Sub will be over tonight!

My new sub will be spending 2 nights with me next weekend. She's wanting harsh punishments (and pleasure too of course). I have a good idea of what I want to do and what she is excpecting. But I'd like some ideas from you guys as well. Maybe some pictures of your ideas. If I like them they will find their way into her folder on here.

As a potentially very severe Domme and very trusting submissive to whom I will submit, I always look out for the submissive, especially new ones to a dom. What they THINK they want and what they SAY they want don't always turn out to be WHAT they want when it is happening.

If you are entertaining a new submissive and you are asking for advice on what to do because you don't have ideas of your own about what to do, whatever you do, DON'T INJURE HER.

I'm sure you already have some of the basics planned: spankings/paddlings/strappings; nipple and pussy clamps; ball gag/blindfold and other restraints.

I like to make sure I include a period of teasing/orgasm denial with a punishment if she can't control herself; an enema with a release in front of me; peeing in front of me; a butt plug and diaper for an entire night while she has to satisfy me with her tongue several times during the night whenever I wake her.

Let me know how it goes!

Maybe I'm just an overly cautious and thorough sub, but before I meet a guy for a little bondage fun, I send him an email that outlines my previous experience, my likes and dislikes, and my soft and hard limits. Has your sub done something similar? Or have you had those conversations with her? I would think that just talking about what she likes and doesn't like would be very helpful.

What about me, Mommy? It would be completely humiliating if you told everyone what you plan to put me over your lap and do to me.

Anyone have any good ideas for me to use on my sub. I've got several but want some good ones that I will use. She wants to do a spy interrogation thing.

What they THINK they want and what they SAY they want don't always turn out to be WHAT they want when it is happening.

Listen to SwitchableSusie. Whatever you plan to do, be prepared to modify those plans based on what's happening in the moment. It's that old saying "their eyes are bigger than their stomach"

When deciding what to do with your sub, think about what you like receiving and if you don't like it, don't make her do it.

You can do a lot of things not too invasive. Even putting a plug in then putting her nose in the corner can be hard for her. You can tell her that she will get something if she moves her nose before she is released. 10 minutes of corner time can seem like forever, especially if you fig her too.

If into D/s relationship, may I suggest some Domestic Discipline? I think as soon as she arrives, take her to the kitchen where you already placed an armless chair in the middle of the room. Take her by the arm and then sit down. If she is wearing a dress, have her stand in front of you with her hands on her head. As she stands there, reach up under her dress and work your fingers between the elastic band and her body. Explain to her that she must abide by the rules and explain to her that bad girls get spanked, bare bottom, over my knee. At the same time explaining the rules have her look down into your eyes as you slowly slide the panties down to her knees. Then guide her across your lap. Once she is snugly across your knees, hold her down in position with your left arm then begin the punishment spanking over the dress. After about twenty or so spanks, stop and rub her buttocks. Then slowly lift the dress up exposing her already red buttocks. Let the air cool them down and then start the spanking in Ernest. Administer about fifty good hard spanks until she tears up. Ask her if she understands the rules and abides by them. Release her and have her on her knees in front of you. Then explain to her that she must be made pure inside and out. Inform her that you will be administering a series of good warm soapy enemas, filling her up the maximum. If she complains in the slightest, keep the wooden paddle close by. This is just for starters, an ice breaker.

Just curious about this, as I'm a switch and usually only deal with other switches as GF's. It sounds like you might sort of introduce yourself to her as her Dom by, among other things, giving her a series of introductory large enemas. So how do you decide on: a) what to give her and b) how much to give her, as she'll almost undoubtedly start telling you she's hurting and too full very soon after starting? Just based in what solutions and volumes you can tolerate yourself? As someone said, you certainly don't want to injure her, but probably just stress her a bit so she'll be wondering/worrying about what's next. Thanks,

Eric