When did it hit you that you were Gay or Lesbian?

My case is similar to other men who have posted here on zity.

At this point in my life, I don't have any qualms about my sexuality and how I view myself. It has been a lifelong journey and I have to say I kind of surprised myself that I am where I am today. Earlier in my life I would never have predicted where I am today.

Does your wife know or partake in your sex with men?

Does your wife know or partake in your sex with men?

Good question. And the answer is no. I have been meeting guys on a very discreet basis. I am very careful to be able to keep my occasional play very much on the downlow.

I think if it did come to surface by me telling her or me getting caught it would change our marriage or could end it. If at some point our marriage reaches a point where I felt the time was right, I might come forward and let the chips fall where they may. I am not at that point yet and would rather keep things between the two of us in a stable situation.

Growing up I kind of always felt happy around girls but didn't really understand it until puberty and then I just always wanted to be around them. I didn't consciously admit it for a long time but girls were definitely my thing.

I fooled around and slept with a few boys but I really wanted those feelings I got around girls. I opened up more easily, got flirty and chatty more easily, wanted to kiss them more freely but also push them up against a wall and finger them into blissful submission and so I did a lot of that while I was finding out all about myself.

Eventually I just wasn't pushing myself to flirt with guys anymore and girls were staying over a lot and I was having a lot of fun and trying lots of fun new things

I always thought I was a straight female loving male who married his first wife young and had sex with her every night and sometimes more. I loved enemas since puberty. I can't remember the year, but it was an article in Penthouse Forums where mention was made that men who were into enemas were latent homosexuals (not use how it was said, but that was my take on it) - that bothered me since the through doing anything with another male was abhorrent... But funny thing, after that marriage of 10 years and then a steady relations with another woman for five, and then marrying my present wife, I began to get the desire to be given enema from anyone who would really enjoy doing it. Turns our I was able to find men who were into it. The enemas led to penis play, and while I do NOT (corrected from first written) find men physically attractive, I do find it fun when they do things to me. I was in my mid-40's and that's when I realized I was bi.

The enemas led to penis play, and while I do find men physically attractive, I do find it fun when they do things to me. I was in my mid-40's and that's when I realized I was bi.

I presume there's a mistype there and you meant to say " I DONT find men physically attractive, I do find it fun when they do things to me"? If so I do wonder how many people are in this same situation or had experiences, but maybe dont even describe themselves as bi even?

Your are correct - it should have read "I do not find" ... I corrected that. But, now I have to wonder if that was a freudian slip on my part!

I had hints in my late 40's when I discovered "chicks with dicks" videos. Never experimented as a teen nor did I have urges to try. I can honestly say it was a complete surprise to me when in my early 50's I ended up sitting on the edge of the bed while a man sucked my cock. What was even more surprising was how much I liked it!

Even better was the discovery that there are a ton of men out there just like me!

When I was young in grade school, I did have an experience with another boy where we played with each other including me using my mouth on him. Through my teens and 20s I never had any desire for closeness with andother guy. I got married, had kids, worked in a female dominated profession. As I got older I began to wonder what it would be like with another man, I used to fantasize to my wife that I would love to watch her make love to another man and I would help him and then clean up his deposit. She didn't want to act on that so it remained a fantasy until I had a relationship with a couple. I became very good friends with one of the women that I worked with and I eventually got together with her and her husband to please her. It was awesome, I always cleaned her up and looked forward to doing it. They eventually got divorced and that ended that (although she is still my best friend even though we don't get together like that anymore.)

About 10 years ago I decided that I wanted to explore my sexuality and over the years I have come to the realization that I am bisexual and I am very happy with it. I guess the older you get, you become more accepting of who you are and are able to act on it.

When I was 12 and was amazed by naked guys in the showers at boarding school. The first weekend there were guys jacking off, again I was enthralled and then saw porn movies and wanted to be the girl more than the guy. Of course I was confused and in some ways still am. I like to dress and like cocks. I don't like guys. Is dressing a cover to mask gay feelings? Am I gay, not really. Sucking cocks doesn't make you gay, more bi.

I was 10 and in junior school when i first noticed i found boys much more interesting than girls. As i went through secondary school i found the boys more attractive and started to experiment with a boy, I did do what was expected and got married and had children but now i'm true to myself and its guys every time for me now

My first sexual experience was with another guy when I was 12/13 and I really loved it but I still had a attraction for girls. Through my life all of the relationships I have had has been with females but I have had more male sex partners.

Not “gay” as I understand the term. I am I think pan sexual as I can enjoy sex with with all people. I love licking and sucking on clitys. Tiny ones that are almost a hidden treasure to much larger ones easier to find like mine.

I call myself Bi as I have been married, had kids, but also have enjoyed a trist with other guys that I've hit it off with. My 1st inclination was in 5th or 6th grade when my buddy jacked me off / taught me how to masturbate. This was after we played around a few years earlier with trading enemas with each other, and my getting excited over seeing his erection. Don't ask me why, but it just came natural to play with and suck his cock. I still like big boobs, suck on nipples, and eat pussy, but a nice guy with a nice beautiful cock is good to me too.

I call myself bi since I was in real love with my best male friend and one of old people of my.

As a man I have had many experiences on both side of the fences and have had intense orgasms with girlfriends as well as men friends however men are much easier to get along with and don’t require any commitment that women like to have over you.

When I was in junior high and all of my friends were into girls and I was into them. Then when I was 14 I hooked up with a guy that was a few years older and I knew that I had no sexual interest in women.

Watching tv and seeing Robert Conrad shirtless and flippers father. I was about 10. Group showers in junior high cemented it.

I was always more interested in boys than girls from as early as I can remember, but i suppose it became obvious to me when other boys were getting girlfriends and I realised what I wanted was a boyfriend

I was in my late teens when I really started considering I might be gay. It wasn't until my early 20s when I really accepted it. Looking back I started checking out the other boys in gym class when we were changing when I was in junior high. So probably around 12 or 13 years old. I was never interested in checking out the girls.

I knew from my most early memories of feeling a need to see and be with men. it was totally natural to me always. it was only my catholic school upbringing that made me feel shameful. it didnt stop me from exploring and i am a happy horny well adjusted gay man today.

For me,it was easy!

I put his cock in my mouth, sucked on it, played with it, swallowed his cum when he came, and wanted to do it again!

I have never looked back!

I am somewhat bisexual but lean mostly toward men. I remember that being true even when I was very young, though I was not aware yet that it had a name. I was in an environment in which sexual experimenting was permitted and no one categorized me or made me feel bad about it and I was experimenting sexually from a relatively young age. But it was not until in my teens that I began realize that the crude words other people used like "homo" and "queer" applied to me.

Can't say it was "hit" - more like gradual process. I was 21, when I was deep into fem-dom, browsing Tumblr blogs, sometimes accidentally hit male-dom blogs. While browsing through male-dom, noticed, that it arouses me even more, than female-led domination, and quickly moved to "gay side" of tumblr and other porn-sites. And since I was never deep into sexual intercourse with girls (I had sex only once, on alcohol-driven campus party), I realized, that it was my orientation, that was the main cause of it, and fully accepted I am gay.

I can remember looking at Playboy/Penthouse magazines with my mates when we were 10 and having no interest in the naked women. But I was fascinated by my mates and how they reacted to the nudes. When I saw a naked man (very rare) or read about a man's physical or sexual attributes in one of the porn magazines, I knew that I was attracted to other males.

By 12, I was 95% certain I was gay. I thought there was a possibility that my invitation to the hetero party might just be delayed, and that at some point something would change and I'd develop an interest in females like the rest of my friends.

By 14, I was 100% certain.