I know the question was for women, but since my wife knows nothing about this board or my participation on it, I will answer, sort of, for the three enemas she has ever given me.
The first enema was a soapy water enema from a Jones can she had to borrow from her grandmother in order to give me an enema. She seemed to enjoy giving the enema to me, even holding the Jones can up high to increase the flow and pressure of the enema. She did it several times in fact and was all smiles while doing it. However, that was the only enema she gave me where she seemed to enjoy doing it.
The other two enemas she gave me were both Fleet enemas given 30 minutes apart to prep me for a flexible sigmoidoscopy exam we were both going to have later that morning. I had to give her two Fleet enemas 30 minutes apart to prep for her flexible sigmoidoscopy exam. I have to say that I enjoyed getting my enemas and giving her those two enemas immensely and only wish the prep had been two 2 quart soap suds enemas or better yet, soap suds enemas until clear.
What changed in her I do not know for she never would give me another enema after that first one with the Jones can even after we had our own enema bag and syringe, except for the two Fleet enemas mentioned above. She did give our youngest daughter an enema with a bulb syringe one night when she was about 5 or 6 or maybe 7 years old. But that was all the enemas she ever gave in the over 50 years we have been married.
As far as I know she never used that enema syringe to give herself an enema while I was gone to work. The only enemas that I know she ever got was the labor prep enema in the Labor Room before the birth of our first child and the discharge enema they gave her the morning I went to pick her up and take her and the baby home. I walked in the room just as the nurse was pulling the enema hose out of her rectum and stood up. So I saw the end of that enema being given and that image is still burned in my mind over 50 years later. She got no enemas for prep or discharge with the birth of our second child three years after the first birth since it was a planned C-Section birth.