Genital Exams and Prostate Exams by Male Doctors and Female Doctors

When I was five years old, I was an active boy who liked to go hiking, rock climbing, and fishing with my dad and friends. When I began to complain of foot pain after going hiking and rock climbing, my mother took me to a male doctor who examined my foot and told my mother that I was just having growing pains and to not pay attention to what I was reporting. He told me to not act like a baby and complain to my mother. After several days of the pain becoming worse, my mother took me to a female doctor who examined my foot, took x-rays, and reported that it was broken and needed treatment. Since then I have had both male and female doctors, and I have found that female doctors during my yearly physical would spend more time doing a thorough genital exam and rectal digital exam of my prostate. They also were gentle doing the rectal digital exam and did not cause any discomfort or pain like I had experienced with male doctors who tended to do the exam quickly and in a rough manner. I am curious as to what others have experienced with male doctors and female doctors.

I haven't had a routine prostate exam from my female primary doctor yet, but when I had prostatitis she was very gentle and kind and I really appreciated that. She's also good about listening.

I used to have a male family doctor and used to joke with his office girl about today being the day for the oo oo test. In my late 50s I had a heart attack and bypass surgery. When my insurance ran out to pay for the expensive pills I signed up with the VA where I had a gorgeous young ARNP. On the first visit she had me bend over the table and so she could give me the oo oo test. She said oo you have a nice little one. My first thought was of her view down there she was commenting on my little wrinkly thing hanging down. Then I realized she meant my prostate and I replied that I was just thinking the same thing about her finger. We had a good laugh but I always appreciated her small finger even though she did seem to have to push it in and work it around a bit to feel what she wanted. All my previous male doctors had fingers that felt like a broom handle. My new family doctor is a female too, chosen by my wife and she surpasses gorgeous and goes right to beautiful. Her finger is a pleasure also but I had to ask for it and she's never checked it again in 5 years. She came on the scene after our new health system drove my old family doc out of business so what passes for a physical from her is much less than I got before. I was used to a sit on the table naked while the doc checked everything and looked me over completely. Now all I get is a 10 second listen to my lungs front and back through my clothing and it's --- "next". She does ask if I have any pains. At 79 of course I have pains. The "growing pains" I had 70 years ago are now "growing old pains". I feel that if I had something growing where I can't feel it or see it myself I would be doomed. I guess that's what Obama meant when he said they would finance the free physicals for everyone by taking the money from Medicare. Let the old bastards die so we don't have to pay for their expensive medical care.

My mother lived to 103 without needing any serious medical care and she died because she decided to die that day. Maybe I can beat her, I'd kinda like to try for 120.

My VA ARNP retired last year. At my first meeting with the new female doctor last year her main concern was "what are you doing here?" "Why are you coming here if you have a doctor at home?" She must have asked me that 6 times as I sat there while she did nothing else but study her computer screen. This year's visit should be coming up soon so we'll see how things go this year.

Several years ago my ARNP at the VA had a female trainee with her who gave me a real old fashioned physical. After doing the finger wave while I was still standing there naked she checked me over well before I pulled them up and got back on the table for the poking and prodding. Her routine was different as my ARNP had me on the table first and she pulled my pants down while I held my ass up to facilitate getting pantsed. But she never had me naked long enough for a good look over.

Remember looking around after getting a referral to a urologist a couple years ago and thinking "they really should put pictures of their hands up to answer the question every guy has..."

Turned out that I didn't have to worry about finger size. At least at that visit.

I've only had a handful of prostate examiners. The males and their bigger fingers were a little tough to take. While the women haven't seemed as bad.

But the men performing it were among my 1st prostrate exams, while the latter ones have been mainly women. I also consider the time factor. That perhaps over time, my ass has gradually become a little acclimated to taking a finger in it.

I've only had male practitioners examine my prostate. Their hand/finger sizes have varied, I didn't notice one being more uncomfortable than another. I've never had a female practitioner examine my prostate but have had a few genital exams from a female practitioner more than 15 years ago.

My doctor is female. For wellness check , the nurse does vitals and then puts a fabric gown on table and tells me to take everything off. Dr comes in with same nurse. She does the normal checks of heart, lungs, ears, lymph nodes, etc,

Then has me stand. Tells me to lift gown and now does genitals. She begins by asking if I have any” issues “ in this area while looking. Asks specifically if any ED ( probably since I am 55). Tell her I do take citrulline pycnogenol, and arginine. Asked me what caused me to take, I reply for “ firmer erections”. She asks if it works, I say yes. ( I notice very hard erections all night long)

She Pulls down on penis, retracts what circumcised foreskin I have. Looks in urethra, . Lifts up testicles and feels . Then has me cough while pushing finger up into groin on both sides.

Then says “lm going to now examine your rectum and prostate”. “ please face the table and lean over it with your chest down resting on the table.And now move your feet apart about shoulders width”. I bend over feeling quite vulnerable. “You will feel some cool gel. Please take some deep breaths and relax your anus.

With that, she was in! Slowly twisted her finger around. Then said “ I am now going to put some pressure on your prostate. She swept her finger across and pressed down several times. Asked me if any pain, had none.

She said all was good and handed me some tissues. Said my prostate was a bit enlarged but not a real issue for my age. When I was getting dressed I noticed some clear fluid drops from penis. Probably prostate fluid.?

Having spent 20 years in the service I have had many exams, the first prostate was my "over 40" exam. went to the clinic on post for what I thought would be a routine exam and found out what invasive was at the time lol. The nurse did my vitals and told me to undress and wait for the dr to come in, not my first time with a female doctor but a first for prostate check. After going from head to toe she told me to remove my gown and stand in front of her. She examined my penis pulling on it and looking at it closely then the hernia check and feeling of my testicles. she smiled and told me turn around and lay across the table, she had to check my anus and prostate. After assuming the position she told me to relax and opened my cheeks looking up my backside, she then slid a well lubed finger in my bottom and moved it around for a few seconds. when she was done she told me to stand up and turn around. A bit embarrassed as I had quite the erection when I did turn to find her sitting there looking at me like nothing was going on. I now only see female doctors

Wow, Adventure10 you get all that with a "wellness" check? What part of the country do you live in? I gotta move. I feel lucky to get more than a steth over my clothing in a couple places. I get a DRE only if I ask for it and I get the feeling she thinks I like her finger up my ass if I do. Maybe it's because I hardly ever have anything wrong with me so they don't want to waste time but at almost 80 I would expect they might want to check a bit closer. She does have the results of a blood test to look at so maybe if that's OK they don't feel they need to look closer.

Roscoe, have to say that at 80 they're not likely to go looking for stuff if it will likely be 10 years before it kills you. Had a number of grandparents where the doctor couldn't be bothered to investigate things he should have as well. Never admitted to the family why, but my guess is he figured "why bother".

I've had a genital and/or hernia exam by 5 male doctors and 2 female doctors that I can remember. The only difference I've noticed between them are that the females have been prettier than the males... although one female was only marginally prettier than the males. ? All exams have been relatively gentle, pain free, and really embarrassing. The only rectal exam I've ever received was by a male doctor. He was quick (a good thing), gentle (as much as you can be considering he's sticking his finger in my butt), and pain free. So no, I don't think in general male doctors give rough exams and females give gentle exams. I think they both give the best they can at that given moment.

Four days ago I had an over 40 physical exam with my friends Dad Wayne whom I have known since I was a kid but who had never been my Doctor. I needed a check up as I have signed up to do a half marathon and wanted to ensure I was fit enough. When I couldn't get any appointment at my Doctors surgery Wayne said he could check me over. He said as I was now 42 he could do a full over 40 well male exam for me if I wanted so I agreed. I wasn't sure how thorough it was going to be. He had He did all the usual checks then put on a pair of gloves, had me undress to my underwear and lie down on the table and palpated my stomach. He was very chatty throughout asking me about what i had been up to amd so on. He moved lower down my abdomen and checked my femoral pulses. He then said OK Buddy it's the not very nice part now. Can you lower your underwear for me. It was quite surreal and I did feel quite awkward having known him for so long however I did as he asked. He moves back to the table and examined my penis and then my testicles. I just stated up at the ceiling throughout. He told me I was doing great and that he was almost done. Once he stopped I thought that might have been it but he said those dreaded words. Lie on your side and bring your knees up to your chest. He examined my prostate which was a really weird sensation. I was so glad when he said he had finished lol

I have had genital and prostate exams done by both male and female providers. Both have always been professional. The only difference that I have noticed is that when the male doctor's gave me the exam they were more matter of fact, direct and to the point. Where when the female providers have done it they were a little more compassionate about it, making sure that I was comfortable with them doing it first. I have only had it done by two different females. The first time I was still fairly young and she knew how nervous I was about getting it done. She went out of her way to explain everything, even showing me illustrations in a couple of books that showed the whole process. The second time was just a year ago and she was very easy going about the whole thing. Very laid back and patient taking her time telling me that it was no big deal that it was just part of it and then when it came time for her to check my prostate offering to let me decide how I wanted her to do it, either laying on my side or bending over the exam table. No male doctor has ever given me a choice they have always told me how they were going to do it. That is really the only difference I have noticed is that the females have been a little more laid back and compassionate. I don't really have preference it has always been done professionally no matter who has done it. The two female providers seemed to be a little more understanding and sympathetic that has been basically the only difference.

As a woman I’ve noticed the opposite. With a few exceptions, I’ve found male doctors more gentle and considerate during a pelvic than a female doctor. There’s a lot of discussion going on regarding the need for pain relief during female exams and procedures. The prevailing theory tends to be that the belief that it’s not necessary is rooted in misogyny, which it may well be. That said, I find I’m more likely to get some kind of anesthesia from a male doctor than a female.

@Nurse_Phillips Some lady friends of mine have criticized female doctors for their tendency to ignore pain or give insensitive / unsolicited opinion or advice based on the fact that they are women too so they know how it goes. I've not inquired about the details.

I have had exams by both. To me, it seems that females are more thorough, gentle, and patient. Reading @nursephilips answer, I find it interesting that it is the opposite for her. It seems that when the doctor is the same gender as the patient, they seem more abrupt because they know what they can take. After all, no matter how many penises a female doctor deals with, or how many vaginas a male doctor examines, they will never know what it is to actually have them.

Whenever I have a choice I prefer female doctors but a finger up your butt is unpleasant no matter who does it.

Id say female doctors are a bit more gentle but really doesn't matter to me since it only takes a few minutes