My new sub

As most of you know, I am naturally a submissive and I much prefer to be dominated than to dominate someone myself. I'm just not a naturally aggressive person and I don't like to hurt people. I tell people I am more into the BD of BDSM. I don't get off on hurting people or people hurting me. However, I will take on a sub occasionally. A young girl recently contacted me although we've been friends for a while now and first when I started dominating her, she thought it was too much and blocked me. She has since unblocked me and I have been dominating her again and she loves it. I show her respect, but will occasionally ask her to do things. I know that it's much harder to have an e-sub because I don't know what she's doing most of the time and I don't know if she did what she said she was doing today when we were talking. What kind of suggestions do you have for something I can do with an e-sub? She is pregnant and due in May - so nothing over strenuous. She is in her 40's - and I'm in my 30's so that's interesting. She readily admits that she's naughty and needs to be punished. She said that she will do anything for me and she just wants to please me. I just need some help because for one, she's and e-sub and for two, because I'm only a dominant 5%-10% of the time. It's draining but when my sub listens to me, it's a lot easier for me.

So, SS, I'm like you in being a switch but I really enjoy being submissive. So find out from her what are the things that a) she really likes that really turn her on, and b) things that she might find satisfying to have you make her do so she feels submissive to you. And start weaving all those things into your demands for her when you're being her Domme. But with everything you tell her to do, be in control and dominating so even if you know she likes something and it turns her on, you still make it come across that you're in control of her so she feels dominated. For example, my Domme partner used to know I loved enemas and being tied up, but she'd always make her instructions to me as domineering and difficult as possible do I'd feel like even taking an enema from her she was in charge of what I had to do. Make sense? Ask more questions as you like. Congratulations on meeting your new sub and have fun. Good luck.

Eric