Ever felt embarrassed to undress in front of a date?

For the longest time I felt embarassed to undress in front in front of a date.

You see I had been seeing this lady for some time and she asked me to take her home. Well, one thing lead to another and we got it on. Afterward, she told me that it was great but, "Never in th history of man, has one guy, gone to such lengths to please, and done so much, for so long, with SO LITTLE!"

That gave me an inferiority complex and I found a new lady and we both undress for bed!

My first time (for intercourse) was with a married woman (FWIW, she said she was leaving him, and she did.) In my dorm room. With broad daylight streaming in through the curtains.

I had been naked with girlfriends before, but almost always in low lighting, undressing each other. "Deanna" had come up to my room, saying we'd only be kissing (married, remember?)... but she got so turned on that she soon jumped off the bed and said, "That's IT. I want to take my clothes off!" (Well, could YOU have stopped her?)

Deanna stripped to her panties, and let me look at her. She was even lovelier than I had imagined.

She came back to bed, where I was waiting (shirtless), and she said we still didn't "have" to do anything more than kiss and hold each other. But after another ten minutes or so, she told me, "I want you to stand over there, where I just was, and take off your pants. I want to see everything."

I'd never had a woman (unless you count nurses) watch me strip, before. And she was very attentive. I knew she'd been with other men before her husband, and I wasn't sure how I'd "measure up"... but I took a deep breath and pulled down my pants and underwear at the same time. I was rock-hard from having been next to her, and fortunately, I had been working out with weights for more than a year... My legs and hips as well as my chest and back (which she'd already seen.)

"You're *beautiful*!" she said. She held her arms out.

Five more minutes in her arms, and she was thoroughly wet. She pulled down her panties (a beautiful blonde bush over exquisite pussy lips!) and said, "I want you inside me."

I never felt shy about stripping for a woman, again. Aside from my misgivings about her being married, she was a perfect partner for my first time.

I've never really been shy about being undressed in front of anyone since I was about 12. I got involved in masturbating with a couple of buddies around that time and after the first time I was cool with being exposed although it took a while to be comfortable taking my pants off with an erection for some reason. Soon got over with feeling weird about it. Never undressed in front of a female til i was a junior in high school. When I was in college I was in several group sex situations that were somewhat uncomfortable but overcame it and enjoyed the activities. I'd do it now if the opportunity ever presented but I doubt it will. More is the pity.

I am not really very modest and as I child my parents, occasionally played around with nudism. But when I am totally bare and my BF is fully dressed I feel embarrassed. To be honest I kind of like the feeling. I guess it makes me feel like a little girl again.

It can be very embarrassing to undress in front of someone new -- a new play partner, or a couple that is going to be giving you an enema. You kinda know what's coming, and that's the point of no return.

Shame is a powerful emotion.

Is there a single discussion of shame somewhere here? It seems like a main motivator for so many of us....

So well stated by @EJM.

Embarrassment is a hugely powerful and exciting factor for me (and some of the women I’ve dated, though not all). No matter how many times she’s taken my temperature rectally, my heart still races and my skin tingles and my gut clenches when my girlfriend begins to pull my underwear down to expose my bottom. Let alone when her fingers open my cheeks. My face burns with shame but it’s SO GOOD.

It can be very embarrassing to undress in front of someone new -- a new play partner, or a couple that is going to be giving you an enema. You kinda know what's coming, and that's the point of no return.

Shame is a powerful emotion.

Is there a single discussion of shame somewhere here? It seems like a main motivator for so many of us....

@EJM go to the search function and search the discussion titles for the word SHAME. There are several discussions that address shame.

@EJM I would so love to get an enema in front of other klysmos. I'd like to be able to make it to an eFest and be a model for a demonstration.

First GF she was 16 I was 17 ½ and after one date we ended up at my house my parents were divorced my father worked in LA we lived in OC southern CA so it was at least an hour drive home he got home late everyday. My siblings all moved out of the house as they were older lived out of state. She was kind of a slut at HS but wanted my chance to have sex as soon as we got in the room we started kissing and the cloths came off no embarrassment at all. My wife when we first met she would wear a bra while we had sex because she didn't like the way her breast looked naked. She would not even undress except when she got out of the shower which was strange, but after a year she quit doing that.

I used to be shy and embarrassed being naked in front of anyone at younger age when the sense of modesty came in, but masturbated with my cousin at teen age. Later my first time with a girl, I was bit shy again, but later on in life was never shy to be naked with girlfriend or wife.

I finally went to a nude beach in FL, had an absolute blast, loved it!

no shyness for this kid any more!

I was very shy until I was 50 and got into enemas. The first time I went to an enema nurse I almost backed out because of my shyness. But after that first session with a lovely lady enema nurse, giving me several enemas, my shyness was gone. Over the next several years I had sessions with about 10 enema nurses, some multiple times, and I had 3 enemates. Never shy after that first one.

Getting (un)dressed in communal dressing room at the pool, I have no trouble.

Dressing and undressing in changing room at work, no problem.

But undressing in front of someone, for the purpose of them seeing my body/ looking at me. THAT I do find extremely embarrassing yet arrousing.

This took place more than forty years ago. I had been having a kind of ''just friends'' relation with a very smart language student for about three years. Maria was really my dream girl. Blonde with long hair, an angel face with deep blue eyes. She herself was ashamed of her body, juging it too skiny. We had long discussions about books, films and art, even politics, and we enjoyed them very much. I was so impressed by her knowledge and her culture. We loved to be together.There had never been anything sexual in our relation, but I was more and more attracted by her. I wanted to find an opportunity to tell her I wanted something more carnal between us.

Eventually on a saturday evening, after a day in various museums, we were having tea at her place. I had decided I would ''speak'' to her when I had drunk my cup. And so I did.

I just said : ''Maria, I want to make love with you''. I insisted: ''I want to have sex with you''

First, she had a strong negative reaction. She said: ''You are not supposed to say such things''. But she relatively quickly calmed down. We had a long conversation. She admitted she was touched by my initiative and she did have strong feelings for be. She finaliy agreed to the idea of having sex, and to do it this very evening. But she insisted that would be on her terms. So, she declared : ‘’ You want to have sex, OK, then take off your clothes, all your clothes''.

I was more than happy about this outcome, but I asked Maria: ‘’ And what about you ? When will you take off your clothes ? ‘’. ‘’ Later, she answered, you first, you know I don't like my body,…but I am sure you will be very handsome when you get naked''.

I started to take off my clothes and I felt a bit embarassed, as it was the first time I was doing such a thing in front of Maria. I was not very proud of my body. I knew I was not very muscular and rather skinny like Maria herself. And suddently, I realised something incredible and very disturbing. I was supposed to have sex with Maria and I did not even have an erection. I stood, wearing only my pants, in front of my girlfriend. I tried to gain some time and asked again Maria: ‘’ And what about you ? Are you going to take off your clothes ? ‘’ . Maria was getting impatie GTnt. She insisted: ‘’ Drop your pants, I am sure you have a nice cock".

I still had no erection. I was feeling more and more embarassed. And ridiculous, I had asked a girl I had dreamt of for months to have sex and I had nothing else to offer her but a flaccid chillike penis. I was thinking she was going to throw me out of her place, for ever…..

I eventually droped my pants. Maria asked me to stop to cover my cock. I obeyed. She had a big smile. Was she a sadist ? I tryed to justify myself. “ I am so sorry, …I love you so much, …I am so excited,…that why I have this problem…''

Still smiling, Maria interrupted me: ''Don't you worry, this is just what I wanted. For me, love has to be something nice and gentle, something tender. I like so much to see your… ( she hesitated on the word to use) penis like this, so cute, so nice. Had you exibited a huge cock, just ready to fuck, I would have kicked you out. Now, I like it and I am sure your penis will be working fine when we will actually make love"

I was relieved, but I was convinced I would never understand women's psycology. Maria took my penis in her hand. She started to carress it and she asked my permission to retract my foreskin. It felt so good, but I still did not have an erection. Maria then palpaped my testicles, still so tender and nice.

Then, Maria stood up and asked me to kiss her. It was the most sensual kiss I ever experimented. Her hands 'pressed on my naked buttocks and I did the same to her though her clothes. And suddently the miracle took place. I felt my penis growing and getting long and hard.

Maria interrupted our kiss for a moment and said : ‘’ Now, you are hard, and I like it because I did it''.

My first time with another guy i was wearing panties (which he knew) but was still completely embarassed to drop my pants in frony of him.