤣🤣

I think there is something about feelings of uncleanliness. I read that in certain cultures the mouth is sacred, so oral sex is taboo.

I think that in some cultures mouth hygiene is lacking and horrible. It might also depend on diet, what foods are normally eaten. Diets heavy on things like onions, garlic, leeks and the like must certainly pose problems.

So maybe some cultures 'declare' the mouth is sacred, but that may be another way of preventing people from having to perform oral sex or kissing for that matter.

Having been on the receiving end of many blow jobs, they were always initiated by the women, without me asking. I was automatically hard without it, but I wasn’t going to turn it down. It’s far less enjoyable than vaginal sex, but far more enjoyable than a hand job. Personal experience.