I play sometimes with my wife, she is a professional nurse, but does like to engage in D/s type of play, where she is mainly the sub, and when it is medical oriented, the patient. We have also reversed roles already.
But, although my wife is a nurse (not practicing anymore since over 10 years, since our youngest daughter was born), or may be because my wife is a nurse, the medical play is not really the most arousing thing for her.
She enjoys it, but I have to be well prepared, and there should not be any waiting time, as she quickly loses her excitement and her patience. For me it is the contrary: I have no problem when it takes long, also not as a patient: I like to enjoy every moment of it, and I fill in the “slow moments” with fantasizing further, and this just increases my excitement.
Especially when I experiment with something new, like some new bondage knots or ways to restrain her to my exam table, or when I prepare toys for a treatment, and I take too long, there is a risk that “the flow” gets interrupted, which then usually results in stopping the session.
It could be that I am just to much of a “pleaser”, and should take more of an attitude that I don´t care if she enjoys it or not, as long as I do, even if that would be “faked”. But somehow this goes against my nature of wanting to give pleasure and have my partner beg for more, immediately or subsequent days/weeks...
Is there any patient out there where this sounds familiar? Or any doctors that have dealt with such type of patient? Any ideas, tips how to improve such situation, or deal with it? The thought of it often holds me back to even start a session with her...